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This is all I can think of right now but these are all not normal and not okay. These are examples of parents crossing boundaries through various forms of abuse and when you are isolated or semi isolated in an abusive household you may not pick up on or fully realize the abuse or the extent of the abuse.
If your parents are like mine, it can be subtle and they make it so you fell uncomfortable speaking up or talking to someone else about it. These examples covered some emotional abuse, enmeshment, and csa. I will update the list if I think of anything else later (although this could be a pretty long list).
Anna Haifisch
Babe are you okay I saw you reblogging "here's the life I've always longed for"
for anyone curious there is a follow up image:
It's really really weird to see all the weird lies about isff while knowing her irl cuz they are a total mismatch to, well, her and her life. Calling her hateful when she's full of love and giving the little money she has away to friends. Saying she's preying on kids, all the people she talks to are in her age group, I'm older than her and that's the largest age gap there. "She runs a child sex ring" the incredibly poor trans woman???? How?? When?? Like, it doesn't even make logical sense, she lives in a tiny apartment, works an average job, and does not exactly have the money that would bring in. "We have proof" is just a crazy lie to spin. She made a text post you didn't like and then spun an entire fantasy headcanon about her.
Did they task the vampires with hanging up the flags 😭
I feel like you'd support my rapist "getting help and learning to forgive himself" for raping me and another victim for over 4 years bc he was unmedicated schizophrenic (among other things) and a result of layers of family trauma that led to him thinking that shit was okay
Yes, of course. When I talked to my ex-husband years after the fact, it brought me a lot of comfort knowing he was in a better place and trying to be a better person. I want that for everyone who has went through something similar.
Environmental storytelling or something like that
Interesting how the transfeminine version got marked mature literally *as* I posted it, very clearly hitting some sort of automated filter, while the cis version was untouched by the filter even though it was otherwise identical
there is always hope. people can always change. this is what restorative justice is about.
transgender men when you say that they are not female
transgender men when you say that they are men
surprisingly hard for a lot of people on this site to admit theyre basically just terfs/bigots/cops etc.
But they're queer! That definitely means they can't be Terfs right? - somebody who has zero knowledge of queer history
I actually ADORE it when a character crashes out. Let them YELL let them SCREAM let them HURT THOSE AROUND THEM with or without meaning to. I need to see more crash outs
Can you please explain your dialogue theory of fanfiction?
In short, that dialogue, more than anything, makes or breaks a fanfic. What do posts like "He would not fucking say that" and "They would NOT have communication skills that good" have in common? Talk. Characters expressing themselves to one another. The faithful recreation of identifiable speech patterns is weighted heavily in the evaluation of a fic's quality. By "speech patterns" I do not just mean the semantic content of a given character's expression, but idiosyncrasies of style and slang, vocabulary and idiom, even gesture, musicality, and rhythm.
Of course believable dialogue is far from the only thing that makes a good fanfic Good. And there are forms of fic writing, particularly highly abbreviated ones like drabbles and ficlets, that in practice tend to de-emphasize its significance. But if we are talking about the romantic, erotic shippy stuff that is the meat and potatoes of online fandom, dialogue does the heaviest lifting short of the consummation itself. Arguably more so! It's the real keystone to the catharsis, and often the catalyst for it. Is there a confession occurring? A provocation? An evasion or ultimatum? Zoom out, big picture: What is the most potent and fundamental mechanic for developing complexity, tension, and transformation within a relationship, getting it to go from one thing to another? Making these two idiots talk to each other! Often clumsily and indirectly and maladaptively, at the worst possible time and in the worst possible situation, about anything or everything but what they should be — but talk they usually do.
What makes fanfic specifically so challenging and rewarding in this regard is that the talking is as much a feat of translation as invention, because both reader and writer are working off an existing model. Liberties taken with plot, form, and even narrative voice have wider buffer zones; you can get creative with circumventing the events of canon while still conforming to its emotional and substantive essence.
But the training wheels come off the moment you open your mouth to speak in another character's voice. And man, nothing will break a reader's immersion quite like he would not fucking say that.
I probably should have clarified at the outset (though maybe it’s obvious) that this post was made with televisual media in mind. I’m seeing a lot of comments/tags to this effect and if you want a very straightforward exercise that will strengthen your ear for writing in-character fic dialogue, start transcribing the source material. Re-watch relevant scenes of interaction with either a notepad out or an open Word/Scrivener/Google Doc and translate it word for word back down to written form. Pause wherever necessary to make sure you get it all down, and annotate with any useful observations that jump out at you. Go back over and re-read what you’ve transcribed when you’re done. You’ll start to pick up on, at the very least, certain modular fundamentals: shorter vs longer sentences, preferences for certain words or phrases over others, regional slang, how and how often they curse (or don’t), etc. Do this often and you will get better at replicating how your blorbos speak to each other. Promise.
ID: screenshots of three sets of tags: 1. i read this at a time where i am struggling to get a characters voice and perhaps that was a bad time to read it but youre right 2. its why dialogue being my achilles heel hits so much harder - because it becomes so quickly inescapable 3. ah my arch nemesis - dialogue. but this is an interesting read tho
