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Lezzy Beaverman

@lezzybeaverman

she/her, married millenial dyke with a dog, depression, & no idea how to interwebs

"Stop saying we'll survive this because Renee Good didn't!"

It's very important to talk about what happened to Renee Good, the horror this administration has inflicted upon the world, and how we got here. I do not, however, think it is ever ethical to essentially encourage suicidal thoughts and aggressively tell people things will never get better. In fact, things won't get better if everyone gives up and believes resistance is futile because we're all dead anyway. In addition, someone trying to talk themselves out of a dark place isn't necessarily undermining what happened to Renee, either. The people saying we'll survive are generally people who are scared and have taken Trump seriously for years, not the people who downplayed him before the election.

I'll say what I began saying in January of last year; if you're really in such a dark place, you have no right to drag others down with you. It's not "raising awareness" to scream at people trying to get through the day during very unsettling times. When you're telling people to stop even saying we'll survive, what are you actually doing? What are you accomplishing? If your answer is "being aggressively hopeless until my last breath", then go do that somewhere else.

@thebreakfastgenie Such a mood. Like I am not still working on improving my mental health after the toll the 2024 election took for some doomer to try to make me suicidal again. Nope! Not interested. I assume some of the doom brigade are severely depressed themselves but I struggle to sympathize like get help, stop trying to drag everyone else down with you. And it drives me nuts when people act like believing in survival is somehow dismissing how bad it is. Bad isn’t hopeless! Maybe people who didn’t pay attention to Trump before the election(s) are just processing in a fundamentally different way? Idk I can’t imagine living like that lol.

Oh I definitely think part of this is that people really didn't believe things would get this bad, so they're having a delayed reaction and are feeling what we felt before or immediately after the election. There's a reason why I cried every day for about 3 months straight, but have shed few tears lately. I was actually just talking about that with my supervisor; she asked me if I'd seen what happened to Renee Good, and I said yes, and, "Some people really screwed up over a year ago and didn't think anything would fundamentally change. But I knew. That’s why I was crying my eyes out the next day and needed to go home from work."

She said, "Yes, I remember that." (She'd comforted me in that time. She'd just gotten citizenship, and despite her facing hardships in Algeria, I think she's shocked over the past year.)

But I'd also put myself back in therapy immediately after the election because I knew what a bad place I was in, and I didn't want this administration to kill me. We must live to see this end. We have to try, and we can't be dragged down by people who've given up. As I said many times, Trump 1.0 taught me that daily misery doesn't change current events, and only puts your own life on hold

@cardassiangoodreads Quoting a Discord friend (who is also a trained psychologist):
"We are at the point where things may start to get scarier as they start to get better.
The resistance is working, but that means Trump is going to get more desperate and escalate more. He's not flexing power, he is desperately trying to get the power back.
Prepare to see things to look frightening but don't let that pull you into despair or hopelessness. He has failed in every other attempt to consolidate power, and signs are pointing to him going to fail here too, but not until after a lot of scary acts
Remember, when overwhelming you is one of their tactical goals, self care is resistance"

I haven't said this before because I don't want to be misconstrued as undermining what's happening, but this is actually my take as well. The administration is WEAK. They're desperately trying to display strength, which is dangerous because they see violence as strength, but Renee's death only increased protests against ICE. You have people shouting at ICE, "You can't kill all of us!" People simply aren't going down without a fight. The National Guard was told to get out of the states that didn't request them (like CA). Resistance is much stronger now than it was this time last year; just think of how bleak things felt in January-February 2025. Trump is polling underwater on basically every issue, and not by a small amount. The administration keeps LOSING in a lot of ways. All their attempts to prosecute their enemies have been thrown out by courts thus far. They couldn't even keep Jimmy Kimmel off the air. They drastically lowered hiring standards and training times for ICE officers because they're NOT hitting their hiring goals and NOT hitting their deportation quotas. Democrats did very well in elections last year, and they could very well overperform this November in the midterms

Things have, indeed, gotten scarier as things fall apart more, but it doesn't mean they aren't falling apart. This will end. It's still a long road until the end, but we inch closer to the end every day. It doesn't mean bad things won't happen until then, but it means we need to keep trying to survive and looking forward to when he's gone forever and we can pick up the pieces

Additionally, "we will survive" does not mean "every individual person will survive." It means "the We will survive" -- that is, the community of people who care, the group of folks standing in solidarity with each other, the people fighting fiercely and closing ranks to protect the vulnerable. ICE has killed multiple people already, and any realistic perspective will admit that, barring some miracle, they will almost certainly kill more people before it's over.

