hyperfixation please stay with me long enough to complete the project. hyperfixation do not fade. hyperfixation finish what you started for the love of god

This is actually such a crucial part of healing from neglect and abuse and I have to add to this.

Because indeed, people who like you will not roll their eyes and sigh at the idea of accommodating your needs, they will value your voice and be upset with you about injustice done to you, not at you for "being difficult". They will be happy when you find a way to live a better life, and help you to get there. If you are struggling, someone who loves you wants to see you smile, not tell you to smile because "you have it so good".

It is crazy that “don’t be kind because you’ll be perceived as having ulterior motives” is infiltrating into so many facets of society. Don’t be kind because it might be perceived as flirting. Don’t be kind because it might be perceived as manipulation. Don’t be kind because it might be perceived as fake.

IM GONNA KEEP BEING EXTRA KIND I DONT CARE FUCK YOU

unfortunately very true. Doing Better does not always mean never being upset or never being triggered or never having trouble. often Doing Better means experiencing those things and being able to keep going/cope healthily/move on. if you’re in a bubble with no sensation, if you’re numbing yourself out, that’s not what recovering really is. it won’t help you have a happier life it’ll just make your world smaller and smaller until you can’t fit anywhere anymore. gotta learn to make peace with the hard stuff too, that’s the only way to keep going

A few of the more creative spellings of Christmas I’ve come across while looking for Dear Santa letters in old newspapers this year.

i think i deserve financial compensation for everything. all of it. i’m not even gonna specify

Sherlock Holmes (2009) dir. Guy Ritchie

I’m legally required to post this every Halloween

hey sorry i acted weird the other day i was trying so hard to act normal that it backfired

"In the same way that your heart feels and your mind thinks, you, mortal beings, are the instrument by which the universe cares. If you choose to care, then the universe cares. If you don't, then it doesn't." -- Brennan Lee Mulligan, D20, Fantasy High

You are not safe from this. You, the person reading this, are not safe from this. No matter how educated or open minded you think you are, you are not safe from this. The moment you think you are safe from it is the moment you become the most susceptible.

Its similar to why you cannot put bad people in a class of their own. The moment you do that you stop being able to see the bad things that the people closest to you do a la "my best friend couldn't have said that racist thing, they're not evil."

The moment you think you are immune from this type of backslide into right wing nonsense is the moment you stop questioning yourself enough to keep yourself from backsliding into right wing nonsense a la "I mean im not antiscience, im vaccinated, I just think that fluoride in our water supply is imparting children's ability to learn as fast as they otherwise could without it."

Remember, being progressive means progressing, its about always moving forward. The moment you rest on your laurels and stop putting in effort to keep the progression is the moment you start becoming left behind.

#I'm a millenial and I have caught myself saying things#it can and will happen to you#the trick is to notice#the trick it to keep being curious#the trick is to resist calcifying your brain#keep thinking and keep moving#nothing made by humans is perfect#we can always improve#that perfect plan you thought would fix it all when you were 20#will age like everything else#and the goalposts do move because there will always be bad actors#reinventing all the old evils so they look new and harmless again

Babe, you okay? you reblogged “and we were nice to each other” like 12 times again

i drew this comic more than 10 years ago :) couldnt even tell u who i was thinking of now cuz i hardly remember… cant believe it resonated with so many people!!!

i mean this in the gentlest way possible: you need to eat vegetables. you need to become comfortable with doing so. i do not care if you are a picky eater because of autism (hi, i used to be this person!), you need to find at least some vegetables you can eat. find a different way to prepare them. chances are you would like a vegetable you hate if you prepared it in a stew or roasted it with seasoning or included it as an ingredient in a recipe. just. please start eating better. potatoes and corn are not sufficient vegetables for a healthy diet.

Need it to be easier?

Need it in something?

Can't see it:

Can see but disguised flavor (can usually be found store bought or done at home and use different veggies):

Texture problems:

Need it soft:

Needs to be crunchy:

Veggies google says stay crunchy after lightly cooking:

Broad texture tips:

It also really helps to think about why you dislike a vegetable. I found that I am scared of green foods so I like to use those veggies for ingredients in things they are well hidden for. I've also learned that watching something while eating helps because then I'm not looking at the gross green things. When possible, I also like to get help hiding it (ie using cream of celery soup in my chicken and dumplings).

Remember that vegetables are important because they contain nutrients that other foods don’t contain. NOT because they are low calorie.

Eating vegetables slathered in pork fat is always better than not eating vegetables. In fact fat will help you absorb the nutrients. Get those nutrients in your body by any means necessary.

Don't fall into the trap of thinking that you HAVE to eat vegetables raw or steamed or some other diet-culture-approved way.

The buttery, honey-drizzled vegetables you will actually eat are WAY better than the plain steamed ones you DON'T eat. It's not like the butter and honey take AWAY the vegetables' nutrients. They don't.

in addition, I've heard studies show that you actually absorb more nutrients from food you enjoy, so veggies with honey/butter/hot sauce/whatever actually might be healthier than forcing yourself to eat raw/steamed/unseasoned veggies that bring you no joy!

but for real, I truly believe that the best food is the food you can eat, especially if you struggle with food and nutrition in the first place. fuel yourself!

not to sound like your dad but if your not having a great time rn you might legitimately be playing too many video games or being on that damn phone too often, or at least without any necessary activity buffers

may i suggest coloring with physical materials? or some chores you’ve been putting off? hell go outside with a bucket and make mud soup like you’re five again. take a break. you can bring your whatever for music and stuff but like don’t play with it

lots of huffy teenagers in the notes

i mean this, after spending so long getting my entertainment online, theres something incredibly tranquil about shutting it all out for a while to do something in meatspace for myself

I got into writing and Journaling using fountain pens ten months ago, and recently picked up materials to look into hobbyist book binding, and let me tell you the improvement in my mental wellbeing is immeasurable. Especially when you tack on exercising once in a blue moon. Not even every week. Just semi regularly at lengthy intervals until I start to get tired.

Anxiety is a physical reaction, and requires a physical response.