fascinated with jack’s strategy of deflecting about him and sam by joking about him and teal'c
yesterday I had the thought "visual novel for normal people" (?) and halfway through making this image (which I thought would be really funny) I realized it was completely meaningless
The Sims 5
unless its egregious, i'm not embarrassed to be fooled by ai. "oh i got lied to via something made by the Lying Machine the machine we made to Lie really well" like it's gonna happen it's no egg on your face. just be chill about it
don't get me wrong. it's always devastating always humbling. no one wants to fall for the lying machine it just sounds bad. but you can't dwell
BREAKING: 21-year-old protester, Kaden Rummler, was shot point-blank in the face by ICE. he just spoke about how he’s blind for life and almost died:
“I will be blind for life. I have fractures in my skull that they can't fix. They pulled a piece of plastic the size of a nickel out of my eye. I had shards of metal, glass, and plastic behind my eye and in my skull. They said it was a miracle I survived.”
What the hell is wrong with these people?
GoFundMe for Kaden Rummler, the young trans man blinded by ICE agents this week.
Fundraiser for K R by Sarah Gallimore : Help ICE Protestor After being shot by Feds
It really really frustrates me when some people, disabled or not, say "well I can do [x thing] because I was forced to" in response to someone saying they can't do something.
"Well I had to eat whatever was for dinner or else I would have starved."
Me too! And I became severely malnourished because I could not eat what was put in front of me.
"My parents hit me if I didn't get good grades so I had to."
Mine too! Except I could not get good grades in a mainstream class no matter how hard I tried or what was at stake.
"I have to mask because I need to keep my job."
Me too! Except I can't even pass an interview because of my limited ability to mask.
"I can't have meltdowns around other people or else I'll be bullied/abused/mocked."
Same here! But I can't hold in my meltdowns.
You need to understand that some people will never be able to do the things you can, no matter how hard they're pushed or what the consequences are for not doing it. I'm really sorry that you were forced to talk, but someone else being unable to speak does not mean that they could if there was enough pressure. Stop assuming that everyone who doesn't mask/speak/etc. grew up in a safe and supportive environment. There are people who would (and do!) die because they're neglected and can't learn to just do things themselves.
I really don't want to be the "other people have it worse" guy or come across like I don't think people are allowed to complain about something just because it's less extreme than someone else's situation, but some of you need to have more compassion for people who are not like you. Just be kind. And if someone says they can't do something, don't assume that it's because they were coddled or whatever.
the thing about disabled people who can hide their disabilities and are high functioning - whether their disabilities are physical or mental or whatever is that some of them get this stupid idea that every visibly or more severely disabled person with the same disorder as them- has had it easier than them and just didn't internalize enough shame to hide their problems and to develop the same skills as them. I'm gonna focus on autism here. Like many of them legitimately think that if you leave a high supports needs autistic person alone for a month and told them to grow up and shame them they would learn to bathe themselves and talk and they would have the good sense to not stim in public and not be loud and blah blah blah.
These people got abused and went through horrible things because of their disabilities- they had to be in immense pain and suffer through a lot to survive. They think that anyone who has the same disorder as them who didn't learn to do this just didn't try hard enough. That they didn't internalize enough shame. 'I had to get good grades or else my dad would hit me/eat what was in front of me or else I wouldn't eat/was left a lone a lot and had to learn how to cook/clean/dress myself because no one would help me/I had to mask or get bullied' and that's horrible but now imagine that you didn't get good grades- your dad hit you. Imagine the food was inedible and no matter what you couldn't stomach it- you either eat it or you go to bed hungry. You go to bed hungry cause it's that bad. You can't dress yourself or handle your own hygiene- so you stay in dirty clothes and don't get clean. You can't mask. The bullies hurt you for it. Like the autistic people who are more disabled than you wouldn't adapt to the environment you were forced to grow up in. They would suffer. Some would die. The autistic kids you never see- the ones in homes or always in a psychiatric facility the ones in remedial classes- they exist and they aren't coddled. They are just more disabled than you. And also no one should have to develop intense internalized shame to be seen as good? Like what you went through wasn't okay and you weren't made strong and independent by the abuse you went through. You just were less disabled and had a sense of initiative that let you not die. And it sucked for you.