But We will survive, because they cannot kill all of Us. The We is a living thing, a breathing and thinking organism, a greater body that is more than the sum of its parts. You and I are part of that body: If you survive, then We survive; if I survive, then We survive. So let's survive. They can't kill all of Us.

Really big problem: world hard cold and full of obligations, but duvet warm

In duvet: warm cozy. Everything as it should be

Outside duvet: debacle

Apparently ICE now has agents posing as utility workers to get into people's homes. The electric and gas companies have posted information on how to tell if it's one of their workers, and numbers to call to confirm whether they've sent someone to do utility work on your house.

Stay safe, friends.

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Some people have shared stories of suspicious “sales representatives” knocking on homes, asking about the home owners and who lives there, fishing for phone numbers, but do not provide business cards, company id, company phone numbers, etc when asked.

They come in pairs, never one person though one may hag back a bit. They have been seen using cars with significantly tinted windows, no business logos anywhere on the vehicle, or parking close to the home they walked up to only to drive away right after without visiting other homes, almost as if they’re not real sales people.

True door to door salespeople need a sort of peddler’s license, subject to city and county law, to solicit at your door. You can ask to see this permit. If they don’t provide one or make an excuse, they are likely bogus.

They wear a jacket with a company logo but likely don’t wear name tags and the Don’t provide id.

Tell them you’ll call the company about a noncompliant representative. Make them leave. Better yet not to open the door to them, and tell them nothing.

Actual sales reps also generally do follow “no soliciting” signs. Be aware, be safe, don’t give out your information or that of others under duplicitous means.

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THE advantage of memorizing poetry is that when somethings happening, maybe even you’re in a situation or a location, you can just go “ok. lady of shallott time” and boom. you reclaimed your mental space and attention for YOU for the next ten minutes

Everyone should be able to do one card trick, tell two jokes, and recite three poems, in case they are ever trapped in an elevator.

Lemony Snicket, Horseradish

i know this is humorous but! i learned from one of my college friends (who learned from a therapist) that reciting a poem you have memorized is a great grounding & focusing technique when you’re spiraling into anxiety or panic. i can personally attest that The Tyger has staved off several panic attacks.

so like if said “situation or location” is freaking you out really badly, “lady of shallott time” can help reclaim your mental health too

Ok everybody share what poems you can recite in case we’re trapped in an elevator.

I’ve got the first 42 lines of The Canterbury Tales in Middle English, the first 10 lines of Beowulf in Old English, the first canto of Tolkien’s Lay of Beren and Luthien, and Sonnet XVI by Pablo Neruda (“I love the handful of the earth you are”). I used to have the Proem of the Kalevala but I’m a bit shaky on it it now and I think i’ve only got the first two sentences. Anda handful of others I half-remember which i could probably do if I were with someone else who half-remembered the same ones and we could prompt each other back and forth.

I do a slight variation on this where I recite chunks of plays/books/movies/songs in my head. The first act of Hamilton and the first act of Les Mis have gotten me through many a long stretch, and bits of Jeanette Winterson are my little momentary mental meditation stones, I just rub them around feel a bit more grounded.

The problem with giving advice to angry and suffering people is that rather frequently the thing they need to know to improve their position is the last thing they want to hear and not something they have the capacity to internalize or accept

Unfortunate truths you can tell people that would help if they could hear what it means and not just what it sounds like

