Once Robby smiled while Javadi and Ogilvie tried to out smart each other, this is all I saw

tl;dr: do not support morshu or morshu content

tw // LO, r0pe, b*mbs

HE RESPONDED LMAO

He will never recover from this.

"Friend shaped" this "Friend shaped" that What about Enemy shaped. Opponent shaped

gordon ramsey: is the food good here?

underpaid server: 

My favourite thing about that show is how he treats servers. It was also the source of some very intense fantasies when I was a barista of him busting into my cafe, calling my boss a fucking idiot, then taking me against the broken dishwasher.

at some point you have to realize that you actually have to read to understand the nuance of anything. we as a society are obsessed with summarization, likely as a result of the speed demanded by capital. from headlines to social media (twitter being especially egregious with the character limit), people take in fragments of knowledge and run with them, twisting their meaning into a kaleidoscope that dilutes the message into nothing. yes, brevity is good, but sometimes the message, even when communicated with utmost brevity, requires a 300 page book. sorry.

this post is apparently going around terf circles now so i feel like i should let y'all know that you are agreeing with a transsexual lesbian who fucks nasty. get the fuck off my post and also your "feminism" is anything but.

reblog this version, cowards

starting a collection

never get less delusional about sports btw. believe every rumour you see. your team is winning no matter what. your favourite player is gonna have a career season at any moment. that trade is happening. nobody has ever regretted being delusional <3

I've read a post about mental illness and manipulation weeks ago, and I keep turning it around in my head, because it addresses something that bothers me about tumblr mental health discourse, and its swing to and fro between two extremes. One: you aren't allowed to complain about this annoying or outright harmful behaviour because it might be a symptom of mental illness or neurodivergence. Two: people who claim their mental illness caused them to doing something truly heinous are always lying, mental illness doesn't make you do that. Mentally ill or neurodivergent people are either 0% or 100% responsible for their actions, they are either lil beans who are not to be blamed for anything, or they're evil liars in full control of their actions. We're not having the difficult conversations about mental illness as a factor or a mitigating circumstance, we're not trying to find those numbers between zero and one hundred.

But that's not even my biggest problem with the discourse! My problem is that the question of whether a person is culpable for their actions is irrelevant to whether another person has the right to draw boundaries with them. You can draw boundaries even if someone is hurting you completely unintentionally and without malice. A metaphor: if someone you love gets the Punch You In The Face Disease, where they genuinely, truly cannot help punching you in the face, you're not morally obliged to stay in punching range and pretend it doesn't hurt. It's completely reasonable to physically remove yourself and limit your conversations to the phone until they are in remission.

It is good to give people accommodations. It is good to be patient and understanding with other people's mistakes, whether or not they have a diagnosed mental condition. It is also good to have boundaries, whether or not the other person has a diagnosed mental condition. It doesn't actually *matter* if the he is mansplaining or if he's infodumping on his special interest, he's talking over you either way. It doesn't matter if she's flaking on you because she's an asshole or because she has ADHD, you're being stood up either way. You have a choice to put up with it or not, and that choice rests with you, not with them.

Note that I'm saying this as someone who fucked up repeatedly and badly in ways that are partially down to depression, anxiety and untreated ADD, but partly down to be me being a little shit. Me not being *completely* at fault doesn't mitigate the harm I caused, and I'm very grateful that I was mostly forgiven.

I think a lot of issues around this stuff especially wrt stuff like autism and ADHD is that you have parent-child relationships involved and with those, you really do have different obligations as a parent than as a friend or partner

I know I was often aware in the moment that I was being abusive/manipulative but I couldn't help it, I felt this strong urge to act in ways that were harmful & hurtful to others that I couldn't resist most of the time.

My partner did stay around but he also established strong boundaries. I could be upset about something but that doesn't mean he'd stop doing it if it was something that was not harmful to anyone and beneficial to him, like going out with his friends when I was irrationally upset about it and wanted him to stop seeing them for some reason I didn't even understand myself. He wasn't mean about it, he just protected himself.

My father enables my mother's bad behaviors, defends her and constantly makes excuses for her and so she's only gotten worse with time. She's used to walking all over people and seeing no consequences for it.

Meanwhile, I was able to actually heal and get to a point where things are better for both me & the people around me. Thanks to everyone who didn't enable me. I also benefit from not being angry, scared, anxious and lashing out constantly.

It's not ableist to tell someone that their behavior (even when it's caused by poor mental health) is unacceptable and you're not going to put up with it. You shouldn't be an asshole about it or bully them but like if someone's pushing your buttons, taking advantage and being a dick to you... you're also human, if you react badly in return, they should have some understanding for you too.

You shouldn't have to always be the bigger person & take everyone's punches. You don't have to be a catholic saint. You deserve protecting too, even if you aren't the person with the worst trauma & mental health in the room.

Ragebaiting my fat dog? More like master baiting my fat hog!!!!!!!!

❗️Great Hog is displeased by this.

