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Queen Mihai

@queen-mihai

Sapiosapphic transgender author/engineer. She/Her|43| Life is complex and so is everyone living it. I love you

This is a historic day

It's going to be my first actual book signing and the first sign of a business in Norway recognizing, in its official capacity, that they think I'm someone worth being associated with.

I had been hoping for a bit more fanfare, maybe an earlier announcement so that I can share their excitement with you, but the day is here and I've decided I don't give a fuck. I've established myself over the past multiple years that I don't bullshit you with this kind of stuff. So you can believe me when I tell you that the general manager that runs this mall is excited to host me here 💝

They're having a Pokémon trading day at the "Molde torget" mall, and I've been invited to bring my books and chat with people and sign for whoever shows up. Almost nobody knows I'm gonna be there, but a lot of people will be there, so my face will be associated with this event in at least a few people's minds and THAT will help me grow.

I'm doing it yall

Now I just need to get my butt there cuz this is gonna be fun 🩷

children heed my warning. one day your body’s check engine light will come on and demand that you start eating so many vegetables and whole grains. do not ignore it.

I want to explain this a bit more since 'health' and 'biology' are loosely speaking, special interests of mine and also what I went to school for.

People SAY that your health 'suddenly' starts to decline in your 30s but that's not really a good way to put it A) bc that's not really accurate and B) bc it frames this decline as something inherent and unavoidable, which does nothing to convince you that you have some agency about this.

So I'm going to explain this in LOOSE NON-SCIENTIFIC language:

When you are an infant or child, you are actively growing. Nature is throwing tons of new cells into you bc your body needs to BUILD BUILD BUILD. What you're able to do, eat and heal from is all largely dictated by this-- for example little kids often LOVE sweet foods or dairy-like foods and are relatively less interested in anything else. This is bc their body is running on HIGH all the time since building body parts is very energetically intensive. They can eat a fistful of sugarcubes and burn them off in an hour. Ask me how I know.

When you are a YOUNG ADULT you are actually still developing to a secondary extent, but your bones and such are fused and now that development goes into solidifying the structure and also finetuning its reproductive capabilities and features-- these, too, are HIGHLY energy consumptive when they first come online. Nature is STILL, thus, throwing tons of energy and new cells your way hoping you'll do something cool with them. You regenerate very quickly, and recover from harm rapidly-- But please note: swift recovery from harm is not absence of harm. This most relates to the consumption of 'junk food' and alcohol-- many people say they could 'eat whatever they wanted and nothing would happen' when they're in their 20s or that they could go out drinking and 'not be affected'. You were affected. You didn't notice.

Once everything has come online you go into maintenance mode. Nature stops throwing excess cells and energy your way bc you don't need that-- your body is yours and you are now responsible for maintaining it...hopefully with what you learned by experience in your 20s. IF YOU WERE NOT PAYING ATTENTION, you did not learn this, and are in for a surprise in your 30s bc your 'free recovery' subscription has ended. Recovery and maintenance- processes that are constant in the human body- now cost MINERALS & ELECTRICITY. You can go into DEBT now, and that debt will come in the form of joints that pop, inability to recover well, lowered immune function, and feeling like shit.

This debt accrues interest RAPIDLY once you hit 36-- the age of around 36 to 46 or so is a kind of reckoning stage where Nature assesses how well you've managed your body and you will be SWIFTLY downgraded if the result is you were just winging it.

So how do you build this account? 2 main things ( LOOSELY SPEAKING this is so not 100% scientific but I have to be general here): MINERALS -- you get these from eating well, mostly. You might want to take supplements based on your unique needs. But you need Minerals & Vitamins (i'm lumping these two together) bc they are the chemical building blocks (currency) your body uses to rebuild and fix up cells. ELECTRICITY is- again loosely speaking- having the proper chemical voltage throughout your body. This 'voltage' drops when you don't move enough, or when you're dehydrated. The building and repairing process your body wants to do may have the materials (minerals and vitamins) but there's not enough power in the factory, or the AC isn't working and the workers are overheating and can't work well. To fix this, drink lots of water and MOVE AND STRETCH your body. The action within your muscles and bones GENERATES ENERGY and it keeps your cells happy.

