"where are all the older transmascs and trans men?"

dead or detransitioned.

they were killed by their families. by their partners. by random strangers.

they killed themselves because they weren't treated with respect.

they never got out of the closet because they live in a part of the world where people seen as women don't have any autonomy.

they detransitioned because they had no support, because they were pushed out of community and safe queer spaces.

they're so stealth nobody in their lives knows they're trans, because they get treated with less respect when people know.

where are our transmasc elders? the community failed them, and now they're an endangered population.

Genuinely strange that AIDS is not being mentioned here. We lost so, so many queer people to AIDS. Transmacs were no exception.

On that note: help keep our remaining queer elders alive by wearing a damn respirator (n95/kn95/etc). They've survived one plague, don't be the one to infect them with covid or flu. Both covid and flu are a leading causes of death in seniors, and are absolutely preventable.

the people who deliberately misunderstand youth liberation really piss me off as an adult who was once a kid who wanted to run away and, while literally running away from home, realized they had nowhere else to go but back home. nowhere. no where! the only place i could go was back home to my abusive parents. youth liberation is creating a society wherein i, as a child, would have had a safe place to go that was not my home, where i could prioritize my and my brother's safety.

youth liberation is what helps children get the medical support they need, even if their parents are neglectful.

youth liberation educates the child so that the child has the necessary language to speak on their own behalf, as an agent of themselves with autonomy over themselves.

youth liberation demands we treat all children as what they are: future adults, who at all times have the right to autonomy over their body, and a right to a life free from abuse and exploitation. it would deny parents the ability to force (in the case of intersex "correction" surgeries) or deny medical care, deny them the ability to isolate and control their children through regulated forms of education like in homeschooling, and would instead give that power to the child and the child alone.

youth liberation is not only about preventing abuse before it happens, by demanding that children are treated with respect and as full agents over themselves, it is also about creating a supportive society that allows children to escape abusive situations to a community-based safe space.

everyone trying to argue youth lib is about "letting pedophiles hang out with children" are not only engaging in some of the most deliberate bad faith possible, they're purposefully ignoring the fact youth liberation would also protect and prevent child sexual abuse, which relies upon children being - to a certain extent - trapped, with no ability to leave the situation they're in themselves, at the hands of statistically family members, relatives, family friends, known babysitters, etc. children can only be trapped if they have nowhere else to go.

csa also relies on poor sex education - in fact, every single assault i faced was due to me not having been taught that what i experienced was assault at all. i was raised in an abusive home, and i came to earnestly believe that a relationship with a man necessitated my allowing him to use my body however he wanted, because that's what i saw growing up. my parents were poor educators, only giving us books they purchased about sex education for kids for us to read alone.

youth liberation is necessary, and any who tries to paint youth lib as evil, as a "pedophile" movement, is choosing to view the collective desire of abused kids and former kids who were abused - their desire for a better world where their abuse wouldn't have happened - as something destructive and negative and that's just disgusting to me. youth liberation now.

listen. There's a whole mentality shift that needs to happen culture wide here, from the schools to the public infrastructure to pet ownership to the justice system

The proper response to your dog doing a natural behavior you dislike (digging/barking/protecting etc) it to give them an appropriate time and place to engage in that behavior

The proper response to skateboarders damaging infrastructure is to build more and better skate parks, or build skate elements into the public infrastructure on purpose.

The proper response to homeless people sleeping on park benches is to build them houses.

you see how there's like, a commonality at play here?

The proper response to a disruption is to address the root of the disruption directly, not somehow attack the disruption itself -

you don't invent a muffler by swinging a bat at the engine noise, you don't relieve your hunger by punching yourself in the stomach, you don't resolve public unrest by sending armed men to control them and you don't prevent homeless people using bus shelters as a roof by removing the bus shelters.

a whole ass shift in a basic mindset, i'm tellin' you. We need it.

Hit-Japan

— Remi Recchia, PhD, in Transmasculine Poetics: Filling the Gap in Literature & the Silences Around Us

the mire of epiphany, lisa adams (2013)

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If you mock men for being short, for having small penises, for having bad facial hair/their facial hair being "wrong" (like having a neckbeard), for starting to bald and/or for having any kind of "feminine/womanly" quality (psychically or in personality), you are quite literally incapable of ever being a genuine ally to trans men. Yes, even if it's "just a joke!" (It's not a joke. It never is.)

