LewdLadyLily

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I am a trans woman submissive and this blog is primarily about my exceptionally kinky sex life.

First off, I post and reblog sexy pictures, all within Tumblrs terms but within that all bets are off. Mostly you will find drawn or animated porn, I am more comfortable with that for a few reasons to do with consent of models.

You will find detailed and explicit descriptions of the type of sexual activity I get up to including bdsm, sadomasochism (I am a masochist), sex of all varieties (masturbation, oral sex, penetrative, etc), my many experiments with different types of kinks, and my general slutting and sleeping around, though I have not been able to do much of that since covid.

I am a collared submissive with a 24/7 arrangement with my dominant, or at least as close as is practically possible given my other life goals and mental health. We often use this space to play around in. By following my blog you are consenting to at least being a passive observer in some of our sex games.

I tag all the stuff I actually do with ‘IRL play’ I used to do this, but I stopped at some point. Not sure why.

You will also hear about my sexual fantasies, which range from super fluffy to incredibly fucked up. I don’t really dive into the most messed up stuff but I might touch on it briefly (for example, I might talk about the fact that sometimes body horror and such plays into my fantasies, but I wont detail those fantasies) and it is likely that you will see details about rape and sexual abuse fantasies. We don’t kink shame here, though a bit of good natured teasing is fine.

I approach sex and kink as a hobby. It is something I like to talk about and share with people who are interested in these things. I like to hear about kink others are getting up to, new things they are trying, I like answering questions people may have.

With this in mind my inbox is open to asks or direct messages including:

  • Lewd writing prompts
  • questions about kink
  • Comments about your own kink fantasies or experiences
  • Comments about porn you like
  • Requests for written roleplay or long distance sexual play (but talk to me first, don’t just jump right into it).
  • Invasive questions about my sex life. There is no limit here, if I feel like I can’t answer something I will politely let you know but it will not bother me that you asked! Also I don’t think anyone has ever hit that point.
  • I consent to any sexually invasive asks or direct messages you may want to send.
  • Degrading sexual comments. I love degradation play and I am more than a bit of an exhibitionist and have a kink for being sexually used and humiliated by and for strangers. Just don’t fat shame or trans shame.
  • I consent to public degradation on this blog, including through asks or direct messages.
  • Hypnosis triggers. I have many triggers put in place by my dominant that anyone can use and have a variety of effects. You do not have to ask for permission to use any of the listed triggers in any form.
  • I consent to any use of my publicly listed triggers by anyone without need for forewarning. 
  • If you want to try using my as a hypnosis subject in a more significant capacity feel free to message me and we can discuss it :)
  • I DO NOT consent to being sent explicit photographs (dick pics and such), though if you ask I am fairly likely to say yes. I just don’t want it out of the blue.

Most people send messages anonymously. That is fine! If you want you can sign your messages using a pseudonym. Otherwise I have no idea if you are new or someone I talk to regularly. If you want to send a private ask to be responded to only in private that is fine, just make sure you say so! I will not share it with my blog.

Finally, I consent to you saving anything you might find on this blog. I do not consent to the commercial use or distribution of such.

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#lily talks is the tag for when I talk with other people or talk about what I’ve been doing. Basically, stuff that is not the pictures I post or reblog

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digizoidkimmyc
luckyladylily

If you are really mad about maleness for whatever reason, trans men make a very easy target. If you yell at trans men no one in greater society will give a shit on a scale that matters.

Which should be a pretty good clue that trans men are not part of the oppression class. I'm not saying trans men are saints or whatever, just that if someone gets punched, so to speak, and they lack the capacity to punch back with the uncontested weight of popular opinion behind their punches, that's kind of a critical component of the definition of the oppressor class. In order to be part of the oppressors, you have to have the ability to wield the tools of oppression. Trans men as a group are universally denied access to the power of the oppression class, and in particular the power held by cis men.