So the thing is, it's not that you suddenly find yourself taking damage after 30+. You were taking damage the whole time. You're just kept from really feeling it bc you're young and full of extra juice and given time to figure things out.

But at some point Nature expects you to do that, and you will pay if you don't.

Best to start out giving a shit, even if none of your friends think you're cool, even if you get called a 'health nut' bc you will still be able to frolick at 45, 50, probably so on while everyone who said it was dumb to have 'balanced meals' shares memes about how they wake up feeling like shit every day.

Sidenote don't let our shitty fatphobic society obscure the fact that it's okay to care about what you eat. Counting calories or being preoccupied with physical perfection is a sad way to relate to your body BUT that doesn't mean that paying attention to your diet AT ALL is bad. Baby, bath water, etc.

My goat ranting has been justified for this day.

your 'free recovery' subscription has ended

smh. can't own shit in this economy

Btw, this also goes for things like ergonomics. You may have never needed good sitting posture, or lumbar support, or proper typing technique, or a monitor riser, or good shoe insoles, or... but the thing is, you did, though. You were taking damage the whole time, you were just healing so fast that you didn't notice. Back problems and repetitive strain injuries aren't inevitable in your 30s – but they're pretty inevitable if you go on treating your body as badly as you could get away with treating it in your 20s.

Just to add on, there is a global pandemic of lack of sleep occurring across the planet. Your body uses sleep to do an incredible amount of healing, recovering, growing, and cleaning out gunk in addition to encoding memories.

All the nutrients and exercise and drinking water won't truly help you if you're sleeping like shit every night, because you're not letting your body getting critical healing and recovery periods.

You don't get a second chance at sleep. If you learn something or experience something lovely & awesome and that night you sleep like shit, studies show you will NOT recall it nearly as well compared to if you sleep well.

You're not going to feel the impacts of poor sleep in your teens and 20s, but you increasingly will as you age. Your sleep quality WILL degrade as you get older, but there's things you can do now to improve what you've got, while you've still got it.

Source - book by an important sleep researcher and a highly recommended read.

Rest. Sleep. Like seriously seriously I've taken pretty good care of my body to the point most doctors think I'm an athlete. One said that I was "obviously an ELITE athlete"

So the food and exercise angle are on lock

But I'm 43 now and do you know what has slammed into me like a brick fucking wall?

REST

Any time I have free time, my body just fucking shuts down now. I have no control over it. I can have all sorts of plans. My body says no.

Do you know why?

Because for 30 years, my attitude has been "I can rest when I retire"

It doesn't work like that. It will catch up to you. It will catch up to you. Get up, exercise, eat good. Eat your damn veggies. Get sleep. Take showers and talk to your friends and bring yourself to climax as much as you desire. But while you're at all that, find time to relax.

I have spent most of the day today welded to my bed. I'm in bed because for 30 years I've been running nonstop and my body has decided enough is enough.

Rest!

Nobody is gonna sign up to go through the vicious slog to talk to their doctor and open up to their family and endanger themselves to come out as transgender IN THIS STUPID FUCKING WORLD WHERE THAT DOES NOTHING BUT PAINT A TARGET ON YOUR BACK just for a stupid fucking trend.

And even if you think in your heart of hearts that they're just doing it for attention, YOU CALLING THEM OUT does nothing but bring attention to YOU. You're just abusing trans people for attention. Get a fucking life.

If you're a doctor and you are not fighting to make it easier for a transgender person under your care to get what they need, you are fucking guilty of pushing them towards suicide and I want you to know that I consider you a fucking murderer. Fuck off. I don't need your stupid fucking excuses.

And if you're a parent who hears that your child is transgender, the ONLY goddamn answer is "Ok, do you want to talk about it"

I will not be taking questions

took acid on new years as per tradition and me and my sister got really into the concept of an origami crane folded out of a pizza so precisely and beautifully that it "shames our hatred". like all acts of human cruelty are shamed by the perspective that its beauty provides. we called it pizza crane

You were onto something and someone should make the pizza crane

It would fix some things

Particularly the fact that we do not have a pizza crane

you don't have to use 'they/them' pronouns, it's okay to just use she/her. don't let the transmisogynists make you feel like you have to accommodate the degendering they do to you.

