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When I ask vulnerable questions,
I am prepared to receive vulnerable answers.
And yes—
many of them might sit outside my values,
my beliefs, or the story I hoped to hear.
That’s part of vulnerability.
Being vulnerable isn’t about agreement.
It’s about being able to hold space
without jumping to conclusions,
without rushing to fix,
and without policing someone else’s truth.
If you’re only open to answers that mirror your own—
that’s not curiosity.
That’s control.
Vulnerability asks for presence,
not correction.
And sometimes the most respectful response
is simply listening…
and letting the answer exist.
Self improved me:
-Disciplined in care for pets
-attractive
-intelligent (emotionally,Academically)
-authentic
-humble
-fun loving
-spiritual
-bold
-self sufficent
-assertive
-problem solver
Quote: We must take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented.” - Elie Wiesel
I think that understanding the psychology on why a person acts the way they behave is very vital in healing and truly getting past a situation rather then resenting them for what they did to you.
A person who is happy dosent hurt someone.
Hurt people hurt people!
Flip the script and open your eyes to the truth that they aren’t happy and they try to hurt you for a specific reason.
If you want to know what someone’s fear and insecurity is just look at how they mistreat you.
Philosophy/self improvement/mental
For example:
When I’m defending my honor and I’m being accused of spilling a drink when I did not do such action- the situation is being blown out of proportion when person A places blame on me for a simple human mistake that he did!
When I defend myself saying it wasn’t me i am called defensive.
For Example;
When person B throws a toilet paper roll at me I defend myself and ask for an apology but they refuse to give me one so I say it’s immature To admit when your not wrong but I’m called defensive but it’s simply just speaking up for one’s self.
For example :
When Person C claims that I’m wearing their jacket I say sorry and I didn’t mean to wear their jacket I’m called defensive.
When person c assumes I am being fake by not wanting to take care of their dog they block me everywhere because their love and care is conditional.
The reason
They like the version of you who puts others needs before yourself . Free favors, not speaking up for what’s right, letting them walk all over you.jokes being at your expense-because they don’t respect or truly care for you.
How to react:
-To be falsely accused of something
React:
You remain calm and provide evidence without over explaining.
Remember that perception is not reality.
1.Character 2.Composure 3.Control
To being touched inappropriately:
Wizards Liz people pleaser video notes;
(1)people will keep treating you like trash until you get boundaries for yourself and you’re serious about them.
Solution: (they will lose access to you!) Distance yourself if boundaries that are expressed are not respected.
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(1.5) stop making excuses for people that treat you bad
(2) You are not a bad person for having boundaries and defending yourself; you are a person who respects yourself.
(3)if your body is telling you that you were wronged then you are intuitive and that is there for a reason. Defend yourself- speak up and honor yourself 🖤
(4)Look at peoples actions rather then their words.
(5)Ask people why they feel comfortable to say or do something to me
(6) ask yourself if I’m doing this for me or for them.
(7) you don’t need fix them because it dosent align with your purpose.
(8) it’s okay if they don’t like you
(9) don’t let everybody to get to know you
(10) to understand that people don’t have the same heart and intentions as you
(11) forgive your younger self for Putting up with disrespect and realize that anger is not gonna help
(Your inner child was manipulated into thinking obedience equals love)
✨✨Progress✨✨
I truly am improving and healing from this breakup.
I’ve been reading this book called paper towns and I can’t put it down. I finished the book already!
Reading has helped put my mind in something productive and given me refreshing perspectives of characters and how the world works.
As of now I don’t feel resentment toward them like I did. I always remind myself that my success is greater then the pain I endured and that really helps in motivating me while I workout to change my perspective positively instead of negative motivation and revolving my life around the pain/loss of self -and ground me emotionally.
Healing isn’t linear but I know I have myself to regulate and care for me and that is the best break up recovery tip I could give myself 🖤✨
I officially knew that I had to get out of the relationship once I had feelings of resentment towards them because of the reflection of my response to their disrespect/abuse in the past.
The relationship became a mirror for the old me who let disrespect slide and put her self respect and dignity on hold.
Solitude became my oasis in every little miscommunication or argument. I was wholeheartedly checked out and at peace. I could finally lose weight and get in the best shape of my life, I could put me first and leave those past memories behind and instead find my self and my purpose.
