Here’s my new years post for you degenerates to ironically reblog years from now!!!
Happy 2026!!!!
I miss 100% of the shots I don’t take
I miss 100% of the shots I take
I am banned from the local bar
I forgot to mention why the achor buttons are important. They are the reason the ribbons don’t flop forward from the weight!
I just needed to rant about why I am so picky about this really stupid niche thing that I care about way too much! Because I care about it way too much and if I don’t channel it here, it’ll come out somewhere else.
Anti-censorship Pro-judging. ✌️
How to never forget anything in a hotel room ever again!
Years ago I went on a roadtrip with my mom and brother. We were passing through so many hotels that we developed a system. It has not failed us in well over a decade since.
There are three tasks to divide amongst your party however you wish (plus one optional task.)
1.) Someone tosses the beds. Shake the blankets out and look under the pillows.
2.) Someone checks all the electronical outlets. Grab anything you left plugged in.
3.) Someone looks in the bathroom. Counters, shower, and floor.
and optional 4.) Someone checks the fridge. If you had the time to get any food or drink during your stay.
Congrats, you just found anything you were about to forget! You’re welcome.
The way my cat slowly climbed over me and put her leg directly in between me and my phone. Then proceeded to slowly lower herself into the space until I could no longer see any of the screen, purring like a motor the entire time btw.
It was absurd and I wish someone else had witnessed it.
Forget the so called “War on Christmas”, has anyone noticed that there’s actually a war on Halloween?
Like everything they claimed was happening to Christmas, is visibly happening to Halloween.
You can’t say “Happy Halloween” without offending someone. Teachers are being forbidden from putting up decorations or throwing parties. HOAs are trying to forbid trick-or-treating. There is an active push to prevent or penalized people for celebrating Halloween!
Ironically, I’m pretty sure most of this nonsense is coming from the people that claimed there was a war on Christmas.
gentle reminder that when you're commenting on someone's work (e.g. fanwork), please read back what you wrote and ask yourself "does this language sound indistinguishable from hate? is knowing me personally a requirement for understanding my tone?" before you hit send. i feel like i get a lot of comments from complete strangers that are completely indistinguishable between "legitimately complaining about the work" and "trying to 'playfully roast' OP in a loving way". you're a stranger to me. i cannot tell which it is, so my brain assumes the former
“You are such a monster!!! I feel like you kicked my puppy!!”
From my beloved friend who regularly has conversations with me that sound like this: “Aw! I’m glad you liked it! 🥰Consider it revenge for gutting me last week.”
From a regular commenter that usually says nice things: “Haha…In a good way, right?🥺”
From a stranger: “I am so afraid of this aggressive person I appear to have pissed off. Please leave alone hostile stranger.”
If you really feel the need to express yourself this way, then just clarify it in text.
“You are such a monster, in the best way possible! I loved this! I feel like you kicked my puppy (affectionate). This is exactly the kind of thing I want more of.”
Do you see how that is a lot harder to misread the intent? It’s honestly that easy of a fix.
Sometimes I think something is overblown or that people are inventing made up problems in my fandoms.
Then something happens to remind me of my thorough blocklists and loving relationship with the filters.
And suddenly I remember that I’m only having such a good time because I’ve been responsible in maintaining my own peace.
does everyone have a teacher that they still have beef with/ hold a grudge against today??
I grew up to work in a school. Seeing what things look like from the otherside has put a lot of things into perspective.
I have found a lot of forgiveness for a lot of my teachers. That woman was 24 years old, in her first year teaching, and I hit her with a problem that heavy and complicated? Of course she didn’t know what to do! Of course she made a bunch of mistakes! Of course she panicked and made it worse! I’m lucky she didn’t start crying right then and there from the stress of the situation! She probably still tells the story to new hires so they don’t do what she did.
The flipside is that I found MORE rage for a few of my teachers. I know you were told not to do that and why, but you did it anyways! There was SO many better options, but you decided to do that. I would raise holy hell if I caught a coworker acting that way with a student! You had no business behaving like that! Unacceptable. You were supposed to be the adult!
how does one develop discipline in the first place. it seems like discipline requires initial discipline to develop. it's a paradox.
you have to hit rock bottom so hard that you almost die
I mean real talk? The same way you train anything.
If you want to get strong, it seems like you require initial strength to lift the weights. Same concept.
