man having your life even a little bit together will really make you realize how chronically sleep-deprived and poorly fed and under-enriched everyone is and then when they turn to you to implicitly agree that that’s just the natural state of existing you feel like the asshole for being like “actually I think you might benefit from eating breakfast regularly and picking up a new hobby”
there are a NUMBER of folktale Woman-Creatures like selkies who exist to make the inherently coercive nature of heterosexual marriage explicit and to externalize male anxiety about how if your wife had actual autonomy she very well might disappear and you might never fucking hear from her again
which is a FASCINATING category of Woman-Creature imo
someone said it’s also a cautionary tale about mistreating your wife and I think that’s spot on especially for other related types of stories e.g. the crane wife. like I think these stories are very much Husband Anxiety Stories. the Woman-Creatures are black boxes whose interior experience it is impossible to know and who have strange and often seemingly arbitrary rules that you must follow or else they will disappear. idk. like. that’s why I think that any empowering-to-women-ness qualities of these stories is incidental. I think they’re externalized anxiety about coercive societal heterosexuality and the inability to truly Know one’s wife in such circumstances.
some people think writers are so eloquent and good with words, but the reality is that we can sit there with our fingers on the keyboard going, “what’s the word for non-sunlight lighting? Like, fake lighting?” and for ten minutes, all our brain will supply is “unofficial”, and we know that’s not the right word, but it’s the only word we can come up with…until finally it’s like our face got smashed into a brick wall and we remember the word we want is “artificial”.
I couldn’t remember the word “doorknob” ten minutes ago.
ok but the onelook thesaurus will save your life, i literally could not live without this website
REBLOG TO SAVE A WRITER’S LIFE
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REBLOGGING TO SAVE ANOTHER WRITERS LIFE
I use this every time I sit down to write. It’s the best tool in the world and I would be lost without it!
the Game Changers series really shines because in every non-Heated-Rivalry book Ilya Rozanov shows up like a horrible bisexual Russian Columbo to torment the queer hockey-player leads because he immediately clocks them and he could be kind and understanding but he is god’s perfect gremlin and he chooses violence each time
you cannot make a post about how men put women in certain boxes without someone going “but what if i love the box? what if i’ve decided that it’s comfortable in the box? are you gonna tell me i’m not ALLOWED to like the box? not very feminist of you to police a woman’s decisions… maybe you’d be less ugly and miserable if you stopped talking about the box LMFAO #Girlboss #MyBox<3”
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