her sexual fantasy? dude it’s to be seen and understood with deep emotional empathy and terrifying vulnerability
"I wanna be your daddy 😏"
Okay, delicious, but would you:
1. Hold me through panic attacks
2. Remind me to eat
3. Remind me not to over eat
4. Not get bored of me
5. Understand that when I am a brat, it's not personal and I just need reassurance not punishment
6. Give me countless reminders that no you don't hate me, no you aren't using me for my body, no you won't turn into a ghost in the middle of the night, no you aren't only dating me for my personality, yes you love me and my body, no you don't mind my weight fluctuations, etc etc etc
7. Understand that I need an elephant amount of patience
8. Listen to me ranting over my hyperfications
9. Help me ignore the bad thoughts
10. Let me bite you
I'm a dirty slut but it's not all sunshine and rainbows either. You gotta do the hard stuff too or how can I trust you to actually take care of me?
“You gotta do the hard stuff” is how you build any sort of friendship or relationship.
I lured y'all with boobs and then little by little started dropping the suicidal jokes in there.
dream position .. ><
what are dom red flags you’ve seen?
Yay, I get to do a bullet point list. If I miss anything, please reblog and keep the list going!
- Requiring you to use honorifics without as much of a conversation for example, daddy, sir, master, etc
- Their sole focus is on your body or sex. Every interaction devolves to sex.
- Trying to separate you from your friends, family, or others who are important and can give you advice.
- Shit talks every single one of thier past relationships or dynamics without introspection.
- Says there's no need for safewords
- Says aftercare is pointless or doesn't provide it
- Says there's no need for limits
- Says good subs do X, Y, or Z even though y it passes your hard limits.
- Ignores your reservations
- Doesn't communicate his limits
- Says they're into "everything" but never elaborates on that.
- Isn't willing to tell you personal information like government name, location etc
- Uses punishments as an excuse to ignore you and your needs
- Belittles, you makes you feel small or unwanted
- Sexual gratification is only one sided.
- Takes no effort in making you feel comfortable
- Uses punishments when you're arguing as a couple
- Punishments don't fit the crime.
- Uninterested in your actual health.
- Tasks are only set up for their benefit.
- Uses new toys without enthusiastic consent
- Only praises you when they are the recipient of something not when you do something for yourself
There are SOOOO many more. These are just off the top of the dome. Please, if I forgot anything, reblog and add to the list so we can have a master list.
Also, this may seem like a no-brainer to some of you, but please reblog this it may save someone from an abusive situation.
Girls who look tough but secretly love to be, babied, praised, looked after, checked on, put in their place when needed, and reminded who really is in charge,
my friends and i took the bd/sm test together and they thought i was dominant from how independent lol
