sova on sova violence

chat reminder to just write whatever the fuck you want. write that overused trope. write that obscure shit that no one will have heard of. just. do it. your writing is yours stop depriving it of that.

honestly in the era of AI slop it is more important than ever for you to write or draw that incredibly niche/strange/unpalatable thing you want to make. the world needs the unique weirdness of people more than ever

when I was like 14 I used to reblog these posts on here that were like "YOUR 20S ARE NOT AN IMAGINARY RACE YOURE DOING JUST FINE!!" just to be positive towards my older mutuals even though i didn't really get what they were about and I'd be in the tags like "#so true!! #everyone does things at their own pace!!" and now im 24 I'm thinking back to it and it's like Oh of course the imaginary race. Which im losing

Too much movement makes your joints hurt and too little movement also makes your joints hurt. This would imply that there's an optimal amount of movement that allows your joints to not hurt. This is a lie.

The “boy cats love you more than girl cats” thing is such an insane thing to believe we gotta kill ppl for saying that

you tell a skinny person that fat people get bodyshamed and they conjure up this fantasy world where everybody around them is an eighteenth century vaguely european grandmother telling them they need to put some meat on their bones or they won't survive the winter

you ever crave something you can't have? ssssshut up about your ex i mean i want grilled cheese but im scared of the stove

There is this false narrative that Complex Dissociative Disorders are only caused by the most extreme trauma imaginable, when that isn’t true for most pw/CDDs.

Though it does happen, pw/CDDs do not usually have histories including the most horrific actions recorded in history, and this belief is often dangerous to people with the disorder.

Everyone with a CDD has severe trauma response. However, development of CDDs is not related to the severity of trauma, but instead to the complexity of trauma. This is why disorganised attachment to caregivers is common in pw/CDDs, because the shift of adapting from extreme kindness to cruelty is too complex for children to manage.

In most situations, dissociative responses to trauma are due to feeling like a situation is inescapable. Children may experience abuse, neglect or multiple “less horrific” traumatic events, and feel as though they cannot escape the situation, usually due to a combination of repeated trauma and lack of an adequate support system. Due to this feeling, children dissociate, since it is the only method of escaping the overwhelming feeling when other escape routes are not accessible. Missing a support system to overcome traumatic events or stressful feelings and situations is a recognised central cause of dissociative responses.

It’s also important to mention that children have a higher predisposition to dissociation, due to already having a less cohesive identity. For this reason, children may experience dissociative responses to situations that adults (without a history of dissociation) would not.

When adults experience complex trauma, for example domestic abuse, it’s not uncommon for them to mention feeling as though they “lost themselves” or “need to rebuild themselves” because they already have a cohesive self, but their trauma made them dissociate from that self. Children, however, do not have a cohesive self to “lose” and therefore the threshold for dissociation is lower.

Many people with CDDs do not recognise their trauma as being severe enough to qualify for a dissociative disorder. This is due to dissociation, and denial, but also because the false narratives about how CDDs appear, and what our trauma looks like, because people will often only listen to stories which can be turned into a spectacle for consumption. Your trauma is enough, regardless of what it may be, and you don’t need to doubt yourself.

TLDR — Development of DID is not exclusively connected to severity of trauma, and not everyone with DID has experienced the most extreme, horrific actions of human malice. Its development is more connected to complexity of trauma, feeling of inescapability, and lack of adequate support systems. Your trauma is always valid, and enough.

Omg the cat plushies.... 🥺🥺