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discursive. poetic. narcoleptic. wishful. wistful.
occasionally NSFW.
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Not to mention, they aren’t just fine. Thousands of people have post covid complications, including immune system resets that cause them to get sick in other ways, long covid symptoms like fatigue, memory loss, organ damage, and a ton of other things we don’t fully understand yet,
And even if they personally got lucky and got a mild case of covid or two, there’s every chance that they passed it on to other people and killed or harmed other people.
Spoiler-free, but one thing I really like about Knives Out 3 is that it shows a wheelchair user who 1) needs her chair in order to function, 2) CAN still walk and does so when the pain of it is less inconvenient than moving her chair around, and 3) has to deal with people being shocked that she can walk. A lot of wheelchair users are still capable of some movement and get treated like they’re faking when they stand to reach something, so it was cool to see that just casually represented
Also the movie explicitly rejects the narrative that her disability has to be cured or else her life is over! And, in my opinion, Josh O’Connor puts massive scare quotes around the words “cured” and “fixed” in that final voiceover. She learns to live with and through her pain, she picks up her cello again, she gets proper medical care (cf. tape on her elbow), and she makes music. It’s different and harder than it was before, they don’t gloss over that, but she hasn’t been turned into a sad stereotype.
Disability narratives usually end with one of three fates: cure (including superpowers or superprosthetics that compensate for the disability), death, or institutionalization. This one ends with a musician who does physical therapy and keeps making music. It’s such a simple thing, but it’s vanishingly rare compared with the thousands of variations on the other three endings. Incredible.
I appreciate the sentiment but I don’t get all those “we made it to the longest night of the year! the light will start returning soon! it’s all uphill from here & we’re halfway there!” posts because like. Oct-Dec is the easier half of Winter. Jan-Apr is way harder. there’s no big holidays or decorations, everyone is kind of over the whole Cozy Hygge Sweaters & Cocoa vibe so they’re just tired & restless instead, and the whole thing is so drawn out & uneventful that it feels like it lasts 10x longer
Person who thought it was abhorrent how the media constantly shutshamed Britney Spears: it’s crazy how Sabrina Carpenter is an attention seeking whore, won’t anyone think of the children.
Person who thought it gross how the media labled Britney spears as “white trash” for growing up poor in the south: It’s crazy how Chappel Roan is a dumb hillbilly who won’t shut the fuck up, we should kill her.
i’m not saying female celebrities should never be criticized but it’s crazy how so many of the people who constantly showed disgust for how the media treated any female celebrity who acted like a normal person, have no problem using the same tactics on female celebrities they hate for stupid superficial stan twitter beef, and you could argue “well these are two separate groups of people” but in my experience most stan twitter users have very little self awareness in that regard.
Yeah Sabrina Carpenter single handedly pushed back feminism 60 years and Chappell Roan got everyone to vote Republican don’t laugh at me.
we transmitted the entirety of allrecipes.com into the brain of a dog and now he’s an okay chef. like the food is passable
like i guess i should’ve tempered my expectations a bit because 1. he’s a dog and 2. allrecipes has some truly vile recipes on it but like. all of it. the whole website. idk i just expected more
well you see the dog has the entire website in his brain so he kind of just has the good ones And the bad ones and since he’s a dog he also doesn’t really know the difference. so maybe you should consider all of that the next time you rudely insult my dog who is an average quality chef
One of my favourite things in the world is people with incredible talent who have decided they will exclusively use their astronomical skills to fuck around
rian johnson: hiii jeremy so sorry to hear about your horrific accident im so glad you recovered. would love to work together on the next knives out!!
jeremy renner: oh wow nice im so flattered yknow things have been really tough after my various and extremely serious physical injuries including a collapsed lung and over 30 broken bones. so glad to get back into filmmaking
rian johnson: ok so heres the pitch. im going to throw you down the fucking stairs
It IS true that being on here gives you a tumblr accent. This morning my mother asked me something and i replied “i don’t know i’ve never heard these words in that order” and she nearly choked laughing. It wasn’t even that funny
at my old job i had a coworker who was tired and made a coffee with like 6 or 8 shots of espresso and i just casually went up to them like “are you trying to meet god?” and not only was this absolutely hilarious to them but they brought it up in future conversations they thought it was so funny but to me this was just as casual as saying “woah that’s a lot of coffee”
Being funny on Tumblr and then going to be funny in real life is like traveling to a foreign country and baby the currency exchange rate is biased in your favor
Grandmas were so right about puzzles and knitting and crocheting and solitaire and reading slow and slippers and baking and watching deer in the backyard send post
First off, I ABHOR pedophiles. I don’t just dislike them.
Second, I’m not sure exactly what you’re saying but I believe children should be children.
Don’t stress them out with the talks of the birds and the bees. Don’t try and force them to understand something they won’t understand or might scare them.
Traditionally, we have learned about sex ed around 13 - 16
Any earlier and it might actually frighten them
And why should they know? They aren’t having sex and sick fucks shouldn’t even be thinking about them having sex.
I’m quoting user @shallow-between-stars because this is from a thread with unhelpful and judgemental commentary upthread. This is valid and important information from a person trained in this, vetted by another person (me) who is trained in this. I hold a degree in developmental psychology for clinical work with adolescents, and spent 8 years working at group home for kids removed from their families due to abuse and neglect who needed help to process before either reunifying with family or going into foster care.
