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@blacklighttanuki

they/them | ask to tag stuff | an adult | autistic | kinda looks like grape soda that was left in a basement for 20 years

I say this as a trans woman who explicitly doesn't use they/them and with the greatest of love; if you are a random stranger and you expect me to pull up and read through your bio before referring to you in passing in a comment chain, forum thread or chat room, then I'm afraid that is not going to happen and you will have to eat being genericized, as also do I.

This is just the reality of interacting in a context where contextual information is not immediately visible. You are not special to me. I will not read your dni, open a new tab to see if you list pronouns, or reference any other demographic information unless I have a specific, relevant to what I'm discussing reason to do so. I am happy to be corrected if there is need, but if I'm obliquely referencing a post reply I am usually not even directly talking to you, and so it is silly to expect me to know who you are in advance. Understand the mode of dialog if the forum you are choosing to speak on. You can yell at me if you want, but you need to understand that you are the one placing an unreasonable burden in that scenario.

When did we move from "Using 'they' for a coworker who you damn well know uses she/her is misgendering," to "Using they for someone whose pronouns you do not know is misgendering"???

Using "they" for a rando on the internet falls squarely into using they where the antecedent is "someone" for me. I simply do not know the gender because it is a stranger!

Mostly endorsing prev's tag: "#also i think its a really bad social norm to make 'investigate their gender' a top priority when interacting with strangers. tbh."

Gendering everyone you see already is the prevailing social norm. This is not new. This is why most of our language's 3rd-person pronouns are gendered, which is my least-favorite feature of our language.

I would like to see a world where people can interact as people, and not have to worry about getting immediately gendered by every random stranger they come across.

”This portrayal of a marginalized group was wrong then and is wrong now” and “This portrayal of a marginalized group was very progressive for the time period and paved the way for more representation while likely limited by factors outside of the creator’s control” are two statements that can and should ABSOLUTELY coexist and be kept in mind when interacting with older media

Great example

end of january affirmations

im not doing anything wrong and no one is mad at me

there must be a place for me in this world because here i am

my art doesnt suck

instagram is nothing to me

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