"do it scared" this "do it tired" that. well no one ever talks about the fucking insurmountable "do it with greasy hair"

wish it was socially acceptable for people at work to look at customers and say "hey your friends suck you can do better" or "hey leave him you shouldn't be treated like that"

i think the wildest thing about small penis jokes amongst leftists is that the number 1 excuse you'll hear is "well i don't think its a bad thing, but they do, so that's why i said it!" and like. aside from the fact that that should never ever fly as an excuse (creating safety for intersex & trans people matters more than twisting a pericis man's internalized toxic masculinity for your own entertainment, which, it is absolutely for your entertainment & schadenfreude) its also like. lets think about the situation right. you heard a car revving really loudly & annoyingly outside, so you imagined that the person driving that car is 1. a man with a penis 2. has a small penis 3. is ashamed of his small penis 4. is channeling that shame about his small penis into revving his car's engine really loud. if you have found yourself in that situation you need to be a little more concerned with why your first thought when someone does something loud and annoying is to create this patriarchal penis fantasia instead of just going "wow what an asshole"

you tell me that all the bad people are stupid. you tell me that stupid people should be killed, bred out, that evolution will leave them behind. i tell you that's not funny, that i have an intellectual disability, that i want to be allowed to love and to have children of my own. that maybe it's not the end of the world if "stupid" people get to stay. that my caregiver loves me and takes care of me. that she reads to me. that i get by with my little accessibility tools scattered about the house, my aac, and by being gentle. you tell me it's a joke. clearly you aren't like those REAL eugenicists, you only talk like them. you tell me surely i must agree- all the bad people, the ones who take away my rights, they must not be smart, they must be lacking some information to make them like this. i tell you smart people have hurt me more than anyone else because they know better and they still choose cruelty. these people in power aren't lacking anything. they have all the resources in the world and brains that work the way they want. they don't know struggle, they doom everyone who does. you don't stop talking about "stupid people" like we're a disease to eradicate. i note you down as one more smart person who has failed me by choosing to be cruel when you knew better

“it’s not that deep” it’s not that shallow. now what

I’m taking “Fuckass Bob” away from nonblack people as a nonblack person because we cannot call every single bob a fuckass bob because they’re not all fuckass some of them are perfectly acceptable bobs many of them are lovely even you can’t just say fuckass bob unless it’s actually a bad haircut

im not really worried about aging because im only going to become hotter and more insane the older i get

i kinda don't like those posts that are like "it feels so good to be a hater in private instead of bullying people" because i don't think the only two options for negative opinions are Privacy or Bullying. being a hater in a public forum is perfectly fine, and even the most vitriolic negative opinions are not automatically bullying just because someone who might have their feelings hurt by them sees them. there's a difference between being negatively impacted by something you see and being actually targeted by negativity.

seeing someone drop an absolute dogshit off the mark screed against something you love that is not actually harmful in any real way but nevertheless activates the enrage phase of your boss battle and then learning to either just block them or keep scrolling without it ruining your day is a valuable skill. and i think we've all seen what spaces that demand constant positivity end up like. developing an inconsequential bullshit tolerance is necessary to be a well balanced member of a social species.

In case anyone finds it helpful because mobility aids are horrifically expensive and inaccessible…

And for those people who have access to mobility devices but might benefit from a second chair they can abuse without risking expensive damage…

Erik Kondo has made a website, Open Source Innovations, that details plans for DIY wheelchairs. These wheelchairs can be made from common materials like wood, plastic, and pvc. They are lightweight and can be custom fit to the user allowing from the same degree of movement you would get from a custom chair. And they are durable and easily repairable. (he has been stress testing his latest design by dropping it down stairs, dropping it out of a car, launching it across a driveway, and throwing it off a deck). Its 12lbs and I think he said its was in the $200 ish range for parts.

He also is working on cheap, open source, accessible designs for beach chairs, off road chairs, motorized attachments (think smart drive), and so on. Plus he skateboards in his wheelchair. Cool dude, helpful info, pass it on.

