When you thought it would be easy peasy lemon squeezy but it turns out to be difficult difficult lemon difficult.

Wait that’s actually really good, gonna pop this out of the tags

just for reference, here is every detail i can think of that the writers & the duffers failed to address:

anyone and everyone are welcome to add more if you have others, but i just had to get these points lingering in my head written out. i'm not really interacting with the fandom much right now due to my intense disappointment & autistic burnout caused by the ending (to the point i can't even stomach the episodes in full) but so many of these points frustrated me.

like, what was the point of acting like s5 was going to be the second coming of christ and making us wait nearly 4 years to give us that straight-up trash? you'd think the finale would have blown us into the next decade by how everyone talked about it. but it was confusing, dissatisfying, and useless. they could have left it at the byers leaving for cali in s3 and the outcome would have felt exactly the same.

Gone but not forgotten

calling regressor protective services rn bc - I was not waken up by kisses, picked up n carried to the kitchen, put on cartoons while breakfast is cooking, had breakfast cut into cute shapes n fed - I was not given a bubble bath with toys that I picked out n I was NOT dried off with a cute hooded towel!! >:c - I didn't have a caregiver to pick out my outfit and put them on me n brush my teethies n style my hair cute - where is my playtime? I wanted to play dollies or have a tea party or go outside and pick flowers or go super high on the swing! - my daily requirement of baba time was not fulfilled - I did not get my uppies upon request - I didnt get to go to the toy store to get a new toy or fwend...or the park to go feed duckies....or a trampoline park for my floof zoomies - not once was I called princess, kiddo, bug, froggy, muffin, sweetie, baby, or anything else - no one read me a story while snuggled up n then tucked me in and kissed me goodnight grrrr!!! this is preposterous!

Gaten Matarazzo as Dustin Henderson Stranger Things, S01E01 vrs S05E02

im crying stop.

Unironically I think the early to mid 20s age group in America has unbelievably bad consent boundaries on all levels and so much language to defend it but this makes me sound like elon musk if I say it however the commonality of someone who will be like “I had 47 panic attacks and it’s your fault” if you tell them no is insane

I rejected someone and got called “the scariest person I’ve ever met” with so much therapy speak interspersed like alright okay alright okay alright okay

“You just say whatever you’re thinking and I don’t know how to handle it” was verbatim part of this conversation. Also everyone hates to see an autistic bitch

Oh to be small enough to be picked up. Want for a caregiver to pick me up and place me on their hip as they go throughout their day. Wanna curl my little fingers in their shirt and rest my head on their shoulder. Wanna be bounced and held and kept close and feel safe and loved.

Sometimes I close my eyes and pretend really really hard that someone’s here to pick me up and take care of me

When I tell people to delete anon hate, to not publish it, it’s not me saying “ignore it and it’ll stop; don’t fight back.” It is 100% petty and spiteful. Honestly, I can’t think of anything better than the person who sent the hate obsessively checking your blog and refreshing and refreshing, waiting for you to reply, and getting increasingly frustrated when the ask they so masterfully crafted never pops up & you just keep posting cute pictures of your pets and talking about how nice your day was.

if you understand that Mormons are members of a cynical and control-hungry religious cult which exercises every conceivably available tool at its disposal to control, restrict, and extract wealth/labor/social prestige from its members to the benefit of the patriarchs in control, and that women, children, and those not willing or able to conform sufficiently are abused into compliance with a brutality and a regularity that should stagger the conscience of every feeling human being, BUT you think Amish people are cute and quaint and it's funny that their produce stands sell weed now, you have fallen hard for a PR scam

if you don't rely on cutesy semi-candid photographs and you spend any time in the northeast especially in spitting distance of pennsylvania, you will eventually see a woman less than 22 with 4+ children walking behind a man with her eyes downcast like she shouldn't look her betters in the eye and the energy of a whipped dog and if that doesn't inspire a couple questions in you and you're too busy buying rhubarb from her bearded husband, i hate you

isn't it so charming how they prohibit modern technologies like electricity. and also feminism

exactly. like. i know they're a regional thing even within the USA but if your exposure isn't through media and you just see them sometimes growing up, the thing is that you can kinda fucking tell

So back in 2020, an investigative journalist named Sarah McClure wrote a long-form article called "The Amish Keep to Themselves. And They’re Hiding a Horrifying Secret."

(cw: rape, sexual assault, CSA, incest, domestic abuse, religious abuse, etc.)

The article, as you might have gathered from that list of content warnings, is about the widespread sexual and physical abuse in Amish communities and the way that their patriarchal and insular practices make that abuse almost impossible to prosecute.

I read that article when it came out, and that's why I went to a screening of McClure's new documentary, Keep Quiet and Forgive, at the Philadelphia Film Festival last month. We were also lucky enough to have a Q&A with Sarah McClure and it was really eye-opening.

(For those who want to watch it, I believe she said the doc will air on PBS next year.)

One thing I was really struck by when watching the documentary was the way that almost all of these women (and yes, a few men who'd been sexually abused by other men) had left the community. It makes sense; would someone still in the community ever talk to an investigative journalist? It's not likely.

Almost all of them had lost their entire support system when they'd spoken out about their abuse. Their families and friends shunned them. They got hate mail regularly from their former neighbors. Whenever they went to court dates, they had to face not only their abusers but their entire former community, who would turn up to support the accused in court.

The few who were still in the community were either going to meetings secretly or were largely being shunned. One of them, a woman who still identified as Amish but whose entirely community had turned on her when she'd testified against her wildly abusive husband, ended up leaving the community entirely by the end of the documentary. She looked so much happier.

Where I'm going with this, though, is that these people often lose their friends, family, and community when they leave. So they've started creating community of their own. The documentary showed a lot of meetings between former Amish women who would band together to support other Amish women through the process of leaving and testifying against their abusers. There were group therapy sessions where women would finally get to talk about what had been done to them. Conferences where they discussed future steps. Meetings with activists to create change. Podcasts by victims of abuse who wanted to reach out to others like them.

Groups like The Amish Rescue Mission are working to provide support to victims of abuse in Amish Country, including providing Pennsylvania Dutch interpretation services when necessary. There are lots of small survivor support groups on Facebook, too.

I don't generally add to posts, but I did want to spread this information, reporting, and list of resources to anyone who might benefit from them. I am no expert, but I wanted to link to some people who are.

Help is available, but it is often inaccessible to people who, let's be real, are not generally going to be super online. So I think it's important to spread information however we can in the hopes that it can carry as far as possible by word of mouth.

🧡 Hamtaro Binge Moodboard 🧡

🍼SFW Interaction Only🍼

💙 Caregiver Bandit Heeler 🧡

"Come on, Kid! We're going to the park!"

Request are OPEN

Didnt hav to go into work today, so I get to regress n play Roblox!! Super fun game that helps me slip, there’s so much for curious little me to explore!! Look I even get a pony toy!!

(Remember, Roblox is a public play where not everyone has ur best interests at heart. If you decide to play any games while little stay safe!)

Watching the ease at which others exist hits differently when you have a chronic illness.

Little chef & Little baker

Little barista & Little doctor

Little Dentist & Little Vet

Little ice cream shop owner + Little stylist

🤍 mood boards I made 🤍 for insta