Same way you start with the easy weights, you start with the easy discipline. Push yourself until you’re uncomfortable and stop before you hurt. That is the sweet spot. That is the place you grow.
Slowly increase the difficulty as you start to get comfortable with greater and greater amounts. Eventually you’ll be lifting the heavy weights.
Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.
It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.
Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.
Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.
Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)
Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!
You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!
If you want it in a simple phrase:
You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.
So the notes on this post have a great example of this concept!
Everybody aggressively calling me stupid and saying I don’t know what I’m talking about because I treated the words “guilt” and “shame” like synonyms instead of distinguishing between them in proper therapy speak….
Is making me roll my eyes. I am ignoring you. You sound pretentious. I have no interest in engaging with you or this concept.
Everybody saying I have a good point that could benefit from the distinction a lot of therapist like to make between “guilt” and “shame” as “internal” vs “external” feelings, but acknowledging that isn’t common language outside of professional therapy…
Is making me want to learn what their talking about and maybe take it on board. That’s interesting and I see your point.
Do you see the difference?
(I don’t think anyone else sees the irony of trying to shame me out of using the word “shame”, but I do, and I am laughing.)
Genuinely, I sometimes wonder what the hell happened to people to make them so self conscious. Maybe it’s just pretty privilege and I’m just conventionally acceptable to society in all these ways, but HOW do you guys even NOTICE these things?
“I have such an awful nose.” It’s a nose? It’s not even like it’s big or shaped distinctively? What possessed you to notice that it’s a straight slope instead of a curved slope? I have never heard anything about that before in my life! Who told you that was a thing!?
“I hate my voice” WHERE!? WHAT!? HOW!? It’s not like you have a really high or low pitch? You don’t have a strong accent or speech impediment. Can you tell me exactly what is wrong with your voice, because I can’t figure it out. You just sound normal! YOU DON’T SOUND DIFFERENT FROM THE CASHIER I SPOKE TO YESTERDAY! WHAT IS THE PROBLEM!?
“My smile is so ugly.” Huh!? I don’t….WHAT!? First if all, why are you compulsively checking the mirror enough to judge your individual facial expressions? Second, your teeth are fine, nothing notable about your lips, what exactly- WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU “JUST DON’T LIKE HOW IT LOOKS”!?!?! YOU HAVE TO HAVE A METRIC! YOU CAN’T JUST DECIDE YOU’RE UGLY BECAUSE “VIBES”!!!!!
“My toes” “my elbows” “my calves” “my earlobes”
Whaaaaat the fuuuuuuck!?!?!? Who the hell are you comparing yourself to!? What deranged tabloids are you reading that tell you there’s an ideal earlobe shape!?
I don’t know. Maybe I just don’t understand because I have the ideal earlobe shape, but it seems ridiculous to me. Where does this shit come from!?
it is truly astounding how unembarrassed people are to have less basic curiosity about the world than a rural peasant from the 1400s
someone figured out how to eat tapioca and you won't boil an egg
I don't like the phrase 'learned helplessness' bc I think 90% of what we use it for right now isn't learned helplessness at all, it's learned refusal. Nobody actually thinks they are too stupid and incompetent to try boiling an egg or to click on the second page of google results, they just can't be fucking bothered and have learned all kinds of cargo cult structural inequality talking points to justify it.
Ohhh schools don't teach critical thinking any more ohhh my parents never taught me how to boil water ohhhhhh not everyone is privileged enough to have the time and energy to read two whole wikipedia articles I have no choice but to go through life with the accumulated knowledge of a dead beetle.
my best friend's most recent ex was a 39-year-old cis white man who did not know how to make grilled cheese and refused to learn. he was actively ashamed of the fact that he didn't know how to do it. and yet did nothing to rectify this!!!!! he just shame spiraled about it and blamed his ADHD.
like. grilled cheese! 10-year-olds can do this!!!!! if you used your brain for 10 seconds you could almost definitely figure it out!!!!! you could literally look it up!!!!!!! AND YET
So the good news about anything that you were never taught as a child, is that it’s so simple a child can learn it!
I’m serious. The more embarrassed you are not to know it, the quicker its probably going to be to learn! There’s probably a song for it too if you look hard enough!
I’m sorry the adults in charge of you failed you when you were a child, but now you are the adult in charge of you! You can and should do better.
Maybe the treasure's real curse was the enemies we made along the way
To be fair, the real treasure was the friends we made along the way. This seems appropriate.
Turns out, the real adventure was actually just socializing.