Imagine the most incredible version of yourself. Close your eyes and picture her. What does she look like? Smell like? How does she laugh? What’s her energy like? What type of house does she live in? How does she feel everyday? How does she react when shit doesn’t go right? Now you’ve got the vision. Keep reminding yourself of it each day by closing your eyes, and connecting with this vision. Write it down. Because what you’ll start to see is that you will start to become the most incredible version of yourself that you imagined.
Anonymous asked:
Advice for autistic women in this world?
Hey sweetie, I can only give advice on what I’ve lived. If any followers have advice please drop below xoxo
Anonymous asked:
do you ever feel regret over choosing your college major but have to tunnel through it due to sunk cost fallacy? rn, i’m experiencing such major regrets over my cs major and want something more mathematical than this.. i’ve had these doubts after freshman year but i just sticked with my degree bcus i thought i just needed to tough myself out. now, i’m in my 2nd year and deeply regretting not listening to my gut. i want to change my course but i’m afraid of the financial setback it’ll cause to my parents, social judgments and uprooting my whole community. do you have any advice on how i can navigate through this? should i just suck it up and finish it?
Hey sweetie, yes my entire degree i felt like i wanted to leave. I struggled so much, but it turned out to help me a lot with my career. I was always an art student but ended up on a Marketing degree, in hindsight I wish I choose something more artistic. But I stuck it out, was it the right decision? Yes for me career, yes for job opportunities, yes for finances. For my soul? No, it was terrible.
I hope this helps!
Quit the emotional labour when it comes to men, quit carrying the conversations, quit leading the connection, quit being the container in which he sits. This dynamic allows the man to be in his feminine and you as the woman to be in your masculine. It feels off because you’re going against nature. It’s not who you are, it’s anxiety inducing, it’s draining and it’s exhausting. So here’s the hot take, do you step back and lean into your feminine, do you allow him to be the earth that cradles your wild ocean? Do you allow him to become your protector peace, and biggest cheerleader? Or is carrying the connection and feeling depleted by every relationship your ultimate goal?
Anonymous asked:
Hello🤍 I don’t know if you remember me, but maybe you do. I told you earlier this year about my close friend who got cheated on multiple times by her boyfriend but still continued to be with him. We didn’t really talk since July. I texted her twice the last time was in October I asked how she is and she told me that she got sick but wants to meet again if she feels better. I said that I would be happy if she reaches out. Since then there is no contact. I know that I was maybe a little bit too harsh on her because I didn’t let her be delusional about the situation with her boyfriend. It feels like I lost a friend just because I wanted something better for her. Like she choose someone who clearly said in her face that he doesn’t see a future with her and that he loves someone else. I even asked her what she loves about him to understand what she sees in him. She could barely say one thing, that he is funny??? I mean should I have told her to be with him despite it all and tell her like her other friends that “all men are shit” and she should still fight for him.
I miss her. We know each other our whole lives. We basically grew up together, so she is like a sister to me. I don’t know what to do.
Hey sweetie, I feel your pain. The truth is everyone is on their own path, it’s a tough pill to swallow especially with people we love. Watching them self-destruct, do things we don’t agree with can be heart-breaking but there are two options. You either be by her side and support her as she is clearly struggling if she is choosing someone who hurts her. Or you love her from a distance.
Have you let her know you miss her, and it hurts you to see her hurt and you only want the best for her? Sometimes our care is projected as annoyance, or irritation when underneath its actually just love for the person.
Other suggestions, praying. Sending love, light, healing and restoration to this friend. There is so much power in sending healing energy to those in need. It softens your position from harshness to care, and allows you to support from a distance.
If anyone has any other suggestions please drop them below xoxoxox
stumbled across this old piece of writing.. should I continue?
The shift. The shift. The shift. It happened when I started to see myself as a daughter of the most high. I started to protect my energy like it was worthy of protection. I became inaccessible. No you can’t spend the whole fucking evening with me so I can stroke your ego and you can feed off my pure energy. Those days became a thing of the past. I chose myself. But it didn’t happen overnight. I had to stumble, I had to feel the pain of rejecting myself, of putting him first, of putting her wishes above mine. It burned inside deeply. Being screwed over, time and time again. Until I learnt to protect my heart. But the falling and rising had to happen. Like a baby that keeps tripping up, until eventually she learns to walk. She gets off the floor, no longer in the gutter. On her face. Crying. Stumbling. Living life is no fun this way, it never was. You just didn’t know how to walk. Some women spend their entire lives not able to walk, spending more time on the floor, constantly picking themselves up. I was that woman. The cycle felt endless and painful. The straw that broke the camels back? The man that was supposed to help me walk fucking pushed me over. It wasn’t like a big hands on back, fly on the floor push, it was subtle, like a snare. It was as if his hand was gently pushing me down as I was almost on my feet. With him I was never fully standing, but because he was there, it seemed like he was helping me to my feet. But he wasn’t. A trusted guide, a trusted friend. A man who claimed to be ’spiritual’. And that’s the thing with spiritual men. You think they’re on your side. But when I studied the life of Jesus I became aware it was the spiritual men, the ones who claimed to be of God that were the most judgemental and declared for Jesus to be crucified. Something the bible has taught me. Spiritual men are NOT to be trusted. It’s in black and white. 2000 years ago advice. So getting back on my feet. It was between me and God. I had to listen to my body. I had to remove myself from leeching men. My purification removed me from spaces and environments that I would be vulnerable to. No alcohol...
