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@draconicnebula

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Hey OP? I want you to know that this post changed my life. I have seen it three times now, and while life is still pretty hard, I have focused on increasing my calories and gaining some weight because you know what? You're right.

Hate it when TikTok farm cosplayers and cottagecore types say stuff like "I'm not going to use modern equipment because my grandmothers could make do without it." Ma'am, your great grandma had eleven children. She would have killed for a slow cooker and a stick blender.

I’ve noticed a sort of implicit belief that people used to do things the hard way in the past because they were tougher or something. In reality, labor-saving devices have historically been adopted by the populace as soon as they were economically feasible. No one stood in front of a smoky fire or a boiling pot of lye soap for hours because they were virtuous, they did it because it was the only way to survive.

Taking these screenshots from Facebook because they make you log in and won't let you copy and paste:

i would like to add one of the best charts on wikipedia, use of machines by amish groups, perceived to be the most tech-eschewing of them all

motorized washing machines (usually diesel powered wringers) have 97% usage among all amish groups. aint NO ONE want to do laundry the hard way.

my corner store guy is a 50 year old man who's my best friend in the world and recently he was like "you're too pretty to be single I have some nephews you should meet. very handsome!" and I was like "a niece might be more up my alley" and he just got more excited and said "ah even better! I was overselling my nephews but my nieces are very beautiful"

OP the tags!!

Maria Skłodowska-Curie's notebooks are crazy once you think about it. They're so radioactive they have to be sealed in a lead box. Imagine a world where atomic theory is forgotten and a dude just goes "yea there's a book that details the secrets of the universe, the machinations of the creation of existence down to its barest essentials, but if you get close to it you fucking die. The more you read it the more your body slowly disassembles into mush." like wat excuse me

The idea of “but everyone knows that” needs to stop.

I saw a post about someone chiding Millennials for not knowing about JKRowlings transphobia, and asking how it is at all possible that people can exist in the world and the internet and, you know, not know.

Which I mean, I get. It is so present in so many of my online spaces that it seems astounding that someone could simply be ignorant! It feels impossible!

But let me tell you a story:

I went on a girls trip with a bunch of friends. All of us are rather incredibly liberal and all of us are incredibly online.

One girl would not stop talking about Harry Potter.

At one point, another girl asked her why she was ok with supporting it, and she had no real clue that JK Rowling was at all transphobic. She had heard that she likes to support Lesbian causes and thought “oh ok cool!” And that was it. She was AGOG with the news and rather horrified.

I must once again emphasize that she was an incredibly online person. She’s a foodie and a restaurant blogger.

Later in the trip we were picking restaurants and I suggested one I found on Google, and she gasped at me. Actually gasped, asking how I could ever be okay picking that one.

The shock must’ve been on my face, because she then told me all of the shitty things that restaurateur does. He abuses staff. Underpays them. Fires them on a whim. Is known for being one of the worst people to his employees in the entire restaurant business on this coast.

And she was so shocked I had never heard of this. Because in her mind, I was just as online as her. And in her online world, EVERYONE knew about this guy.

So I think the moral of this story is: always approach the other person with some empathy. Even online people, even people you think MUST know about how bad people are, may not have heard. It may truly be just them being on a different sphere of the internet than you.

So be gentle, be kind when letting people know they might not have heard about the cancellation of XYZ person. Don’t assume that everyone knows all the same info as you.

By all means, let them know so they can make informed decisions, but being kind will go a lot further than attacking them for some info they might not know yet.

my friends let me control the mods for our Minecraft server for the FIRST TIME, so here's the special world I crafted:

  • instead of wolves we have pound puppies the size of cows (huge wet eyes)
  • ak47s
  • airplanes, but they're alive and can drown
  • the long horse
  • excessive blood splatter when you take damage
  • you leave a corpse when you're killed
  • 1/5000 chance of a skeleton running across your screen at any moment
  • genetic betta fish
  • special aquariums
  • anime boys (have to remove this one bc they spawn instead of animals, and we want to farm)
  • evil entities that follow you and try to kill you when you're alone
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compassionatereminders

“No one remembered my birthday-” Well, but did YOU tell anyone it was coming up and you wanted to celebrate it with them?

“I wish someone would see through it when I tell people I’m fine-” Well, but have YOU considered not lying when people ask you how you’re doing?

“I am so resentful of my friend because they keep doing this thing that really bothers me-” Well, but have YOU directly communicated that the thing is bothering you?

“I am burning out because my friend keeps expecting me to help them with serious struggles-” Well, but have YOU tried to establish the boundaries you need to feel okay?

“No one ever asks me about this thing I really care about-” Well, but have YOU brought it up yourself?

“I miss my friend but they haven’t texted me-” Well, but have YOU been reaching out to them?

