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Cautiously Optimistic

@samtheviking

Howdy. Pop in and say hi! I'm always interested to see if anyone is paying attention. Here to help spread the good word of Neil Gaiman and Jonathan Coulton. 51/Male/Northern California. Libertarian.
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I regret opening up to some people who didn’t deserve that level of access to me

i’ve warmed up significantly towards the concept of small talk ever since i learned that its sole purpose is to make friendly noises.

as long as you smile and nod, people are satisfied. it’s just to show that you are nice and there with good intentions. we’re small in a big world and have to rely on other people to be decent to us. so we do our little human dance to each other to say, “i’m not here to hurt you. here’s something we have in common, like the weather or sports or itchy sweaters, so we both know we’re on the same team. we both agree on a basic fact, like that it is rainy or that being itchy is uncomfortable, and this proves we can get along. i’m being light-hearted and non-threatening right now.”

small talk isn’t to get to know a person. it’s just a greeting to affirm you’re buddies in the universe.

i am motivated by wanting the other person to know i am friendly, so i have gotten pretty decent at small talk when i used to hate it.

They want guns IN the hands of criminals. That's why they freaked out over stop and frisk, which took illegal guns out of the hands of criminals, gangs, and illegals.

I had to learn this the hard way... more than once. But I've learned my lesson now, and won't accept anything less than someone who loves me back with as much passion and excitement as I love her.

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