algernon. 25. he/him. disabled bisexual trans man. pretentious commie.

interests: history, classic rock, bad movies, classic lit, Twin Peaks, cats and posting my bad takes.

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froody —> byjove

I think it’s funny how dogs behave guiltily after they do something they know was wrong but you can tell when your cat has done something terrible because they start slinking around like a bank robber.

Was scrolling through r/DeadBedrooms and there are so many straight guys in relationships with women lamenting the fact that they have to do foreplay and arouse their partner. You read them and you’re like “Maybe you should separate so she can find a man who will sexually please her and you can enjoy the constant company of your hand for the rest of your life.” It is crazy how they think they are entitled to the labor of sexual gratification but don’t think they should have to do the labor of sexually gratifying their partner.

enrichment idea: put out a cardboard box that is slightly too small for your cats to comfortably fit in and watch them try to do it anyway.

There are so many forums and spaces for support in “dead bedroom” relationships and I find it so interesting that most of the men never ask why their wife does not want to have sex with them. They never ask her if the problem is that she is no longer attracted to them specifically or if her libido has waned in general, they never ask if she’s avoiding sex because she finds some aspect of it to be unpleasant in a sensory way or if their skills in the bedroom are not pleasing and need to be improved. They just don’t give a fuck why their wife is not fucking then and either assume it’s became she is cheating on them/pulling away or because women all do sex as a transaction and don’t really like it. They just look for tips for manipulating their spouse into fucking them on a schedule and complain about how they’re not getting fucked.

Anyway, r/DeadBedrooms is an interesting read. So many of the posts from women are like “I finally found out why my husband isn’t having sex with me, he has realized he is asexual. We still love each other and we’re committed to making this work.” or “I’m in a dead bedroom situation and turn down my husband’s advances because he is terrible in bed and does not please me, has a tantrum when I criticize his technique and does not care if I enjoy the sex we’re having.” and the posts from men are like “Should I tell my wife I’ll divorce her if she doesn’t suck my dick so she will suck my dick?”

Of course, this is a broad generalization but this is a distinct pattern that repeats over and over again.

Look at this beautiful 1970s paperback I bought myself for Christmas:

ah yes, the two most important ancient Celtic customs: displaying the severed heads of your enemies at the city gate and boiling food instead of frying it

A jewelry company that is just reproductions of historical jewelry found at archeological sites would be so cool.