helispark

i've had this queued for an entire year, the most important holiday we celebrate here in boston HAPPY GREAT MOLASSES FLOOD DAY EVERYBODY

writerlyn

The idea of “but everyone knows that” needs to stop.

I saw a post about someone chiding Millennials for not knowing about JKRowlings transphobia, and asking how it is at all possible that people can exist in the world and the internet and, you know, not know.

Which I mean, I get. It is so present in so many of my online spaces that it seems astounding that someone could simply be ignorant! It feels impossible!

But let me tell you a story:

I went on a girls trip with a bunch of friends. All of us are rather incredibly liberal and all of us are incredibly online.

One girl would not stop talking about Harry Potter.

At one point, another girl asked her why she was ok with supporting it, and she had no real clue that JK Rowling was at all transphobic. She had heard that she likes to support Lesbian causes and thought “oh ok cool!” And that was it. She was AGOG with the news and rather horrified.

I must once again emphasize that she was an incredibly online person. She’s a foodie and a restaurant blogger.

Later in the trip we were picking restaurants and I suggested one I found on Google, and she gasped at me. Actually gasped, asking how I could ever be okay picking that one.

The shock must’ve been on my face, because she then told me all of the shitty things that restaurateur does. He abuses staff. Underpays them. Fires them on a whim. Is known for being one of the worst people to his employees in the entire restaurant business on this coast.

And she was so shocked I had never heard of this. Because in her mind, I was just as online as her. And in her online world, EVERYONE knew about this guy.

So I think the moral of this story is: always approach the other person with some empathy. Even online people, even people you think MUST know about how bad people are, may not have heard. It may truly be just them being on a different sphere of the internet than you.

So be gentle, be kind when letting people know they might not have heard about the cancellation of XYZ person. Don’t assume that everyone knows all the same info as you.

By all means, let them know so they can make informed decisions, but being kind will go a lot further than attacking them for some info they might not know yet.

psychotic-gerard

as a smoker one of the fastest way i dissuade people from smoking is i go you know how your headaches suck. imagine a permanent headache that slowly gets more and more expensive to cure and also you cant stop coughing in the middle of all of this. yeah? this sucks.

psychotic-gerard

i have said this before but end stage liver failure did not dissuade me from starting opiates. what dissuaded me was someone telling me "do you want to be itchy for the rest of your life? this is how you be itchy for the rest of your life."

psychotic-gerard

people in the tags keep bringing things that are terminal, and i need you to understand some thing critical here. people do not conceptualise what they've not experienced properly and the 'inconvenient' side-effects come faster, and are far more likely than the Big Scary Ones. "dont start cocaine because your liver will fail" -- means nothing to me, have never experienced liver failure, also it takes forever for me to get to that stage. "do you want to know what cocaine shits are" -- paying attention, do not alter my shits habits.

nat-20s

I can’t speak for other social media webbed sites but I really enjoy how tumblr seems to just completely spin a wheel on whatever media is hot right now. Like yeah sometimes it’s a new show that’s big and actively coming out but also sometimes there will be a solid month where half my dash is Columbo memes. Defy authority. Get really into an book from the 1800s. Watch shows that haven’t aired in 40 years. Celebrate the anniversary of the Boston Molasses Flood. Become unmarketable

nonasuch

oh shit i almost missed it!

alexafaie-wtf-is-this

Happy 107 years anniversary of the collapse of the molasses tank!

thatdisasterauthor

Need a little help to pay for some dental work.

I unexpectedly need to have some serious dental work done. Unfortunately, since I ended up having to put some of my top surgery last year on credit, I can't apply for any other credit to cover things at this time.

Like many, I do not do well at the dentist and now that has collided with my lack of selfcare in my late teens and twenties due to depression. Due to some past issues, and the fact laughing gas doesn't work on me at all, I require full sedation dentistry. I have enough money to cover the three most important things I need done, and the sedation, but since I am going under I would like to take advantage of that and get as much of the other issues taken care of as possible. The goal is a little arbitrary here, but basically, every ~$450 I raise will allow me to get one more tooth taken care of.

It is $150 for every additional 15 minutes of sedation beyond the amount required for the three most important things (an extraction and two fillings), then roughly $250-$350 per additional tooth. I would like to cover at least my four molars that have problems, since the back of my mouth being worked on makes me more uncomfortable than the front so I think I can handle the front without full sedation. But if I can raise more than needed for those four, I will get more done.

Thank you so, so much to everyone who donates!

If you don't want to go through the GoFundMe, I also have my ebooks on my Payhip store: https://payhip.com/AspenAndCopper

gallusrostromegalus

Katy is a longtime friend and an excellent author, and this is a pretty serious medical emergency. Anything will help, and you can get some kickass books in return!

musdomus

Is it normal to have so much die off?

meebspace

ya! this happens as a succulent grows, the old bits naturally dry out as the succulent gets bigger + redirects the water to new growths. a lot of my succulents would look like this!

senatortedcruz

This happened to my buddy Katy Perry

tobiasdrake

One thing I will always appreciate Fullmetal Alchemist for is the fact that they let Roy Mustang be complicit in genocide.

Mustang is an Atoner figure. Something that plagues Atoner figures is when writers are too precious about the characters we're meant to like to actually let them be guilty of something serious.

The Atoner might be trying to make amends for their involvement in the Great '87 Hotel Massacre, and then three seasons in you find out what happened. And it's like, "I drove a taxi to the hotel, and the KILLER was in it! I ferried the killer to the hotel! That makes me responsible, and now I must atone for being nearby while the killings took place! And also vanquish the real killer who is the villain for this season."

Or maybe the Atoner did do the killings but they were under mind control the whole time and would never, ever have done it in their right mind.

But FMA said no. Mustang, Hawkeye, Hughes, even Armstrong to an extent though he suffered a breakdown and fled during it. They did that shit. They followed their orders and they did that shit. And it haunts them.

Roy did that shit. And his atonement, his grand ambition, is to see everyone responsible for that shit brought to justice for their crimes. Including himself.

That is how you write an atonement plot.

pippindot

Just got home with Edi after being gone for a week...absence makes heart grow fonder!?!?!??!?!?!?!?!?!

alexisrosemullens

We have lost the meaning of queerbait

alexisrosemullens

Just because what you wanted didn't happen, doesn't mean it's queerbaiting. It is now being used an excuse when the ship you want didn't get together. Queerbaiting has to do with marketing.

shamebats

Queerbait: A cookbook that you learned about from ads with pictures of people eating tasty looking soups and the author's social media posts about how soup lovers are going to love it, proves to have no soup recipes.

Not queerbait: A cookbook has no soup recipes. You assumed there would be some based on vibes and wishful thinking. No soups were ever advertised or promised.

Also not queerbait: A cookbook that was advertised as containing soup recipes has soup recipes but not for the types of soups you like.