This is buried in a longer post, but I think it's worth highlighting again.
The point of civil discourse is not to uphold Victorian manners, play nice for the oppressor, or constrain activism to a specific set of rules.
The point of civil discourse is to present and exchange ideas in a manner that is compatible with human psychology.
Being inflammatory/polarizing puts people's guards up. Once you've insulted someone in an argument, no matter what a horrid bastard they might be, you've sacrificed all your credibility/pull with them. Why should they believe you know best for them/society if you've shown you don't respect them as a person?
The thought of "I don't want to argue about human rights," is fair. However, through time immemorial, we've seen that rights are a thing you are born with but have to defend from outside forces. "Defend" means arguing. Arguing effectively means being patient, default assuming the person's mind can be changed, and walking away from a conversation you don't have the energy or the temper to continue with "This is not something I think I can change your mind on, but I stand firm on my beliefs. I will not be engaging further with you on this today."




















