To be fair...

It's a lot easier to change your worldview, even on a subject like your own being...

...if you have people to encourage that change.

Ralsei got the chance. Even if he's still struggling with it, Ralsei was still allowing himself to at least have some fun every now and then. He has people like Susie to at least tell him he's worth something, contradicting his thought process.

Ramb didn't. If anything, he was just kicked down into a coffin, with TV World nailing it shut. The Pippins at least imply Ramb tried to fit in, even if it didn't work out. And if his treatment nowadays is any implication, it didn't get any better. So whatever encouragement he could've gotten from anybody was probably too little too late, or just drowned out by the negativity that made him feel alone, despite living in such a crowded place.

Reinforcement helps. Support helps. Tremendously.

So when the involvement is only given to one of two different, but similar people.

It's no surprise which one walks away as both a better person, and as more of a person, period.

That's true!

A lot of people are under the assumption that you can "think away" or walk off emotional damage but it's been proven that it's literally impossible to do that alone

(obviously I'm talking about real life humans here but like. The fiction of the dark worlds and the darkners is based on our world and our psychology), we're social animals, we depend on one another for support, we evolved like this and you can't break out of that by sheer force, no matter how strong you think you are, or how much you think you should be "above it"

I hope I didn't make it seem like I was blaming Ramb for his situation at the end there- that absolutely wasn't my intention, let me try to rephrase it;

Their two stories that branch off from the same line of thinking seem to show us what happens to that same lonely, self abandoning/self sacrificing/low self worth person with and without a support system

Ralsei has the support of Susie and Kris, when his thoughts of inferiority and this warped "purpose" come back to the surface (and he's vocal about it, that's important!!) Susie and Kris are right there beside him to remind him that none of that is true, that he's been stuck believing lies, that he's loved and cared for as he is right now and he deserves it.

He's starting to accept that support and it shows, he's more confident, more vocal when he's upset, he hides less and is starting to discover who he truly is. Thanks to both his friends and his courage to accept their love.

Ramb doesn't have a support system. He doesn't have any friends or even just colleagues who care enough about him to simply cry for him once he's gone. He didn't have anyone to shut down his beliefs about himself and his worth, he didn't have anyone that would see his qualities and and reassure him that he matters as he is, whether inanimate object or darkner, that his feelings are valid and real.

He didn't have anyone that could jump start his journey to live for himself, so he remains as he always was, a self minimizing, self abandoning stone statue, which turned more literal when he met his end.

Now THIS is noir!