Sometimes people are mean, uncaring assholes, in which case you get to be mad. But sometimes you just need to communicate better. Try communication before you assume someone doesn’t care!

Having someone who knows you on such a deep level that they see past your mask, or sense you need a check in is such a deep satisfying fantasy. It’s up there with living in a cottagecore farm, or buying all your friends houses when you win the lottery. But you have to make peace with the fact that this is also a fantasy. It is unfair to expect people to “just know” when to respect your boundaries or to push them.

Being cared for is not a fantasy. But you have to let people know you need it. And you have to understand that sometimes they will let you down. Just like you totally could live in a cute farm, but you still have to shovel shit, and the crops sometimes die anyway. Or maybe you win the lottery, but you still have to manage your money and learn real estate law.

The fantasy isn’t the caring, the fantasy is not having to do the work. And it sucks. It’s embarrassing. But like the meme says, it’s not rotten if it’s YOU. So do it for yourself.

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compassionatereminders

“The fantasy isn’t the caring, the fantasy is not having to do the work”! Thank you for that addition. Because it’s not a naive expectation to want someone to care to treat you right. But it requires communication and mutual effort to actually get there

modern horror writers be like: what do you mean there's things scarier than old women, mentally ill people, and pagan beliefs??

"what do you mean i shouldn't depict indigenous people and trans women like that??"

woke up and someone spilled vanilla extract all over my dash, so as punishment you strange little beasties are getting all the VANILLA FACTS i know:

  • vanilla is the 2nd most expensive spice in the world (2nd to saffron)
  • which is why more than 99% of what we call "vanilla extract" is actually vanillin (vanilla's dominant flavor compound) and is not extracted from real vanilla.
  • luckily, even professionals struggle to tell the difference when it comes to things like baked goods. but there is a distinct difference in non-heat treated products like vanilla ice cream. real vanilla has a more complex, individualized flavor profile.
  • why is vanilla so expensive? because it is a ridiculously delicate & demanding crop. complete primadonna.
  • vanilla beans come from vanilla orchids. these crazy flowers bloom for A SINGLE DAY and have to be HAND-POLLINATED in a process that is exhausting, delicate, and requires specialist knowledge passed down over generations.
  • then, if you're lucky, you get vanilla beans.
  • which then require months of further specialized treatment.
  • the entire process takes about a year and can go wrong at any stage
  • vanilla has been cultivated for over 800 years (possibly much longer). the first known cultivators are the Totonac, an indigenous people of Mexico.
  • the Aztecs used it as a sweetener to balance out the bitter taste of cocoa. it was popular in a drink called xocolatl--the precursor to modern hot chocolate!
  • it is only pollinated by a very specific orchid bee!!!
  • which is why no fruit could be grown outside of Mexico until the 1800s
  • Edmond Albius, born into slavery, invented the pollination method we still use today--launching a global industry when he was just 12 years old.
  • today, the majority of the world's vanilla is grown in Madagascar
  • if you want real vanilla, read the labels carefully--it's harder to find than you think!

in conclusion, those tiny black specks you see in fancy vanilla ice cream? those are vanilla bean seeds! itty bitty orchid seeds!!! they are delicious and also a PRISSY BITCH!

(src)

Okay, but what about Saffron? Why is that more expensive?

ok i love saffron but it is a fucking CUNT look at this shit:

this is saffron. it's made up of tiny red threads. each of those threads?

  • THREE TO A FUCKING FLOWER.
  • it takes 75,000 flowers to make ONE POUND of saffron
  • do u see this field? do u see this fucking field?
  • this field will produce enough saffron to fit in a goddam...baggie? a basket? a smallish bucket, perhaps?
  • and did I MENTION
  • the harvesting has to be done BY HAND
  • are u
  • are u comprehending
  • the Bullshit, are u comprehending it yet?
  • can u imagine. having to sit over a pile of thousands of blossoms and pick each. motherfucking. thread. by hand.
  • and after hours and hours
  • (your joints aching)
  • (your fingers stained)
  • after hours of this nonsense, lo and behold! you have harvested--about a thimble full of fucking saffron
  • jesus wept and so should you

she's such a whore why do i love her

*pointing at the banilla beans, after explaining to my girlfriend that the pollination method was to push the pollen back into the flower

THESE, These are selfcest beans!

really hilarious and unsexy when hetero romantasy authors refer to love interests as males and females. you sound like david attenborough narrating a special documentary on two turtles humping in the mud

i don't care if he's the king of the fae. if that man called me a desirable female i'd have him gelded

Marching my men in a bouncy fashion behind enemy lines and we disappear behind a large hill and reemerge with stolen tanks and heavy artillery on top of our heads like ants carrying away a picnic basket and various fruits and sandwiches

Excellent work my lads

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