Do u get hard from hurting me be honest (say yes say yes say yes please say yes say yes plseas pleae)
It’s okay to have fantasies that you would never want to do in reality. It’s okay to have fantasies that you don’t want to do with other people. It’s okay to try things in real life and decide you only like them in fantasy. It’s okay to only like certain things in certain contexts. You don’t need to prove anything to anyone. You are not any less valid in your kinks if you enjoy the idea of them more than the reality.
If you think asking for consent is unsexy, you are not only making safety much more difficult to achieve, you are missing out on some wildly hot concepts, such as:
- Making your flustered sub ask for what they want
- Making them ask for very clearly for what they want and then reminding them through their cries that this is what they asked for
- Asking if they need to stop so you can make them beg you not to stop
- Asking if they’re okay so you can turn it into pointing out how dumb and subby they’ve gotten
- Slowing down and telling them to show you how bad they want it
- Telling them if they want x, they better do a good job of y for you
And so many more!
Life is too short to have sex you don’t like. Be gross, be weird, don’t do it at all if it’s not for you. Expand your definition of sex. Remove yourself from things that don’t feel good. Find positions and kinks and toys that work for you. Don’t let anyone tell you that sex needs to happen a certain way or happen at all. Orgasms are optional. Involving your genitals is optional. Everything is optional. Do what you like to do and respect what other people do and don’t like to do. Good sex doesn’t make you feel bad about yourself. You deserve to have pleasure in ways that work for you.
dont worry, i'll be hot and funny again as soon as i'm done fighting for my life right now
“I could probably write an entire post on good dirty talk.” please do 🙏🏻
Ok bet, welcome to Dirty Talk 101 with Professor Cala. I am going to answer this question from the perspective of “I am fucking someone, being fucked, or leading up to one of those things. What do I say and how do I say it?”, cause there’s a lot more stuff beyond that, and I only have so much space and brain cells!
I really love toxic degradation. Tell me you’ll leave if I’m not entertaining enough. Make me beg you to stay. Tell me if I degrade myself enough, you might keep me. Condition me to believe that I can’t live without you, and then use it against me to make me do the most humiliating things you can think of. Use my insecurities against me. Make them worse. Make me completely dependent on your approval and then abuse it. I want to be a broken little doll who is obsessed with fulfilling all of your sick desires.
For some reason I'm obsessed with CNC where the victim is forced to beg for it because they're being threatened with significantly more pain, humiliation, or embarrassment if they don't.
"beg for this ass beating, bitch. Say "spank me please" or else you're getting put back in the cage."
"If you don't fucking beg me to fuck you in the ass I'm going to really hurt you, bitch"
"If you don't beg to tongue me right now I'm going to post that video of me using you online."
"Ask nicely to give me throat unless you want me to whip you again."
Do you have any tips for a Dom wanting to learn how to be a better Dom to his Submissive? I’m a beginner and would love some advice on things I could do / tones of voice to speak in / phrases I could use to get her off. I love her and want to make her feel good, wanted, desired and sexy, to properly make her feel like the best little sex toy she wants to be for me.
I do! Rather than talking about specifics though, I’m going to talk more about the process, bc a) I don’t know your situation and b) knowing how to work the process will serve you better long term.
i get so addicted to ruins when i'm denied. i love rubbing my clit just to take my hand away at the last minute and feel my needy cunt contract around nothing while the frustrating and disappointing feeling of the ruin happens. i love how my hips involuntary start humping and i cry out "no" as i feel all the pleasure that built up slip away and there's nothing i can do to stop it. i love how completely and totally unsatisfied i feel, how my clit and cunt just keep begging for more and more and more 🥵🥵
I’m so obsessed with the idea of someone deliberately trying to make sex painful & uncomfortable for me. Not letting me touch myself. Putting me in positions that cause the most discomfort. Reminding me that it’s supposed to hurt, that it makes them feel good to hurt me, and don’t I want to make them feel good? I want to thank them through my tears for letting me suffer for them, thank them for hurting me, and watch them cum inside my broken, bruised body.
I love all those dumb flirty things you do with people when you haven’t fucked yet but you’re definitely going to. Like “let’s compare hand sizes!” but we’re both thinking about your fingers inside me. Making fun of me for being short and I know you’re thinking about how easy it would be to pin me down while you fuck me. All the times of calling each other cute but we really mean “I’m going to get off thinking about you later”. I love the anticipation of it all 🥰
We got to do it again! ❤️
He hit me harder when I begged him to stop. He hit me until I was sobbing and flinching and apologizing over and over again. I don’t think I’ve ever cried that hard during sex. It was so scary. Even the few times I soft safeworded, knowing he would listen, didn’t stop me from being absolutely terrified of what he would do to me. And when he fucked me, it hurt. He was digging his hands in my hips, squeezing and pulling and twisting just to hear me cry more. But I was so relieved he wasn’t hitting me anymore. He said I got tighter when he hurt me, so I can’t really blame him for the marks he left while he was using me. I’m just happy I was a good enough victim for him that he came inside me.
He kept slapping me in the face over and over and telling me not to flinch, and if I did, he would just hit me again. And it got to the point where he was holding me, and my brain was so fucked up that every time he would move his hand, I would flinch, and then realize what I did and start crying. And I’d calm down for a second and he’d do it again and I’d go back to crying. It was so hot. He was so hard the entire time, watching me suffer. I can’t wait to do it again.
What are you looking for on here
At this point, I just come on here for the sheer enjoyment of writing about sex, and looking at things that I and other people have written about sex. I’ve been here a long time, and that’s the only thing that has really sustained me. I’m not interested in finding partners on here, and I’m perfectly content with the quiet enjoyment of being mutuals with people. I don’t need any more than that.