It's incredibly sad people have to resort to this, but it's a damn good resource. Use it. Spread awareness. Maybe one day people with physical disabilities won't need DIYs like this. But until then, reblog and share.

petition to relabel "strong sense of justice" in autism and adhd to "strong personal convictions"

“men can’t be oppressed” -> men of colour

“white men can’t be oppressed” -> gay men

“heterosexual men can’t be oppressed” -> trans men

“cis-het men can’t be oppressed” -> intersex men

“perisex men can’t be oppressed” -> disabled men

“able-bodied men can’t be oppressed” -> neurodivergent men

“cis-het perisex white able-bodied neurotypical men can’t be oppressed” -> buddy let me tell you about wealth and class and homelessness and immigrants and minority languages and cultures and being a child and being an elderly person and and and

we can keep doing this all day but the reality of the world is that very few people don’t face any kind of oppression at all and everyone exists in a complicated, intersecting web where they have privileges over some people in some contexts and some others are have privilege over them in other contexts. no one individual is incapable of enacting oppression and if you think that about yourself you need to go away and interrogate that belief.

i truly think that this recent trend of “if you relate to a post about a different identity than your own you are ~derailing~ and taking over the conversation” is incredibly harmful.

i recently experienced some pretty severe transphobic abuse in my workplace (children’s home) that included having food thrown at me, being called slurs, being told i was a pervert because i am trans. one of the managers talked with me afterwards and shared that he had had a similar experience as an Asian man. this wasn’t him derailing my experience, or talking over me, or making things about himself. he was communicating “hey, i know how it feels and how much it sucks. you’re not alone.”

THAT is what solidarity IS. i don’t know what it’s like to be Asian, he doesnt know what it’s like to be trans, but we both had a similar experience and we were able to turn a horrible experience into an opportunity for bonding and comfort.

stop looking at people’s attempts as solidarity as an attack. and hey, you never know - you could find an opportunity to grow closer to other people.

"boil him in oil" fuck off you're frying him. You expect me to believe you're getting that oil above its boiling temp? That much of it? By heating it with fucking charcoal? And you're not melting the cauldron?

That oil is NOT boiling, you are not boiling that man. You are frying him.

this new tumblr ui is so bad please save me

tumblrina gods if you hear this

REVERT REVERT REVERT AND I CAN STILL FORGIVE YOU

saw a radfem post about how there's no female version of emasculation. bestie yes there is

"masculinity is empowering and dominant and femininity is degrading and restrictive. there's no humiliating way of being stripped of chains" i want you to look women of color & disabled women in the eyes and tell them this. that there is no humiliating way to be stripped of your womanhood.

people are reblogging this again so I wanna add that on top of women of color and disabled women you can also just talk to trans men&mascs and nonbinary and intersex people raised female about this.

it's very funny to me whenever people who insist they are the final voice for Trve Feminism and have such an accurate understanding of misogyny, also completely ignore how much the cover-up of the violent policing of failed womanhood plays a role in patriarchy. babe stop believing everything the patriarchy says!!!!! IT IS LYING TO US CONSTANTLY!!!!!!!!

lots of good talk in the notes of different ways different groups are affected by this (lets call it unwomaning, but feel free to workshop lol). but! i want to prompt us to go a little deeper. clearly, this does happen, and it happens to a lot of different people. so how can people - and not just any people, but feminists - claim it doesn't? why does nearly everyone understand the concept of emasculation, but unwomaning is a non-topic?

ill talk about my own ideas later, but i wanna hear yall discuss this!

#important to add here that not just transmascs or trans people 'born women' are effected by this#trans women are too#constantly#and they also deserve to be in this conversation

yes! very true!

thats also part of why its important to talk about why this happens and what purpose it serves in feminism. all trans people (& intersex people for that matter) have unique relationships with different gender-spheres and are affected by the social processes of emasculation and dewomaning in different ways. exploring what role these social tools play in patriarchy connects us back to what role transphobia (in all its forms) plays as well, & why these forces exist.

