Clip of Lucy Dacus on the Las Culturistas podcast.
This is one of the best explanations I’ve heard for being open and welcoming. Definitely worth a listen. It’s short but powerful.
“Why are we keeping a gate we all had to walk through?” Is such an amazing sentence.
Transcript:
Lucy Dacus: Is he a villain? I don’t think so, honey. And here’s why: first of all, sometimes you have to wear the costume before it becomes clothes. Sometimes people are the ally at the pride parade for years before they figure out why they keep showing up. Why are we gatekeeping a gate that all of us had to walk through at one point or other, specifically with the dangly earring, sometimes we have a guy with a dangly earring and then you wait five years and you have a beautiful woman on your hands. In other situations, the guy takes out the earring, no one was hurt. If you don’t like that guy, that has to do with that guy’s personality. And unfortunately, it would be so easy if we actually knew who people were from what they’re wearing, but we do have to do the hard work and take the time to find out if someone is actually disingenuous or cool with us. And I think that the threat of being made fun of or thought of as disingenuous at the front is intimidating people out of being creative and playful with their presentation, which could lead them down a path to a life that would be more tolerable and fun.
tshirt that says “i do not consent to being filmed” on the front and “i am in witness protection and if you film me and post it online you could be directly responsible for my death” on the back
when someone post a picture of me and my shirt online i then deploy my 87 alt accounts posing as various members of the mob to send the uploader messages demanding to know the whereabouts of the person in the image and making it implicitly clear that i plan to harm them
