If you are trans and you want to be more than a fair-weather ally to intersex people, you will have to learn to accept that there are people who do not identify as trans, who may onöy identify as intersex, who may even identify as cis, who may even be men, who have
-struggled with their gender identity just as much as you
-who are just as queer as you
-who have as much of a complex relationship with their gender and sex as you
-who have suffered and have been discriminated based on their sex and/or gender as much as you
-who have faced physical violence as much as you and often much earlier in their life than most perisex trans people
-who need surgeries and HRT just as much as you
-who are dysphoric just as much as you (with the added potential trauma of having being surgically raped)
-who are also raped and forcefully impregnated, to "fix us" and to "see what happens"
And you need to accept that while also understanding that we are not "accidental targets" of your own discrimination. We have been murdered, aborted and sacrificed since humans existed.
You also need to accept that you can't continue using AGAB terms, "our" terms, and then try and gatekeep "trans" from AFAB transfem/ trans women and AMAB transmasc/ trans men.
You also need to accept that you were not coersively assigned a gender at birth unless you suffered IGM. You having a cross put on a piece of paper, or an "f" or an "m", comes no where near to being castrated, having holes cut into you, having holes forcefully widened or sewn shut. And you need to understand that accepting this does in no way negate or downplay the violence you face later in life.
You need to accept that it is not about whether intersex people or trans people have it harder. For the person who is choking on their trauma, who was severly hurt and can't deal with it, who is legislated out of existance, it does not matter. At the end of the day, they die.
You can't keep using "cis" or "cishet" as synonyms for "not actually queer" or "unaffected by the discrimination of queer people".
And yes, trans intersex people, I am also talking about you.