I was not very good at the whole girl thing, but I do have some tips to pass along.
- if you decide you want to shave, which remember you are not obligated to and not shaving doesn't make you any less a woman, you should do so in stages. If you have never shaved before the hair is probably decently long and if you use a regular woman's razor right off the bat.... you will not get a good shave. I recommend
Something like this. use the electric side to shorten everything wait a couple days so that you don't irritate your skin then use shaving cream/soap and the manual end of the razor to finish, find a lotion you like and put that everywhere you just shaved to stop razor burn.
- i don't use tiktok so but this is extra helpful if you do. You probably have a snapchat right? People still use snapchat right? Anyway if you don't know where to even start looking for fashion inspiration (and makeup but like you are already beautiful you don't need make up) go to the stories page on shnpchat and follow a content aggregator
DIY time, DIY on a dime, adulting 101, and hackit regularly use fashion tiktokers/instas for their source, watch a couple if you see stuff you like grab their username and follow them on their platform
Fourninelooks is great they cover makeup and hair for more than just white people
The easiest way to cultivate your taste is to take inspiration from people that you think have good taste.
- skirts and dresses can be worn in all season get yourself fleece lined tights they make ones that look like transparent black tights over skin too so you can be warm and comfortable without sacrificing your style
- you can find out your own bra size with just a long piece of string + tape measure or garment measuring tape. You should be doing this w/o a bra on
For step 2 you will get a more comfortable size if you lean forward as parallel to the ground as you can and measuring them as they hang towards the ground. When trying on bras, you should be using the outer most set of bra hooks for your fitting (this is so that as the elasticity wears you can use a further in hook instead of having to replace it) once it is on lift you hands above your head and look down. The middle section that rests against your sternum in between the cups should not lift or create any gaps on a well fitting bra. Also bra sizes are silly all sizes have a sister size, sister size just means that while they are different band and cup sizes they are proportional to another size meaning they are kind of the same size (chart bellow)
- never allow yourself to get comfortable with people misgendering you. You should never become comfortable with blatant disrespect you are a whole complete and beautiful woman and you should never place others happiness above your own. You deserve to be happy you deserve respect and you deserve to be surrounded by people who celebrate your journey and transition. I have been out since I was 12 and became so comfortable with people saying they were trying but making no effort that I essentially ended up back in the closet. Do not be me, defend yourself and your right to live as your whole authentic self. Do not let people misgender you and do not misgender yourself.
Never give up, stay alive, people will love you for who you are.