If you masked- it was to avoid bullying or abuse or being jobless - yet like half of you cannot fathom that the kid who couldn't mask had it hard? You think that everyone was just okay with him and that they were so kind to them and therefore instead of developing the shame needed to be a good independent normal person they just costed by on sympathy? That when people heard he had autism they just stopped being assholes? You literally masked to avoid getting hurt. You masked so you wouldn't starve. They starved because they couldn't adapt and it's cause they are more disabled.
Autism is a developmental disability that is a spectrum- many of us are actually slow and hit milestones late and it's not because no one is forcing us to learn. And since it's a spectrum some of us are very slow and might miss many milestones. No amount of abuse will change that for any of us
I hate the whole 'neglected/abused children are mature capable and independent because they had to be' because it's so untrue. So many kids just go to school in filthy clothes without eating. They don't get out of bed. Especially in the case of disabled children who were neglected- they didn't necessarily become more independent- a lot of them sucked it up and suffered through chronic pain and lack of aides.
The kids who did learn to pay rent and cook their own food and who took care of their own kids aren't do exist. But these kids aren't more mature and yes they are more capable and independent than other children there age- but it came at such a heavy cost and also these kids often develop mental issues. They aren't okay.
Disabled adults should get to choose to go to bed whenever the fuck we want, even if the support we need to do so is inconvenient or expensive.
Disabled adults should be able to go on nights out with friends until 5am then sleep in until the afternoon if we want to.
I really shouldn’t be turning down social invites because my care provider and local authority say I need to be in bed by 10pm at 26 years old.
This also applies to disabled adults who live in nursing homes or supportive housing, especially intellectually disabled adults who are often treated like children with strict bedtimes and mealtimes and punishments if they wish or need to sleep or eat on a different schedule or want to enjoy the same flexibility as any other adult person.
There needs to be an extraordinarily compelling reason to control people and remove their autonomy about things as simple as sleeping and eating (and toileting which is a whole other post). "But it's not convenient to the workers" isn't compelling at all.
Definitely!
“Stay up Late” is an organisation in the UK campaigning to end bedtimes for people with learning disabilities (US English: intellectual disability).
They also have gig buddy volunteers who can go with learning disabled people to live music or sports events.
hey can you come over and surgically remove this heavy, aching rot from my heart? we can watch a movie afterwards
I often refer to my bottle-raised lamb as my adopted daughter, because it’s mostly true, it temporarily keeps nosy strangers from knowing I’m an eeeevil childfree woman, and it’s hilarious when people find out. And by that time they’re usually too disturbed by the “her-daughter-is-a-sheep” thing to get on my case about the “woman-with-no-husband-or-kids-oh-the-horror” thing.
Most of my friends are aware that I do this, and will back me up in conversations without batting an eye when I reference my daughter. And the best part is that they literally never drop the story. They just 100% all the time accept that I have a two-year-old adopted daughter. The fact that she happens to be a sheep is an unimportant detail, not worth mentioning until an anecdote gets too weird to plausibly be about a human toddler.
Which actually takes much longer than you’d think, since human toddlers apparently have absolutely zero sense. “She bites if you stop paying attention to her” is believable, “she tries to eat rocks out of the landscaping” is believable, “she stuck her head through a fence and couldn’t get out” is believable. “She jumped a five foot fence and came screaming back into the house through the dog door when I left her outside in the pasture” does get some strange looks, though usually not for the right reason.
Occasionally the joke gets turned around on me, though. I posted a picture on my not-tumblr blog of her wearing my glasses, and every comment was “Oh my gosh she looks just like you!!!” “I would never have known she was adopted If you hadn’t told me!!” “Are you sure that’s not an old picture of you?!”
So apparently this is what I look like:
At least she does look cute in glasses.
[ID: a close-up photo of a brown sheep, stylishly sporting a pair of glasses. End ID]
