i’m not kidding we need to stop conceding the point that it’s weird in the first place for women to be into gay romance/porn/etc. it’s driving me up the wall that every attempt i see at thoughtful/nuanced Social Commentary on the matter begins with “lots of people don’t understand why women would be into this, BUT here’s a list of Special Reasons that this appeals to the Feminine Gaze” as if this is not just reinforcing the premise that there is some fundamental & universal split between how men & women experience desire. imagine how much more productive our conversations could be if we instead started with “lots of people don’t understand why women would be into this. why? what assumptions are those people making to begin with about women?”