i go to see my therapist, who is also trans. i expect this to be a breath of fresh air. she asks what pronouns i use, i tell her i use it/its. she does not use them, once, ever. i remind her a few times and she apologizes and says she's not used to using those terms on people. after the twentieth time i am they/themmed, i do not bother to correct her, and she does not bother to apologize. she asks me what she should use on my paperwork. i say they is fine. i complain to my friend about being misgendered, but feel wrong because i don't know if it really "counts"
my dad asks me what he should call me when i bring up the fact that he messes up my terms all the time. i tell him to use it/its. he says he can't do that because it sounds like i'm "a creature or something". i can't be bothered to argue about it so i tell him to just use they. he says that's plural and too confusing. i concede, he is fine, i guess
a well-meaning family friend asks me what she should call me. i don't want to bother with an explanation. i tell her anything is fine. i am a she for the next hour
i go to the doctor. she uses the wrong terms again even after i corrected her last time. i dont bother saying anything
i go online. i see a positivity post about people who use it/its. i check the comments. 20 people are saying they could NEVER use those terms, but they totally support those who do. another 20 are saying they don't like using it/its on people because it "feels dehumanizing". i consider bashing my head against a wall