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Okay. I’m trained in this.
You need to be providing age-appropriate sexual education to children from as young as you possibly can.
When kids are really young this looks like “Yes, that’s mummy’s vagina. Please leave the bathroom because it is rude to be in the bathroom while mummy is using the toilet. Mummy is placing her boundary, sweetheart, and you need to respect that.”
“Yes, daddy does have something different to mummy. What daddy has is called a penis. Yes (mummy/daddy’s penis/vagina) is the same as you.”
You will notice here that I use the anatomical terms for these body parts. That is for a reason. It helps your child if something does happen better be able to disclose, exactly, what has happened to them. You do not want your child trying to disclose using words such as “secret pocket” or “hidden flower” or “willie” as this can obfuscate meaning. Imagine, if you will, Maisie trying to disclose that Coach Asshole touched her sexually by saying “Coach Asshole stuck his stick into my secret pocket,” to a teacher or family friend who does not know that those words are euphemisms. Maisie has tried to disclose, but has been unsuccessful because she does not have the language that she needs.
Now, next.
Children, especially girls, can start going through puberty young. Like, really young. I have taught 9 year olds who menstruate. We need to be teaching these children about their bodies. We need to be teaching boys about the bodies of people who menstruate. There is so much misinfomation amongst grown cismen about menstruation because they are not taught it in school.
We also need to teach children about consent and bodily autonomy from as young as possible. This sets them up that even if they do, unfortunately, suffer abuse of this form they are vocal in their protestations and are more likely to disclose than children who have been taught to accept that adults can do whatever they want to a child’s body. Granny kissing little Maisie on the cheek doesn’t look that different to Coach Asshole calling his girls at gymnastics “Special girls” and kissing/touching them inappropriately, especially to a child (who, usually, have a much less refined emotional radar and both will cause them to shut down and just accept what is happening. You want your kid to be able to say “No, what you are doing/did to my body is wrong.”)
So.
How should adults behave around children?
Firstly - my golden rule of interacting with children is If you have nothing to hide, don’t hide anything.
This means when you are interacting with children you always do so in an area where you will easily be visible if another adult happens to walk by. No closed doors, try to minimise rooms without windows, have another adult present.
The reason you are doing this is to make it flag as strange and unusual to a child if an adult tries to get them alone. Safe adults do not do that. By making sure you are transparent in your behaviour, the child is more likely to flag something being wrong when someone is not transparent. You are equipping the child with skills to protect themselves.
They will also be more likely to disclose to another adult that an adult was trying to get them alone.
Secondly - No secrets.
(There is a little bit of an exception to this rule but to begin with, no secrets.)
This leads back to transparency. A safe adult will not ask a child to keep a secret from another adult. If Uncle Jeff is telling Nancy to keep “our little secret” when he gives her extra dessert, then Nancy is prone to believe that keeping a secret from another adult is something she’s supposed to do when Uncle Scumbucket asks her to keep his inappropriate fondling of her as “our little secret.” Children who see secrets as unusual are more likely to disclose that an adult told them to keep something a secret.
This is also important as grooming usually starts as “we need to keep you getting this special treat as our little secret.” Uncle Jeff giving Nancy more icecream out of the goodness of his heart looks a lot like Uncle Scumbucket giving Nancy candy and lollies and extra screentime in an effort to get her to like him and Uncle Scumbucket’s secrets are going to move on to “Sit on my lap today, honey, but don’t tell your mother. Remember, this is our little secret.” And eventually to Uncle Scumbucket asking Nancy to keep sexual activities as “our little secret.”
You do not want children thinking that safe adults keep secrets.
Thirdly - this ties in a little with secondly but Teach your child the difference between a safe secret and an unsafe secret.
If you are unsure of the difference yourself -
A safe secret:
Does not hurt anybody by the keeping of it, including yourself.
Is usually accompanied by a feeling of excitement
Has an end date where everyone will become aware of the contents of the secret.
A safe secret is a surprise birthday party, a camping trip, a surprise trip to disneyworld, pizza!
An unsafe secret:
Can hurt someone and can hurt to keep
Is accompanied by a feeling of nervousness or dread or shame
does not have an end date. The secret is ongoing.
You can see how Uncle Scumbucket’s secret is unsafe, but also how Uncle Jeff’s secret is unsafe because Uncle Jeff’s secret does not have an end date. Uncle Jeff’s secret is unsafe because it is priming Macy to see Uncle Scumbucket’s secret as reasonable, which leads back to the grooming discussed above.
Lastly, and this is very important -
‘Protecting’ children from having access to sexual education actually does them an injustice.
We do not live in a perfect world.
Bad things can and do happen to children, with depressing frequency. Pretending that they don’t happen means that if they do happen, children are unable to recognize and respond appropriately. You are making your child less equipped to protect themselves, not more.
Children who are taught age-appropriate sexual education from a young age are so much less likely to be in a situation of sexual violence than those who are not taught age-appropriate sexual education.Children who are taught age-appropriate sexual education are more likely to disclose if something does happen to them, than children who are not.
Protect your kids.
And for God’s sake teach them the words 'penis’ and 'vagina/vulva’
I am adding a link about the importance of teaching kids about consent (and why it doesn’t have anything to do with sex or a loss of innocence - it’s about making sure that kids don’t get hurt and that they don’t hurt others out of ignorance)
