I've been there my dude. Give me a minute to type out something seriously long

Sounds like you could be bisexual. Nothing wrong with that!

Thanks man, you could be right. ☺

Just think, you can get to experience the best of both worlds, hehe!

I grew up liking girls. I feel sexually more attracted to women than men. However I also think some men are very attractive. Even if my sexual preference is women, I can see myself with some guys. (Personally I'm demisexual so I typically don't sexually desire strangers. If you're not aware of this a google search is way better than me trying to explain.) I file myself under panromantic because gender doesn't stop me from dating or finding someone attractive. There's plenty of terms that would help you find out what you're really into and you shouldn't feel bad for liking one or the other. People are just pretty. (Honestly the amount of pretty people that are out of my league is the most frustrating part of all this.) My explaination has become rambling so I'll stop here and just let you ask me questions.

Thank you so much for the reply, and yeah, I've always found women to be sexier, even now. But I'll be damned if I haven't had some steamy dreams about both. When I brought this up to one of my friends, she said that I lay somewhere around the edges of heteroflexible (which I had to look up) meaning that I had an incredibly strong preference for women, but my orientation wasn't set completely in stone for them. This was probably the best advice I was given on the subject, but I still think it's not quite that simple.

In the end, all I know so far is that I'm not completely straight, I think. It's just so bewildering to me that this would happen to me at 26, when I showed no signs of it before.

I comepletely understand. Learning yourself takes a lot of time. Oddly enough I was a tomboyish little girl and now I'm a very femme boy. You'll only see it coming half the time and sometimes you change due to something you've gone through. You can't really predict who you'll be a few years from now but you should enjoy the good things about yourself any time.

I guess that's true, thank you so much for your help, it really means a lot! ☺☺☺

I know I wish I had help learning this stuff. That's why I wanna help. If you ever have anymore questions feel free to note me.

I can't really offer anything except my own experiences, hehe <3 I first experienced what I would consider definable homoerotic feelings as a pre-teen, or young teenager perhaps, around the age of 12 or 13, but they seemed to fade a bit in high school, though I knew one fellow who was very delicate, so to speak, and I was attracted to his femininity so to speak. I think I used to be attracted to women more, but today I don't know in real life, I sometimes watch porn, but it's usually heterosexual porn.

I think I tried acting on my homosexual urges on here (it was my first time, as I vividly recall), partly due to my disillusionment with females thus far and failed relationships, and also a feeling of inferiority to other males. So I tried homosexual furry role play on here and I liked it and still really do, though I'm not sure in real life if I am attracted to the male physique, though if I watch homosexual porn, I get off more on the power variance between the males, but do that with females as well; namely I envision myself in the role of the submissive one, though it's harder to find that in hetero porn but I do like bossy females in porn, though once in awhile I'll look up a man domming the woman, but actually I watch more egalitarian roled porn today, mostly amateur stuff. The sense of genuine intimacy trumps power play, the older I get it seems.

But back to the original question, yes, I've seen some stunning males who are very proportionate and androgynous, yet confident... I recall one on here who had his rl pic up and I actually felt myself crushing on his real life appearance, something i don't often do with guys. But same with girls these days, I tend to abstract too much perhaps, perhaps it's just too much time spent in online romantic pursuits with fantasy characters and such. I dunno, but yeah, I do love a woman who's my height, near it, or taller than me... It's a fetish I'm somewhat ashamed of, though I like the idea of a man being taller than me in my fantasies too. But I am a bit of a mess sexually I suppose, though still a virgin in real life and not planning on changing it, I feel I have what I need, and in fantasy I am impervious to criticism or disappointment to my real appearance, and mine of another's. Though I sometimes think I may be schizotypal, I don't know.

Hope that helps, sorry to ramble but that is a great question, you could be discovering a side of yourself at any age I suppose. Isn't latent homosexuality a term? I forget what it means though...

Thanks, Draggy, I'm thinking that at the moment, I'm at least 85% percent straight, so I know I'm definitely not gay, but I can't deny that when that other 15% of me sees a certain type of guy, it drives me wild. That's part of where my confusion is coming from, it's not a mild fifteen percent, it hits me like a freight train when it happens.

You're welcome, that makes sense try not to worry about it too much