  1. You were the victim, and it wasn’t fair, but it’s over now. Nobody came to save you, and I’m sorry, but it’s too late for anyone to go back and do it different.
  2. You’re suffering over something that cannot be resolved. You’re allowed to feel angry, or outraged, or betrayed, but there will eventually come a time that you don’t feel that so violently anymore, and you’re going to want to have something good left to go back to.
  3. You can’t make anyone love you the way you need to be loved. That’s how a lot of good things end. Not with a clear sign, something blocking the road that says “do not proceed”, just a splitting of the path that’s still moving somewhat in the same direction.
  4. You can’t fix them. Nothing you can do will fix them. And if they fix themselves, they can’t do it for you- they have to do it for themselves as well, because otherwise a day may come when they’re alone, and as long as they live, they are their only true constant. So you can support, and you can encourage, but the hardest part is up to them. And sometimes they can’t do it even with your help.
  5. Sometimes letting go of someone feels like mourning at their funeral before they’ve died, and every time you see them after it’s like talking to a ghost that doesn’t know it’s dead. Sometimes that happens. You’ll both still wake up tomorrow anyways.
  6. I understand that you’re afraid, and that you’re afraid for good reasons. And I understand that being brave isn’t as easy as just turning that fear off, and you would if you could in a heartbeat. But the thing is, as long as that fear is able to dictate your choices, it will have power over you. If you don’t believe you can try to fight it, if you accept that it will always be in charge, you let the frightening thing stay present in your life. It will exist as long as you stay paralyzed. And that sounds cruel, but it isn’t something anyone can fix for you.
  7. The person you may let yourself become after experiencing the terrible thing may very well grow into a much bigger, much more terrible thing, and someday it will swallow the first terrible thing whole. And all that will be left is something far worse for someone else. And you will not be able to shrink it down by explaining where it came from, because terrible things that are dead and gone are never as terrible as terrible things that are alive right now in front of you.
  8. No matter how much or how little I love you, I still do not have the ability to help you the way you need to be helped. I might be the helper you want, but I am not a helper you can get. If you are to be helped at all, you will need to accept that it will come from someone else.

Analyzing the politics of a work that's meant to be apolitical is actually a really interesting exercise because it asks you to critically examine what the creator considers to be "political" in the first place. Which ideas are just How Things Are, and which ones are Political, and how is that influenced by the creator's beliefs?

Usually this just ends up with you looking like a moron btw

Angrily lashing out at the suggestion that it's possible to do basic media analysis was foundational to the ragebait ecosystem of the 2010s, from which we got basically the entire culture of modern far right politics, btw.

I genuinely believe myself and others are being so sincere and literal when we say TOUCH GRASS

I went outside and got an education, that's where I learned that you can obtain knowledge and insight through analytical methods, then noticed that some people who sit on the internet yelling at strangers get really mad about that constantly.

Avelo Airlines, the only commercial carrier believed to have been operating full deportation flights on a regular basis for the Trump administration, is ending its relationship with Immigration and Customs Enforcement and will no longer charter those deportations.

The budget carrier signed an agreement with the Department of Homeland Security in April 2025 to operate ICE flights out of Arizona, drawing immediate protests and calls to boycott.

At the time, the airline acknowledged the decision may be controversial but said it was expected to support company expansion and job protection. However, after less than a year since inking the deal, Avelo has admitted that the program became too costly and complex to continue.

CEO Andrew Levy acknowledged the backlash in an email to employees late Tuesday.

“We moved a portion of our fleet into a government program which promised more financial stability but placed us in the center of a political controversy,” Levy wrote in the email, obtained by CNBC.

“The program provided short-term benefits but ultimately did not deliver enough consistent and predictable revenue to overcome its operational complexity and costs.” (aph)

KEEP PROTESTING AND KEEP MOBILIZING. IT WORKS. IT IS NOT HOPELESS AND IT WORKS.

I'm recovering from an injury and not feeling particularly eloquent, but trust me on this: Everyone should watch M*A*S*H. It's progressive and fun and funny and unabashedly horny. If you haven't seen it before, take this as your sign to go watch a few episodes.

The setting for the show is an American military post. Despite being a sitcom, the American military is also the primary antagonist of the show.

It's like the exact opposite of copaganda. Almost everyone hates being there and is constantly trying to leave, and any character who believes in the US military is a total tool.

we need to invent a way to explain how deep running and pervasive and subliminal racism and antiblackness is without immediately sounding like an insane conspiracy theorist

female characters are always lighter than male characters. strong characters are almost always dark. aggressive characters are almost always dark. peaceful and intelligent characters are almost always light. even amongst darker characters the lightest one is usually either the leader or the girls. dark is evil and light is good.

if you try to explain this to a white person they look at you like youre insane

briefly pursuing a career in animation radicalized me on this. So many stories from the industry about how you have to start with your character design as dark as possible, because INEVITABLY you'll get "notes" from higher-ups asking you to make them lighter.

In a class about making a pitch bible my teacher once role-played as a shitty executive with a classmate, pressing them in intentionally abrasive ways about why they made their characters diverse. He emphasized that we had to learn to defend these things, because the racism in the industry is extremely deliberate.

Ronald Wimberly's comic essay, Lighten Up, stays evergreen

my corner store guy is a 50 year old man who's my best friend in the world and recently he was like "you're too pretty to be single I have some nephews you should meet. very handsome!" and I was like "a niece might be more up my alley" and he just got more excited and said "ah even better! I was overselling my nephews but my nieces are very beautiful"

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