His perspective
Hi I’m A
Through means of control- what is really happening is that i don’t feel enough about how attractive i am, how poor i am, how little affection and love I receive from my family and even just attention as a boy.
Im insecure and it manifests in controlling my partners lifestyle because I lack control in mines.
It’s sad but its hard to admit and come to terms with it.
I crave attention and love and a sense of satisfaction and validation which I don’t get.
The only option is to keep her all to myself and control what she dose so we can stay together and nothing can separate us but in the end it ended up me being the thing that seperated us combined with miscommunication.
As of now I’m on the journey to heal from the relationship and focus on me
Stop pouring so much energy into replaying what happened.
Your success is the revenge.
How to do it:
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-No contact
-Every time you miss him think of a bad day thought of him
-pretend they died
-unfollow their friends/family
-Allow yourself to suffer
-Have a support system
-Go out
-Get hobbies, Revisit old activities
Reminder:
If you are with someone who you think is gonna judge you for what you think then your not truly in love with that person
You should try being honest and you will find a weight of your chest.
Listen to your intuition more then anything.
Like when you think someone is a upset at you for not acting like how they want you to.
If you feel like your betraying yourself you probably are
Journal entry example;
9-29-25
1. During arguments I’m scared to show love or make physical contact. Maybe I feel scared to be rejected or pushed away in attempt. I also feel like I’m betraying myself when I feel like I’m not in the wrong.
2. I just feel naive to believe Alex wouldn’t cheat on me. The way he acted wasn’t normal he sss unhealthily insecure when I would just simply go outside
Reminder for you
Flip the script!!
The anger that people have comes from a place of instability. They don’t like their lifestyle, Looks, lack of funds, lack of discipline,lack of status, lack of received affection-and they project that onto other people- via means of control.
Flip the script!!! They act out because they feel out of control. It’s not a reflection of your self worth- it is solely projection of insecurities.they have a sense of no control so they control the next person.
Flip the script.
If you ever want to know someone’s Insecurity look at how they mistreat you
For example: they accuse you of cheating and liking other men
They feel like they are not good enough for you.
For example:They are controlling
They lack control in their own life
Right now I’m tired it’s 3:00 am in the morning and I want to sleep in and not take care of myself.
But you know what,fuck that.
What would Riley do?
(Wwrd? )
Riley would ; brush her teeth, wash her face, coconut oil pull 15-30, then wrap her hair then journal and go to fricking bed.
So that’s what we are gonna do to become the hot version of ourselves and prove to ourselves that we changed and can do it!
What’s motivating me to do this is to show that I’m different I’m not the same girl that puts him before herself.
As of now I can say that I’m motivated to becoming the best fucking version of myself and I can put anything that I want into reality. Not even when the new year starts I’m literally staring now every little habit that’s gonna better my life I’m gonna take advantage of the day and love and protect my self and care for my self
Remember the disrespect
The lust
-I remember that I didn’t want to show anything/send so he said he would get help elsewhere by watching that stuff (corn).
-I remember that we were watching a movie or a show and a naked women came on and he exclaimed “yiddies” which was disrespectful right infront of me
- I remember going through there following and seeing lustful content and feeling uncomfortable and embarrassed that other people can see that he is interested in that while in a rls.
- I remember rejecting advances and it would always end up in silent treatment and cold attitude leading to me caving in .
-I remember saying no and just waking you up chill and he said if he were more attractive I wouldn’t have said no.
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Dignity
I look at Snapchat to remember the moments where they disrespected me.So I won’t miss them and don’t forget why I am writing about what happens and why I feel the way I do because it happened and I tried to act like it was normal and other people go through this in a relationship but it wasn’t.
Rebranding
I want to level up and rebrand myself starting on the physical aspect of leveling up while finding yourself.
Think of yourself as your own Girlfriend who you would take absolutely the best care of.
Create an alter ego and act like she would !
Skincare+self care
Haircut+color
Workout for fit body
Eyebrows+lashes
-Thin eyebrows and trim them
-eyelash oil
Oral hygiene
-Coconut oil pull
-floss
-straw(drinks)
Styling advancement
-makeup styles
-jewelry
-clothing
-pedi mani
-smelling delicious
-piercing
Get into hobbies for yourself