I have no concept of tmi you should tell me everything

im much more active on my bsky if you wanna follow me there btw !

guys….,, being friends, like actual friends, with people you have systemic privilege over is going to involve some good-natured ribbing. it’s going to involve them complaining about [insert privileged group you belong to] in front of you or even to you. that’s not a personal attack, it’s because they think you’re cool enough to hang. it’s because they think they can express their frustration to you without you attacking them. you really want to prove them wrong?

And trying to argue you don't have privilege is really uncool

Gonna have to start teaching people who are getting marginalized women of this site banned the the A's of accountability like they're preschoolers

While using puppets:

Okay stalkers ... I mean... Accountability army... The A's are:

ACCURATE - is the thing you are trying to right factually correct? Are there sources from outside your own community that exist To show evidence of these claims?

AGE- has it been a considerable amount of time since the thing you are trying to right?

ADJACENT - are you close to the person in question, or have been directly affected by their actions?

AMENDS - has the person recognized the issue with their behavior and apologized? Has their behavior caused any harm other than theoretically?

With another puppet:

And don't forget to avoid the H's of harassment!

HATE - is it possible the person in question is being targeted due to some reason other than the act in question? Are they marginalized? Especially on multiple fronts.

HARBORED - are there several individuals leading the claims made consistently targeting one or two individuals at a time? Do they encourage people to implicitly or explicitly target their person of interest?

HELL - does anyone believe that there is an action the person in question can take other than erasing themselves? Is said Person talked about as deserving extreme or unusual punishment?

HEARSAY - is there any evidence of the claims being made? Do the claims rely on documentation rather than implications made by those harassing the target? Is the evidence being provided a clear sign of abuse, or is the abuse being extrapolated as a form of thought crime?

Reminder the egg prime directive is bullshit. And if you think someone should take estrogen tell them because it might be what they needed to hear to get the ball rolling.

The person that inspired this is going to talk to their doctor about hrt. It's never too late. You can start hrt too

Beel Has a really long tongue

your average cis ally seems to think that the voice is feminized by estrogen & oh to live in that world….

cis ally was far too generous actually. ur average non transfem seems to believe this

do the people embarrassing themselves by admitting this shit realize that they don't have to say this out loud, or do they genuinely think it's funny to be ignorant about trans women's lives?

hi everyone! OP here!

When i made this post, i was expressing FRUSTRATION with this exact type of behavior. i do not think it is funny. i do not think it is cute. i think it betrays a stunning level of self-absorbed, navel-gazing idiocy that you should not feel comfortable admitting to me, let alone as though it's a joke we're both in on. Your ignorance of transfeminine hormone therapy is something you should be ASHAMED of. No investigation, no right to speak!

This breaks the flow of the post, but it was so egregiously wrong that I had to single it out. This is not true! This is not an 'amab/afab' thing! Higher testosterone levels, especially during puberty, leads to the lengthening & thickening of the vocal cords, along with expansion of the larynx. The larynx still expands during an estrogenic first puberty, but not as much, and the vocal cords do not thicken and lengthen in the same way. This is WHY trans women have to voice train- estrogenic second puberty does not undo this. Instead, we need to physically train the muscles in order to produce the desired sound.

The notes on this post broadly split into two camps- the first of which being fellow trans women commiserating the difficulties of finding and accessing voice training, how often they've heard this from TME people in their lives (multiple girls were asked when their voices would raise by their ENDOCRINOLOGISTS. horrifying), etc etc. Nothing but love to all of you, and I'm so sorry we're all going through this. A few girls have expressed that they found out through this post, and again, I'm so sorry. To put it in no uncertain terms, you were failed. We all deserve better than this. Here's a compassionately written (and in my experience fairly accurate) guide to estrogenic second puberty. And for good measure, here is transfeminine hormone therapy 101. I recommend reading both of these to familiarize yourself with what you can expect, and what you should be getting from your medical providers.

As for camp 2- the TME people on this post proudly proclaiming their ignorance. I'll repeat myself. No investigation. No right to speak. As @estrogenesis-eeveeangelion put it in her own post-

"if you can understand why "cishet man is proudly ignorant of and openly disgusted by vulvas/menstruation/menopause" is not just rude but has an intensely political dimension that is about power and oppression, but you are a queer person who declares out loud in public with no shame that you don't know how feminizing HRT works and have never learned[...]" - you are engaging in transmisogyny. Ask yourself. Why don't you know this? Why did you never bother to learn? Are there trans women in your life? Do you talk to them? Often? Read the above links, and for fuck's sake stop lining up in front of me to tell me you find it that you didn't know this. We're not laughing. Take the hint.

> "Look how dangerous this pedo protector is!"

> *attached screenshots are all nuanced takes on youthlib and refuting the idea of thoughtcrime*

> "Posted by a trann- I mean a transwoman!*"

Every fucking time.

You cunts can't fucking read and are using that as an excuse to pedojacket trans women. Bite the curb you wastes of space.

i wish more people watched damsels in distress (2011) because thor is such a perfect embodiment of what i find so obnoxious about the online (especially tumblr) ethos that commenting on someones ignorance is just about the meanest thing you can do. like no actually i think you should feel bad that youre trying to enter a conversation you proudly know nothing about!!!

like i dont know about the rest of you but whenever something comes up that i know embarrassingly little about i open a new tab and read about it until i dont feel like an idiot anymore. i thought we all learned how to do this in elementary school

"can you lock tf in" babes i have adhd i am locked tf out with the keys inside

rewire your vampire

Full post over on https://bsky.app/profile/nanadouken.bsky.social/post/3mbtzyetg2k2o ( I feel like it might be a bit much on tumblr idk )

just unfollowed someone for rbing anti-manhating sentiments. it's very weird to me and I'm not sorry. there's a rise in conservatism and a big societal push to strip women of our rights and make us men's property, and your biggest priority is lecturing women on how we talk about men?? fuck right the fuck off actually

"but it hurts their feelings!" it hurts MY feelings when my sisters and mothers don't have rights.

"but it doesn't help your goals!" meanwhile men are beating, raping, oppressing, and killing women everywhere to advance the goals of the patriarchy. don't tell me what I should and should not feel about that.

"but it harms trans men/men of color/other oppressed men!" does it? because trans men and men of color have way more serious shit to deal with than women expressing their feelings on the internet. such as transphobia and racism. meanwhile, women in their communities (trans women, women of color) have to deal with all of that PLUS oppression from the men.

you simply cannot convince me that anti-manhating arguments are anything more than patriarchy propaganda. "unhh we have all the power and rights, but if you don't worship at our feet, you're just as bad as us." fuck offfffff

just unfollowed another person for rbing similar sentiments. I am NOT in the mood

“You know, if people said that about trans women, everybody would be up in arms!”

> look inside

> it’s a thing that people say about trans women all the time without pushback.