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I post what I like. I have my fandoms, my favorite music, flowers, food, ideals, etc. Enjoy your stay and if you need anything or just bored, come say hi!
Learning from every source in your life that sex is disgusting and sinful, that you should be ashamed of your feelings, thoughts and desires and then having someone in a dog mask tell you, “No, it’s all cool, actually,” is mind-blowing lol
In the comments seeing a lot of aces saying “Yeah I appreciate that kinksters are often accepting of ace people” and that is because there are many asexuals in kink! Sexual attraction or behavior is not essential to kink/BDSM.
My spouse and I are both a-spec kinksters who do a lot of Kinky Activities and exactly zero traditional genital-involving sex. I write about being nonsexual kinksters professionally as well.
“One funny thing: At most of the kink parties Selena went to, no one was doing anything that seemed to be sexual. People would say, ‘I’m tying someone up, that’s sex,’ but much of the time it didn’t seem to feel sexual and nobody could explain how this made sense. Was tying someone up really sex, or was it a rope and some trust? Selena didn’t care about sex, but she did love rope, so it was unclear exactly what was happening here, and what she actually wanted.
Intimacy, it turns out. Selena cared about intimacy, and kink was a way for her to be intimate with others. Intimacy and sex are not the same. Intimacy can be in service of sex or sex can be in service of intimacy, or they can be completely separate…”
-Angela Chen, Ace: What Asexuality Reveals about Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex
Too much movement makes your joints hurt and too little movement also makes your joints hurt. This would imply that there’s an optimal amount of movement that allows your joints to not hurt. This is a lie.