My most controversial (but correct) opinion is that feminine women have privilege over masculine women the same way masculine men are privileged over feminine men. Gender conformity is an aspect of privilege, including and especially if you’re trans. Source: My entire adolescence where I was seen as inferior to my femme peers (including my own sister!) and constantly degraded and dismissed for daring to be a girl that didn’t like feminine things in the era of “#justbeyourself girlypop feminism” (that is, coincidentally, making a resurgence now). Like I truly don’t think people who aren’t masc women/hadn’t once identified as masc women or girls understand how we are treated like self hating misogynists for just. Not liking feminine things. And how people will see YOU as the privileged one for being masc when in reality you’re ostracized and struggle to find support because you’re perceived as “not needing it”. It’s a real phenomena that just gets worse if you realize you’re trans, same way as happens to fem men who realize they’re trans women.

"Grok is undressing anyone, including minors"

Grok is the tool. X users are doing this. X users are requesting this and Grok engineers facilitated this. Both are liable for this.

Yes, precisely.

hope this is okay to share: independent journalist Taylor Lorenz wrote about this is her email newsletter--

-Taylor Lorenz, January 6 2026 newsletter titled "Is anyone going to take accountability for this?"

she later specifies that any "apologies" from grok were user-prompted responses, aka not actually written by humans

#basicfeminism is when you say everything terfs say but when you say 'man' you mean 'trans man' and not 'trans woman'

#basicfeminism is when you say everything misogynists say about women but when you say "woman" you say "trans man".

I just think it’s weird when folks act like trans and cis men are equally complicit in perpetuating misogyny in our society when like. No I’m pretty sure the number of trans men and mascs listening to Andrew Tate and manosphere podcasts, advocating for dismantling reproductive rights and talking about restoring Traditional Gender Roles™️ are likely so few as to be basically imperceptible. I think it’s actually way more likely that a cis WOMAN would do those things before a trans man would because (and I know this will shock many) misogyny isn’t an inherent part of manhood but is, instead, a learned behavior that anyone can perpetuate, especially those who exist within the bounds of cishetperisex society. Which trans men do not.

One thing that solidified my abhorrence towards radfems was when one said talking about my CSA was decentering and speaking over women. Didn't critique my tone or wording, the talking itself. Point-blank told me my sexual trauma will always be less impactful than if I was a girl.

Her reasoning: sexual violence was invented to keep women subservient, so it's an act of misogyny, not just violence. A boy can't experience true SA bc the motive isn't to oppress a woman.

Also doesn't matter if you were a girl at the time bc privilege nullifies the misogyny. You can't have your purity, agency, and sense of self stolen bc patriarchy provides that. But women will be ruined forever. It was a consequence of misogyny, not against you as a person. You can be hurt but have to realize you weren't the target: the violence was meant for girls around you.

By talking, you take the spotlight off women who need it.

I will never forget how it felt to have my transition fears comes true. Not only was I banned from talking about "women's issues," my trauma meant nothing. I was collateral damage trying to make everything about me.

Never mind that all my abusers were women. I guess those relatives were just frustrated and venting about the patriarchy when they fundamentally changed my relationship with sexuality, huh

I understand why many are emphasizing that our neighbor Renee was a citizen, but I want to state that this blog believes that we must protect and defend ALL our neighbors from ICE here in Minnesota.

ICE cannot be allowed to murder anyone in our home. No one should be mourning their mother, their wife, their daughter, and their friend today.

Undocumented Minnesotans, I hope you’re safe today, I hope your community is stepping up to take care of you, your life is just as important.

Side note, why can people never get my URL or name correct when directly talking about me?

You don't see me going "well actually trans women are privileged because cis people were more willing to directly help them with breastforms than trans men with binders" because that's just nonsense. Trans women whose HRT did not particularly endow them (if they are on HRT at all!) and cis women post-mastectomy share a need for breastforms with some slight sizing differences.

But the shapewear made for cis men is intrinsically different from a binder for a trans man due to body proportions *and also* due to breast size (as even cis men with gynecomastia aren't usually H cups). Underworks also had to have a change in company direction and *even then* regulate us to a "seperate but equal" sister company rather than advertising directly under the name Underworks itself (unlike any of the breastform shops I mentioned, which use the same company name and website to sell and advertise for all women cis or trans and have their transgender guides right on their main page). Despite the company knowing that trans men were using their products intended for cis men and eventually pivoting to lean into the sales, we are denied equal footing with the cis men they sell to.

We end up having to make our own because of problems like this. We can't rely on companies to treat us fairly or equally, so we end up inventing our own binders, packers, strokers, prosthetics, harnesses, even underwear. And then we're called privileged for being put in the position of having to make it ourselves because no one else is willing to do it until we do.