Nobody is gonna sign up to go through the vicious slog to talk to their doctor and open up to their family and endanger themselves to come out as transgender IN THIS STUPID FUCKING WORLD WHERE THAT DOES NOTHING BUT PAINT A TARGET ON YOUR BACK just for a stupid fucking trend.

And even if you think in your heart of hearts that they're just doing it for attention, YOU CALLING THEM OUT does nothing but bring attention to YOU. You're just abusing trans people for attention. Get a fucking life.

If you're a doctor and you are not fighting to make it easier for a transgender person under your care to get what they need, you are fucking guilty of pushing them towards suicide and I want you to know that I consider you a fucking murderer. Fuck off. I don't need your stupid fucking excuses.

And if you're a parent who hears that your child is transgender, the ONLY goddamn answer is "Ok, do you want to talk about it"

I will not be taking questions

Also you know what? Imma throw a few other things out that should be fucking obvious.

Black people deserve to fucking live.

Black people do not have a higher threshold for pain and you thinking they do is not a fucking compliment. You're forcing black people to endure pain because you believe in some bullshit taught to you by fucking racists. Give black people goddamn medicine

South American people deserve to live and they deserve to have goddamn peace. South America is a whole ass motherfucking CONTINENT and every fucking person there deserves goddamn respect.

Africa is not a fucking monolith and they're just as worthy to lead the world as the leaders from any other goddamn country. (or continent for the "well ackchually" crowd) And don't swing in the opposite direction either and pretend that every fucking country is Wakanda. Acting like a country or a continent is full of superheroes might sound nice but it's JUST AS FUCKING DEHUMANIZING as pretending they're all just tribes living in mud huts. The one pretends they don't need help because they're superhuman, and the other pretends the help won't matter because they're too stupid to understand it. HOW ABOUT WE JUST TREAT PEOPLE LIKE PEOPLE.

Pretending that everyone in Asia is super geniuses is just as insulting and harmful as pretending black people don't feel pain. It's just an excuse to not give goddamn help and let them keep getting abused by dictators. It's all "look out for our own countries and don't meddle in their affairs" as long as their dictators are killing millions of their people, but the moment they've got something the west wants, the tanks start rolling in and bombs start falling.

Whether it's Uzbekistan or Uruguay, Romania or Rwanda, Columbia or the Congo, we need to stop pretending people from places that aren't our home are somehow goddamn aliens. We are all fucking human.

And by the way, every country I just named, to get back to my original post: Take fucking care of your transgender people! The whole fucking LGBTQIA+ community! They DESERVE to be cared for

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Transfeminism isnt niche internet discourse if the FBI is telling a transfeminist author to stop publishing

Deadass people need to act on this

Feel free to link your kofi and your writings here, this post has gotten way more attention than I anticipated and it should be spent on supporting you.

And read my articles at: substack://share-url?url=https://substack.com/@bundleofstyxx&r=6jb0qs&utm_medium=ios&utm_source=profile&shareImageVariant=image

Also ofc my other platforms :)

If "we're all faggots in the eyes of the state" then why hasn't this happened to any of the people posting about transandrophobia? Maybe there's a reason they're particularly targeting a transfeminist (hint: its transmisogyny)

It should probably be mentioned too how Tara is a WoC which is most certainly relevant to why she is being targetted instead of a white transfeminist writer

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Nobody is gonna sign up to go through the vicious slog to talk to their doctor and open up to their family and endanger themselves to come out as transgender IN THIS STUPID FUCKING WORLD WHERE THAT DOES NOTHING BUT PAINT A TARGET ON YOUR BACK just for a stupid fucking trend.

And even if you think in your heart of hearts that they're just doing it for attention, YOU CALLING THEM OUT does nothing but bring attention to YOU. You're just abusing trans people for attention. Get a fucking life.