#ooh im thinking about that last part and how it relates to transmisogyny#like most patriarchal oppression its always an endless feedback loop of imposed gender and being stripped of gender#obv so much of transmisogyny is about how 'men' need to fight for their manhood#and because transfems refuse to participate in that they are the shining example of a 'failed man'#but when they assert their womanhood... because it's transgressive there's no way for it to be natural and effortless!#trans women are unwomaned! obviously!#just like how trans men are emasculated! our manhood is transgressive and no amount of fighting for it will make it not be transgressive by @tr1ppykay

another really good observation. trans people Do Gender On Purpose but also in ways which fundamentally break the rules for who is allowed to do what gender. trans women's womanhood is always too purposeful, too self-aware, too thoughtful about what it means to be a woman instead of passively swallowing whatever lies the patriarchy spoons into people's mouths. it reminds people that womanhood is more than something seen but not heard, something that can self-directed and expansive. trans men are seen as the biological opposite of true manhood, and yet they insist on their manhood anyways, fully aware that the world doesn't believe they've "earned" it or that they ever can, and showing that men can simply refuse to play the game, that manhood can be something you just let yourself relax into instead of something you need to fight for every scrap of.

so to start, i want to clarify something: emasculating is not just "when a person who is a man, is not treated as a man" nor is dewomaning "when a person who is a woman, is not treated as a woman." it is a social tool for punishing someone who is seen as a man/seen as a woman who is not successfully upholding patriarchal / socially acceptable masculinity / femininity.

this absolute affects trans women. emasculation absolutely affects trans men. but saying that "trans men are only incidentally affected" is fucking ridiculous. if i said emasculation was primarily wielded against trans men & only incidentally affected trans women, that would also being fucking ridiculous. and none of this is ever "incidental."

also. trans women were never "excluded" from this post. just because the og post never explicitly named trans women does not mean they were "excluded." you can just. add to the post yknow. i am not stopping you from talking about how trans women are dewomaned.

just because i mentioned trans men does not mean that i was saying "this is only about people born with a pussy!!!!!!!!" that was not an implication i was intending at all. the reason i highlighted transmascs is because fucking constantly in feminism, people are fully incapable of discussing people classed as women without conflating that class with people who are women. and this happens constantly within transfeminism as well. and if i do not EXPLICITLY talk about how a misogynistic forces affect trans men on purpose, i know NONE of y'all are ever gonna bring it up or talk about it.

and this is not meant to deny or erase or downplay the erasure trans women also experience.

but i cannot express how frustrating it is that in nearly every. single. space. that is not explicitly about transmascs talking about transmasc issue. when misogyny gets brought up. everyone talks about "women and girls" and never stops for a single solitary second to consider how people who are treated as women & girls but aren't are affected. even when those people are inclusive of trans women & talk about how trans women are affected.

so i wanted to make crystal fucking clear to everyone reblogging this post that this is something which affects trans men, which trans men&mascs often experience as a constant presence in their life from childhood, something which has quite literally been used as justification to rape and kill trans men. and i, not exaggerating in the slightest, never hear anyone ever talk about this who is not already invested in discussing anti-transmasculinity & transfeminism from a transmasc perspective. which is mostly other transmascs.

and then ofc i have to explain all of this, every single time, because no one ever thinks about anti-transmasculinity, so when transmascs act in response to it, y'all act like it came out of nowhere.

i am really not trying to like. be a dick here or be exclusive of trans women. again, if you want to contribute to the question i asked & talk about how this phenomenon works in trans women's lives, please do it! but i really really need everyone to get 100x more chill about trans men&mascs talking about their relationship with misogyny and womanhood & how such things specifically affect transmascs, without making assumptions about how we must think trans women relate to these things. trans people need to get way less gender essentialist.