The book isn’t going to happen unless you LOCK IN. The business isn’t going to take off unless you own your time like a beast. You need to realise that all this nonchalant attitude of wishing and hoping is not going to bag you the life of your dreams. So no, you can’t expect results if you’re not prepared to sow your seeds. That requires action. Hands dirty, feet in the ground. So are you gonna keep researching, scrolling, and dreaming about this life you desire or are you gonna go GRAB your life by the balls and start taking action? Daily action, putting in reps, writing lines each day, posting content daily or doing whatever it is you need to do to move the needle. Because move the needle tasks are how you get ahead in life. And this is how you sculpt your life into something beautiful, taking time each day to create something made of your wildest dreams. So here’s the hack… everyday is your opportunity to LOCK IN through aligned action. Let’s go.
Anonymous asked:
Honestly I am tired about the fact that I don’t seem to be anyone’s first priority. People are willing to spend more time on other people.
It pisses me off that autism is given as a reason for people to hate me.
Hey sweetie, the question I would ask is are you your own priority? Do you put you first, your needs, your dreams, your desires. Do you make time for you, for what’s in your heart?
I know it can be hard, in my experience friends have put new relationships above me and it burnt for a while, until I started focusing on myself. Others are completely at their own free will. You want to be around people that choose you, so it starts with you.
Create a new story, don’t let this be your belief.
Life will always be a mirror. Start choosing yourself and watch how others will start choosing you.
Xoxox
Disturbed peace for financial gain is not abundance. Becoming who you no longer respect to gain financially is not abundance. If you have to work a job you hate that goes against your soul (even though the pay is hitting) are you truly abundant? If you gossip and surround yourself with lack minded people, are you truly abundant? You might equate numbers in the bank to wealth and abundance but there are PLENTY of people who feel lack despite being “rich” so it’s important to have a clear definition. What does abundance mean for you? Abundance of health, abundance of time, of peace, of joy, of healthy relationships? Once you define your meaning, you’ll start to see how your life shifts. You’ll start to realise your meaning of abundance is unique to you, and this is your blueprint.
litdawndiaries asked:
lost myself a bit this year. too much has happened - like way too much to the point where it’s unbearable and i’ve just lost myself. do you have any advice on what to do? bc tbh, not trying to make it deep, but i don’t even want to keep going anymore. i used to be this disciplined go getter, exercising every day, journaling every night, eating healthily, making gut shots and green juices girl at the beginning of the year. since may, my life has just had so many battles thrown in, and now i’m depressed and just trying to make it to the next day, rotting and not doing any of that. i feel awful that i’ve lost myself. and idk how to get myself back. do you have any advice? thank you in advance. ♡.
Hey sweetie, okay in this situation your journal is going to be the thing that picks you back up. You start writing about what’s hurting you, you set your body free from carrying the weight of it all. You write about who you want to be, what you want your life to look like, you keep writing. The thing about the journal and you, is that this is your connection with self. This is where you get to become your own best friend, and pick yourself back up through the kind words you write to yourself. Write everything you need to hear right now. Give yourself the advice you need. It’s all there, inside of you, waiting for space to be heard. You hold every answer.
xoxox
November 1st
One thing I know for sure is that if your life is being shaken up, you’re jumping onto a new timeline. The job loss, the betrayal, the heartbreak. The destruction was the undoing. The painful lessons, so you can learn once and for all to stay away from that type of man, to know never to work that type of company again, to avoid those types of people. It’s all for your best interest. And this is how you win, because you’re not the victim anymore. You see all the suffering as ammunition. It’s actually pruned you to grow to new heights. So welcome the shaking, because everything that remains during that time is what is meant for you, and everything that falls apart had no place in your life. So trust in the change. ~Your next level is already here.