I mourn for the men and boys we never knew.
How many were there, throughout all of human history? Thousands? Millions? Billions, even? How many little boys were forced into femininity, married off and grew into “women” without ever knowing why it all felt so wrong? How many men never got the chance to cut their hair, to wear their husband or father’s clothes, to do anything to explore their mind and body under the constant oppressive force of the (cis)patriarchy? How many couldn’t live on their own, couldn’t go to school, couldn’t even go outside without supervision? How many never knew themselves, never were given the chance to know themselves, because they were kept as a housemaid and servant to their husband and children?
How many were there, that did know? That knew they weren’t women, that knew they were men but had no way to explore or externalize that desire. No freedom to find community, no privacy in their homes, no money or possessions not approved by the cis men in their lives. For the few who were brave and lucky enough to try but were caught, the result was what we see now: erasure. Labelled as “tomboys” and mentally ill, to this day still called women because their voice was never heard. Never was allowed to be heard. Even for the even fewer who did, or even got away with it, in the end the same result occurs. Arguments over their identity, refusal to believe their word over what others wanted them to be. A woman. And those were the tiny, lucky few. For the rest…
How many men were institutionalized? How many mutilated, raped and murdered for refusing to follow their imposed societal role? How many died by the hands of the government, their community, their own loved ones, for the crime of who they were? No money or connections to fall back on, treated as a defective object rather than a failed person. Buried in clothes they hated, eulogized with names that burned on their tongue and quietly, routinely erased.
People think of all of these things as women’s issues, but they’re wrong. They’ve happened to men (and non-women), too. They have been happening, for as long as the concept of gender has existed in the first place. Men who were silenced, men who were invisible, men who never even got to feel in their hearts what they actually were. The trans community is haunted by their ghosts, invisible as they were in life. I wish we could see them.
I identify the most with the woman who has a green velvet ribbon around her neck and keeps being like "DONT untie my neck ribbon or something really bad will happen" and then her husband unties the ribbon and her head falls off. this is extremely real to me. spent my whole life like "please don't do this thing to me or really bad stuff will happen" and everyone around me being like "that sounds fake" and doing it anyway. and then my head fell off!
I identify the most with the woman who has a green velvet ribbon around her neck and keeps being like "DONT untie my neck ribbon or something really bad will happen" and then her husband unties the ribbon and her head falls off. this is extremely real to me. spent my whole life like "please don't do this thing to me or really bad stuff will happen" and everyone around me being like "that sounds fake" and doing it anyway. and then my head fell off!
it must feel good as hell when you’re a horse and you take a big bite out of an apple like ttshoke
your command over onomatopoeia is unmatched bestie
This is 100% the gay supervillain music video I’ve been waiting for.
I love campy gay villains, but gay villains of this type are amazing too and sorely underrepresented.
…Oh, so by “gay”, you mean. Actually gay.
I don’t usually reblog stuff like this but tbh this is the kind of content I live for.
Happy 10 year anniversary to these two, specifically
(single dropped Dec. 3, 2015, music vid hit youtube Jan 12, 2016)
obsessed with this poor guy who gets dragged away from his takeout menu so his evil bisexual roommate can go have the worst club experience of his life
OKAY WHAT WE'RE GONNA DO HERE IS TALK ABOUT WHO THIS MAN IS. BUCKLE THE FUCK UP.
This is Harrison Browne. He's a trans man, activist, actor, former pro, and the first openly transgender athlete in professional hockey. He came out in 2016 when he played for the now-defunct NWHL's Buffalo Beauts. The same season he came out, he went on to win the NWHL's Isobel Cup championship. A year later, he did it again. When he retired in order to medically transition, he retired as a champion.
In 2025 he and his sister Rachel Browne wrote a book everyone should read called Let Us Play: Winning The Battle for Gender Diverse Athletes. He's an icon, a trailblazer, and a goddamned delight. Hockey is better for having him anywhere near it.
That moment when you’re reading a fic and your OTP finally hooks up
That gif is literally perfect
this tag dealt me psychic damage thanks
Maria Skłodowska-Curie's notebooks are crazy once you think about it. They're so radioactive they have to be sealed in a lead box. Imagine a world where atomic theory is forgotten and a dude just goes "yea there's a book that details the secrets of the universe, the machinations of the creation of existence down to its barest essentials, but if you get close to it you fucking die. The more you read it the more your body slowly disassembles into mush." like wat excuse me
i feel like what is often read in transmascs and lesbians as a lack of care to police the boundaries of womanhood/femaleness is really better explained by trying to understand the patriarchal need to control not just people classed as women, but what can even be considered deviance from that class. this is not yet a fully formed thought but. something something the way the public sphere is masculinized and the private sphere is feminized. the way that the policing and punishment of deviant masculinity is made a public spectacle, while the policing and punishment of deviant femininity happens whenever possible behind closed doors. the way that queen victoria didn't want to enact a law banning lesbian sex because she didn't want to publicly admit it happened. the way that bodies perceived as female go understudied and health issues ignored, the way intersex variations in such bodies go ignored unless it causes issues with fertility or having vaginal sex with a penis. this is not a hard binary to be clear, just general trends, but still important to consider. there is a sense that the patriarchy wants everyone to know what it looks like to fail at being a man (creates a culture of scarcity around manhood) but it very much wants to restrict and control how we are able to conceive of failing to be a woman. it's quite literally unspeakable! and people mistake the silence for absence constantly