If you're a doctor and you are not fighting to make it easier for a transgender person under your care to get what they need, you are fucking guilty of pushing them towards suicide and I want you to know that I consider you a fucking murderer. Fuck off. I don't need your stupid fucking excuses.

And if you're a parent who hears that your child is transgender, the ONLY goddamn answer is "Ok, do you want to talk about it"

I will not be taking questions

Transfeminism isnt niche internet discourse if the FBI is telling a transfeminist author to stop publishing

Deadass people need to act on this

Feel free to link your kofi and your writings here, this post has gotten way more attention than I anticipated and it should be spent on supporting you.

And read my articles at: substack://share-url?url=https://substack.com/@bundleofstyxx&r=6jb0qs&utm_medium=ios&utm_source=profile&shareImageVariant=image

Also ofc my other platforms :)

If "we're all faggots in the eyes of the state" then why hasn't this happened to any of the people posting about transandrophobia? Maybe there's a reason they're particularly targeting a transfeminist (hint: its transmisogyny)

Nobody is gonna sign up to go through the vicious slog to talk to their doctor and open up to their family and endanger themselves to come out as transgender IN THIS STUPID FUCKING WORLD WHERE THAT DOES NOTHING BUT PAINT A TARGET ON YOUR BACK just for a stupid fucking trend.

And even if you think in your heart of hearts that they're just doing it for attention, YOU CALLING THEM OUT does nothing but bring attention to YOU. You're just abusing trans people for attention. Get a fucking life.

If you're a doctor and you are not fighting to make it easier for a transgender person under your care to get what they need, you are fucking guilty of pushing them towards suicide and I want you to know that I consider you a fucking murderer. Fuck off. I don't need your stupid fucking excuses.

And if you're a parent who hears that your child is transgender, the ONLY goddamn answer is "Ok, do you want to talk about it"

I will not be taking questions

kinda fucked up that it’s an almost universal tgirl experience to have a medically neglectful dose of estrogen for the first year of your transition

and the onus to explain the science of transition to our providers as if we are the doctors and they're the pharmacy that always get your order wrong

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the amount of trans women finding out from my omo fairy post that their meds are sublingual has been uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh not good

I was gonna add to this that all of this is true for me too, but this is a really new post and already one of the people in the thread is deactivated

meaning my addition to this post is no longer whatever tf I was gonna say, and is now:

I need to be an expert in my own endocrine system, because my doctor won't refer me to an endocrinologist

I need to be an expert in medical LAW because somehow I needed to inform my doctor that she can, in fact, refer me directly to an endocrinologist at her own discretion

And I also need to become a medical researcher because she refuses to send me to an endocrinologist because she "doesn't know who deals with trans people." And I have to bring HER the name of an endocrinologist because she refuses to find one for me or even help me find a direction in which to start looking.

I've talked to trans people in Norway. The medical system is looking for exactly, SPECIFICALLY ONE type of trans person to exist.

They will ask you how you masturbate apparently over and over again. They will ask if you're "just suffering from depression". They. Will ask. If you've been abused.

And all they're trying to find is FUCKING REJECTION CRITERIA.

Nevermind the fact that the process takes YEARS.

This shit KILLS PEOPLE

The medical system in Norway is complicit in killing people because people goddamn die in the waiting lists trying to get their first dose of HRT. If I were in charge of Norway I would have every family doctor and every person involved with the current "gender incongruence" system (ESPECIALLY the politicians that set the system up the way it is) tried for fucking MURDER.

If you're not ACTIVELY trying to make the system easier to navigate for trans people, you are actively engaging in an act that will lead to people's suicide and I fucking despise how nonchalant you can be while knowing you are causing harm. If you took an oath to "first do no harm" and you're pretending slow systematic torture is somehow not harming people? You should have your fucking license stripped. And that goes DOUBLE for anyone outside of the "gender incongruence" care system because for all of their faults AT LEAST THEY'RE HELPING SOME TRANS PEOPLE

Finally... we come to the addition that I have to make; because apparently you can't even have a fucking blog and talk about HRT without being targeted and deactivated because the only site where we can actually talk freely is owned by a transphobic piece of shit who wants to turn Tumblr into twitbookchan2.0 and take away our very goddamn ability to speak.

