Talking about this here cause it kinda feels like screaming into a void and you guys are chill and get me.
But it’s very disheartening how much misogyny is downplayed in this community, and in general. I said the word in a recent situation and there was just a sleuth of people claiming I was miss-using it, saying it was “unfair” but it wasn’t misogyny, or that it wasn’t a big enough issue.
I think misogyny especially is one of those things where people can’t separate themselves from their actions. I don’t think most people are misogynists. I don’t think most people move through the world with intent to harm in general - but we’ve lost a lot of nuance in how our actions can be misogynist (Or any other kind of discriminatory).
I see… a lot of that in this community… often… And yes, sometimes it is “small” but it’s the bricks on a foundation which holds so much more.
Misogyny is not just an issue that exists in a vacuum, it’s built into and often connected to so many other issues, racism, homphobia, transphobia etc. None of these issues should be tackled alone, but rather as a lumpsum of intersectionality. By ignoring one, you might as well ignore all the others, which is why even waves pushed by feminists in the past haven’t succeeded in the ways we desire.
I think a lot of people came out of this situation seeing me as a whiney victim, which… I could get into how even that in it of itself is a idea perpetrated by misogyny, but I realized a lot of that ideology comes from the basis of communication. When someone enters of conversation with me, or reads a post, they enter with an assumption of what I want out of it.
I am expected to think, communicate, and feel my feelings the same way men are in this space, and as a neurodivergent non-man, I… don’t.
I think this valley, this gap is where all nuance goes to die, and I think I’m just exhausted with trying to build a bridge that will never be completed on the other side.
I have much more I could scream about on this topic, but its quite exhausting so I think I’ll call it there.