Babies 2026 has begun.
sorry i'm not done the all-star game shot when ilya grabs shane and kisses his helmet and shane laughs and holds ilya's arm with one hand then remembers they're in public on the ice and immediately starts pushing him away again
sorry for reading this yesterday and going literally crazyinsane but it's like the audience is watching you. the other players are watching you. the surveiling force of heteromasculinity watches you until it gets into your bloodstream and you can't stop watching yourself
Kelly (2026), "After daring to show personality, Zayne Parekh is learning how hockey deals with dissenters"
to be clear virtue signaling is bad when you only care about the signal and not the virtue. if someone advertised themself as a person who cares about protecting kittens from the torment nexus for the social benefit of appearing like a caring person, but doesn't actually do anything to protect kittens from the torment nexus or even actively assists in feeding kittens to the torment nexus, that is bad. but if a person says "I want to protect kittens from the torment nexus" and actually does do that then that's not bad. it's not "virtue signaling" if they actually practice that virtue and it's a good virtue to practice. why in the world would you get mad at people for being nice and being open about being nice.
"Rings" by ND Stevenson
My absolute favourite comic journal by Stevenson. Made me cry my eyes out. Even when I can't articulate it, it gets to the core of what I think love is.
Tiktok post by @ punkrocknerd (any pronouns).
AAAA IM SCARED THATS MY TIKTOK I DID NOT EXPECT TO SEE IT ON TUMBLR
(Thank you tho I’m glad you liked it)
The discussion in the comments was a breath of fresh air! I really enjoyed it
This is not a new concept in feminism. It's called "benevolent sexism" and discourse around it has been happening since the late 1990's and perhaps even earlier with different terminology.
There is quite a lot of research on it and the research shows that while men who harbor benevolent sexist beliefs are less likely to sexually assault women, among other things, these men are also more likely to engage in victim blaming, and more likely to negatively judge women for having sex before marriage, relative to men who do not believe in benevolent sexism. Also, benevolent sexism has been shown to harm women in the workplace. And it has been shown to discourage women from seeking help in academic environments.
So while it looks like women are "benefitting" from these attitudes, and they do in some direct, more superficial ways, they are also harmed in some deeper ways.
Furthermore, research has shown that a lot of women find men showing benevolent sexism more attractive as partners, which is dangerous because these men are still likely to hurt women, they are just more likely to do it in ways that are indirect and less likely to be recognized as such, especially in socially-conservative subcultures.
i do think there should be more stories and shows and stuff about guys falling in love with butch women actually, i think that’d be a good thing. and not ‘this is as butch as twitter can handle’, i mean butch as can fucking be without apology, and making those boys weak in the knees about it. i think it’s great actually to have f/m romances that exist to break gender norms, too. i think it sucks that the only mainstream het romances that exist are either about women who are already feminine or with women who are just a little too scarily masculine and have to be fixed into being girlier. that’s shit.
it’s not like. taking away from queer people if you let “the straights” have some genderfuckery in their romance, too. that’s good, actually, the blurring of gender roles and performance and getting better understandings of your own sexuality is good for everyone. and it’s really fucking weird if you think that mainstream “het” romances shouldn’t feature women who are “too masculine” because that’s only allowed for queer people, somehow.
rlly embarrassing when ppl act like topping/bottoming has any bearing on anything beyond how you like to fuck. grow up
you’re like, inches away from asking who’s the man and who’s the woman lol