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So much of the world's "riches" came from Latin America that it really makes the mind dizzy. You see all those palaces in Austria and you would think they are as far from Bolivia as possible and then you remember that the Austrian Habsburgs ruled the Spanish Empire and partook of the loot of the silver and gold from the Americas. You see the cuisine of Europe, Asia and Africa completely changed by American crops to the point that many don't even remember where they came from. Silver from Potosí found its way from China to Sweden. All the world was enriched, directly or not, while the Americas were plundered. When you really realize the scale of it, the entire line of history bends around it.

This is the kind of thing that more of the people of the world needs to understand

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I love how it doesn't matter what expedition it is.

They all turn into excited kids when they meet penguins.

The Penguin: GIANTS! no way! I’m gonna wave at them THEY WAVED BACK! Holy Shit they’re dancing with me! My Wife is never gonna believe this OMG I got to dance with a Giant today so cool.

The Humans: Penguin! No way! I’m gonna wave at it IT WAVED BACK! Holy Shit it’s flapping with me! I got to play with a Penguin today; so cool.

where's the joy and whimsy guy? Have they found this one yet?

Joy and whimsy detected! This post is joyful and whimsical!

Who am I to deny a penguin some joy and whimsy 🐧

Joy and whimsy is needed, and appreciated. Thank you

kinda fucked up that it’s an almost universal tgirl experience to have a medically neglectful dose of estrogen for the first year of your transition

and the onus to explain the science of transition to our providers as if we are the doctors and they're the pharmacy that always get your order wrong

Avatar
tamamoland-dark-queen-of-gehenna

the amount of trans women finding out from my omo fairy post that their meds are sublingual has been uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh not good

I was gonna add to this that all of this is true for me too, but this is a really new post and already one of the people in the thread is deactivated

meaning my addition to this post is no longer whatever tf I was gonna say, and is now:

I need to be an expert in my own endocrine system, because my doctor won't refer me to an endocrinologist

I need to be an expert in medical LAW because somehow I needed to inform my doctor that she can, in fact, refer me directly to an endocrinologist at her own discretion

And I also need to become a medical researcher because she refuses to send me to an endocrinologist because she "doesn't know who deals with trans people." And I have to bring HER the name of an endocrinologist because she refuses to find one for me or even help me find a direction in which to start looking.

I've talked to trans people in Norway. The medical system is looking for exactly, SPECIFICALLY ONE type of trans person to exist.

They will ask you how you masturbate apparently over and over again. They will ask if you're "just suffering from depression". They. Will ask. If you've been abused.

And all they're trying to find is FUCKING REJECTION CRITERIA.

Nevermind the fact that the process takes YEARS.

This shit KILLS PEOPLE

The medical system in Norway is complicit in killing people because people goddamn die in the waiting lists trying to get their first dose of HRT. If I were in charge of Norway I would have every family doctor and every person involved with the current "gender incongruence" system (ESPECIALLY the politicians that set the system up the way it is) tried for fucking MURDER.

If you're not ACTIVELY trying to make the system easier to navigate for trans people, you are actively engaging in an act that will lead to people's suicide and I fucking despise how nonchalant you can be while knowing you are causing harm. If you took an oath to "first do no harm" and you're pretending slow systematic torture is somehow not harming people? You should have your fucking license stripped. And that goes DOUBLE for anyone outside of the "gender incongruence" care system because for all of their faults AT LEAST THEY'RE HELPING SOME TRANS PEOPLE

Finally... we come to the addition that I have to make; because apparently you can't even have a fucking blog and talk about HRT without being targeted and deactivated because the only site where we can actually talk freely is owned by a transphobic piece of shit who wants to turn Tumblr into twitbookchan2.0 and take away our very goddamn ability to speak.

"let me kiss it better" voted number one thing to say when your friend is complaining about her boobs hurting

or when her lips are chapped. or when she's sad. or a multitude of other things really its a very versatile phrase

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