Treating trans men as part of the oppression class, and in particular with the hostility and suspicion marginalized people reserve for the oppression class, simply because they are men doesn't make sense. Most obvious thing in the entire world. Takes like two minutes to reason it out. But god damn if there are not a lot of people on here doing exactly that. It's become probably the biggest queer infighting discourse currently.

There are the people just parroting other more influential people, of course, but it had to start somewhere. And based on the particular points often discussed, it feels like some number of queer people were really traumatized by men and then discovered a group of men they could throw punches at without suffering the kind of life destroying consequences that can occur when you attack part of the oppression class.

And like. Maybe I'm a radical thinker or whatever, but maybe treating another subset of socially outcast queer people as consequence free punching bags to take your frustration out on is not cool. Wasn't cool when people were doing it to Bi people, wasn't cool when people were doing it to ace and aro people. Aint cool now.

digizoidkimmyc

There is currently a massive wave of harassment and pedojacketing going on targeting transfems specifically. All of the victims are transfem, and quite a large chunk of the aggressors are transmasc. Every time, everyone that's not transfem themselves jumps on the bandwagon. You can accuse us of whatever the hell you want, and you will be believed over us every single time, because there is no community, not even in real life, not even in supposedly queer spaces, where the default assumption is not that trans women are predators. That is what transmisogyny means. What was that about "the capacity to punch back with the uncontested weight of popular opinion behind their punches"? Who has that exactly?

luckyladylily

Did i say anywhere that wasn't happening? I am a trans woman, I'm well aware the type of harassment we deal with. But right now I'm talking about something else. Because there are other problems in the world than just what trans women face, and sometimes i want to do something but don't want to deal with the emotional burden of an issue that hits close to home.

Sometimes things are not about you, and that's ok.

digizoidkimmyc

We are talking about the fact that while trans men are an oppressed class, they do have the ability to oppress trans women specifically and are currently doing so right now. Privilege is relative, not a binary state.

lewdladylily

“Privilege is relative, not a binary state.”

Good thing I am talking about class, not privilege. You can’t just generalize one to the other, they are different (if related) concepts. That is why we have two terms instead of one. Trans men, as a group, are not accepted by the oppressor class and their interests are not upheld by the oppressor class.

And “trans men” are not harassing trans women. Individual trans men are harassing trans women. Because the oppressor class does not represent the interests of trans men, trans men as a group cannot be said to have access to the power of the oppression class and as a group do not have access to the tools of oppression. “Trans men” do not have the capacity to oppress “trans women” in this way because society wont push their interests like that.

So call out individual trans men for bad behavior, but don’t give me this bullshit about “trans men” unqualified. You do not make statements of wide condemnation directed at an entire marginalized group. Blanket condemnation of an entire group of trans people is not ok - that is what we call transphobic.

Seriously this is like queer feminism 101 stuff.

I genuinely don’t understand why it is so difficult to accept that specifically targeting a marginalized group for harassment is a problem. There is never going to be a reason good enough for you to say “hey, lets harass black people!”, or “Trans women are the enemy!”, and you are never going to convince me that we should make a special exception to this rule to harass trans men.

also I would argue privilege is not relative because different groups have different kinds of privileges or lack it in different ways it is not so simple as comparing two groups and determining that one is more oppressed than the other but we're struggling with the very basic concepts of class based oppression here so I think we can ignore the subtleties of privilege theory for now

Anonymous asked:

Consider: Cursed bondage gear that forces the wearer to obey the orders of the first person that grabs their leash. But the leash also brainwashes that person to think that the wearer is their slave and this is the most natural thing in the world. It also carries a curse that makes people at large ignore them the same way you would so eone walking their dog. -Anna

I saw this but was not able to respond immediately and then forgot about it! Sorry!

But I love this idea because the only person who knows something is wrong is the victim of the curse, but how are they going to convince anyone to help them break it? It’s a function predicament.

Thank you for the ask