Hello

It is your sworn duty, when you're in your 30's, to do something every day that would have gotten you viciously bullied in high school.

Getting a lot of comments and tags on this that are like "they bullied me for just existing:/" SO EXIST!!!! GET OUT THERE AND LIVE AND KEEP LIVING!!!!!!! KEEP ON BEING YOU!!!!!!!!!

Ahhhh i needed to hear this

In your 20s, you'll feel like you're losing the race. It's important to understand that there is no race.

i’m gonna say something that doesn’t feel good but you might need to hear it: bending over backwards being a people-pleaser, being conflict averse and not telling anyone your needs, and then being resentful and upset when your needs aren’t met is a You problem first

not related but also just good advice: when you’re lowkey frustrated with someone and can’t quite figure out why their behavior is bothering you, i highly recommend examining if they have broken an imaginary rule or standard that you hold yourself to

Resentment is the tax you pay for avoiding honesty

i hate to be this person because i used to roll my eyes at people who told me this but finally making myself go through uncomfortable situations for the possibility of joy has resulted in me being happier than i ever could have imagined being. i do think that you should always listen to yourself but i prevented my own happiness for a long time by not knowing how to tell intuition from overthinking and being too afraid and sticking to negative what if’s when i should have been sticking to positive what if’s. not every venture outside your comfort zone will result in some revelation that moves the earth under your feet but the probablilty of it is zero if you never venture out

resist the urge to self-isolate, girl. people want you around. people don't think you're faulty. you're allowed to be wrong and make mistakes and missteps and people won't reject you for it. don't self-isolate. nobody in your life wants you to self-isolate. don't do it.

hudson williams stop making cry even more i just finished the episode

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the world will stop being out to get you when you stop thinking that it is. do not let this go over your head.

oh someone told me something useful yesterday. she said she’s been thinking about her tbr less as an overwhelming list of books she Must Read and more like she’s cultivating a wine cellar. making a rich collection that will provide the perfect thing when needed. a bottle will get uncorked when the time is right

has anyone figured out how to turn off the thing where you love your pet so much it slides inexorably into grief-borrowing

you've gotta be kind to yourself no matter what

this is twice as true in the winter

the world isn't ending and you don't need to kill yourself it's literally december. it's december. and you need to be nice to yourself.

Oh ok so it turns out ive been borrowing grief from the future ! it turns out ive been preparing to lose the things i love rather than basking in the light of them while they last. Maybe i should nt do that

a lot of people think that holding on tightly to things and never letting go is a virtue but I think there’s a lot of strength, bravery, and emotional intelligence in being able to walk away from a situation that no longer serves you, even if it was something you once really wanted or invested a lot of time and energy in. it’s not failure to re-evaluate a situation and redirect yourself to something more worthwhile instead of beating a dead horse