The kingly pig looks taken aback by this statement. "You claim to be 'baiting' our kind?.. A master of it, no less - after all the trust we hsve placed in you?"

- Your relationship with the Hog Society 🐖 is now Unfavourable.

An early 20th century postcard against the coercion of motherhood and promoting the usage of contraception.

She is going to hit that Christian baby for a home run.

why do they always end up as blonde white women  😭

Keep almost quoting this in posts like anyone on earth knows what im talking about

My three children could die from the cold

They are trapped in freezing conditions inside a tent that offers no protection—no heating, no proper blankets no safety.

Alma and Lama are burning with high fevers and suffering from severe illness caused by this unbearable life in the cold. I watch them shiver in front of me powerless while my heart breaks.

Every minute that passes puts their lives at greater risk.

Please, donate now to help us provide warmth, food, and urgent medical care for my children.

If you cannot donate, please share—your share could be the reason my children survive.

Vetted by #520

Zhao Zhao (Chinese, b. 1982)

Constellations, 2021-2022

Embroidery on silk

ok so i’ve seen some of you aren’t that sure that this is actually embroidery (i was suspicious too bc damn!!!!) so here you is another embroidery of his with some close ups♥ :

Constellations, 2017 (300 x 980 cm)

embroidery on silk

embroidery on silk-

Embroidery on Silk???

Embroidery?????? On silk???????

done correectly “Night Breakfast” can be one of the most tasty and elegant meals in an Eaters toolkit

Your kid probably already knows about sex. Despite your most careful efforts, they probably have figured it out at least a little bit.

My aunt was pregnant with my cousin when I was 4. My other cousin gave us a kitten because his female cat 'got out of the barn' when i was 5, and i had to learn what 'spaying' was. It was rumored (correctly) that I was a lesbian when I was 7. When I was 9, a couple of boys on my bus were gawking at a playboy one of them stole from their dad.

When I was 11, I was friends with a girl who was a victim of sexual abuse from a family member. My parents gave me 'the talk', which was largely about consent and why bodies are weird. I watched "Revenge of the Nerds." When I was 12, I was friends with someone who wrote rape fantasies. I learned what hentai was. I learned what a furry was (though i have a more nuanced understanding of it now). When I was 13, I was told by a classmate that I seemed like the kind of person to (extremely graphic description of a bdsm kink that I didnt know existed.) My church gave me 'the talk,' which was largely about STIs and why you shouldnt have sex til youre married. My school also gave me 'the talk,' which was largely about the names of body parts and what pregnancy is like. I saw a South Park episode. I saw some John Hughes movies. I watched a friend deep-throat a banana as a joke. Crime procedurals were on TV. When I was 15, most of my friends were on fanfiction.net and livejournal (I am old) or roleplaying through online forums. I learned what yaoi was. One of my friends had a restraining order on her ex for stalking.

At 16, I was largely inexperienced with sex- had never been on a date due to a complicated relationship with the closet. But it seemed everyone else had quite a bit of experience, whether good or bad or neutral. So I learned some things this way.

When we talk about banning books for being 'sexually explicit,' my mind goes to "Speak," by Laurie Halse Anderson- which is about a teenage rape survivor. One of the reasons for its banning is that it includes the rape scene, but the narration fades to black before it becomes graphic.

I read that when I was 13, and it made me think of Sasha- my friend who was a SA victim at the age of 11 and who knew how long it had gone on, who dropped off my radar after 5th grade. And I would think about that book again and again every time I would make a friend with that kind of story (surprisingly often.)

So... all of this. All of this gets revisited when we talk about purity culture, when we talk about 'sexually explicit books with minors,' when we talk about 'protecting their innocence.'

I, a nerd that never went to parties, was not the target audience for this book- even if it helped me relate.

The target audience was Sasha. Or Kelsey. Or Nicole.

And here I am, arguing with some asshole on the internet who probably calls himself a 'protector of children' by supporting drag bans and book bans and defunding planned parenthood, because he thinks that a young adult book about navigating toxic relationships that has the words 'hand on my thigh' in it should be banned because thats 'sexually explicit' and I'm tired.

Your kid probably knows about sex. Through friends at school, through family members, through observation. I think its okay to let them read books where the lesson is that they're allowed to say 'no' to it.

This, by the way, applies to a host of 'inappropriate topics' that books get banned over.

The book about drug addiction might not be for you, but it is for the kid whose dad is in and out of rehab.

The book about child trafficking might not be for you, but it might be for the kid whose cousin disappeared one day.

The book about the school shooting will likely not make your kid a school shooter, but it will provide understand for the kids who have been through one.

The book about racism isnt supposed to make you feel bad for being white- its supposed to help the kid that feels bad for being black.

The book about a gay kid wont turn your kid gay, but it might help the kid who needs to come out.

The book about the transgender kid probably wont make your kid trans, but it will give a voice to the kid that already is.

Your kid probably knows these things if they've interacted with the world outside their nuclear family at all. If youre looking at a reading list and thinking that the books should be banned, it might be prudent to instead ask yourself 'who is this book written for?'