I'm a ridiculous human and genuinely couldn't sleep until I tried my hand at a better, more balanced list -- though of course, I have my own biases when it comes to what corners of this website I've lurked in over the years. For what it's worth, I did consult the last several Years In Review, while also drawing on the fact that I've been here for over a decade. But if there's anything that truly doesn't feel like it should have made the cut, blame my mutuals for putting it on my dash all the time.

(And apologies, but I couldn't seem to find Goncharov among the website's listings)

later you find out that applecock is like a) the nicest lady in the world, b) in her late fifties and c) is a well respected senior member of a career you didn't know existed like head mop taxonomist or chief piano refurbishment factor or secretary of racehorses and suddenly a few of the comments in the longest orgy scene are even funnier.

It would also be rather silly and pointless if I introduced myself like “Hi, I’m S and I use he/him pronouns and I was 7.5 lbs when I was born.” And it would be absolutely ridiculous if I decided I would only date or be friends with people who were between 6 and 8 lbs at birth. It would be really weird if someone’s weight as a baby was treated as one of their defining features.

AGAB describes a single event that happened when you were born. It’s not a gender identity or a description of what someone’s body looks like or a personality trait, so please stop treating it as such.

Hi I’m back and I’m still annoyed about this. “7.5 lbs at birth bodies” is a completely nonsensical phrase. My body might look very different from someone who was also 7.5 lbs when they were born. My body might look very similar to someone who was not 7.5 lbs when they were born. Bodies are complex and have a lot of variety and absolutely cannot be categorized by what a doctor said when you were born.

So for the love of god stop using AGAB terms to describe bodies. “AFAB bodies” “AMAB anatomy” “AFAB genitals” shut the fuck up!!!!

I hate how there’s so much a thing around being mean online. I don’t see much of this mean joking stuff in trans spaces in person, just online. Can’t be in trans spaces online without seeing 50 “haha fresh out transfems and their bad and ugly Amazon skirts” jokes or “cringy transmasc art! It’s all tacky uwu cowboy love art!! Lmao!!!” Or “lmao nonbinary people have no fashion taste!! They are so ugly!” Why be mean?

Surprising amount of people mad at the opinion of “I think being mean is bad. I think people should be nice :)”