[guy whose bedtime is approaching fast] I need to write one billion words right now. and draw everything that has ever existed.

People who say ‘there’s nothing more boring than hearing about someone else’s dream’ I’m sorry that you and your circle are lacking in the department of spectacular and unsettling dreamscapes

it seems that a lot of times people telling someone to “get therapy” envision the ideal outcome of this to be essentially like lobotomizing the person in question

I’m not afraid of you now

Warding off the oncoming depressive episode by reading about very old tortoises

Pleased to report that the 190 year old tortoise is a gay icon

Jonathan is the oldest known land animal btw. I need everyone to know that the oldest animal alive is a gay tortoise

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it is genuinely bewildering to me that adult human beings do not know this but if you are mean to people they will not like you. like tbh they are probably also not going to like you if you are mean to other people but they are definitely not going to like you if you are mean to them. it doesn’t matter if you are funny or if you can use r/aita rules to prove that you are in the right. people simply do not enjoy being treated like shit.

This includes people who fail to listen and don't even try to adjust their approach when bluntly and repeatedly told that they're being hurtful and aggressive. Idk why it would be baffling when people dislike you after that.

Also. If you're complaining about someone being really inconsiderate and you've done that to someone else because you're thoughtless, you're probably gonna piss them off and they'll dislike you.

Listening to people and being willing to adjust your behavior goes so, so far. You don't have to mean harm to cause it.

it is genuinely bewildering to me that adult human beings do not know this but if you are mean to people they will not like you. like tbh they are probably also not going to like you if you are mean to other people but they are definitely not going to like you if you are mean to them. it doesn’t matter if you are funny or if you can use r/aita rules to prove that you are in the right. people simply do not enjoy being treated like shit.

it is genuinely bewildering to me that adult human beings do not know this but if you are mean to people they will not like you. like tbh they are probably also not going to like you if you are mean to other people but they are definitely not going to like you if you are mean to them. it doesn’t matter if you are funny or if you can use r/aita rules to prove that you are in the right. people simply do not enjoy being treated like shit.

it is genuinely bewildering to me that adult human beings do not know this but if you are mean to people they will not like you. like tbh they are probably also not going to like you if you are mean to other people but they are definitely not going to like you if you are mean to them. it doesn’t matter if you are funny or if you can use r/aita rules to prove that you are in the right. people simply do not enjoy being treated like shit.

A Chinese Water Deer taking a swim with her fawn 

Photograph by  Hans Watson

Holy fuck you illegally downloaded a cardigan

Remember that if you want to do more of something, you have to do less of something else. It's that time of year where people set goals for the new year and they have plans and hopes and it's always focusing on what they want to do more of. More studying, more exercise, more crafting, more socialising, more making things from scratch. Okay, great. What are you going to do less of in order to have the time and energy to do more of those things you really want to do?

And if your answer to this is "less doomscrolling" or "less bedrotting" then great, but please think about why you're doing those things. No one's doomscrolling or bedrotting because they don't have things they'd rather be doing. Actually, I'm willing to bet you have a lot of things you'd rather be doing and you spend your life internally screaming at yourself to do literally any one of the many things you want to be doing instead, but you don't have the energy for them all and you can't work out how to prioritize them, so doomscrolling spares you from making that decision. Or perhaps you're burned out from taking on too many projects and you need to rest your brain, so you lie in bed because you don't even have the energy to get started anymore.

This is going to be a really hard pill to swallow, but the truth is you might not be able to balance all your hobbies and all your projects the way you'd like. If you want to finish writing that book, you might have to reduce your daily drawing habit to a couple of times a week. If you want to do yoga every morning, you might have to accept not cooking from scratch as often. If you want to spend more time with your family, you might have to cut down on your yearly reading goal. I'm not saying give up on your hobbies; I'm be realistic with your time and your energy and be kind to yourself. Stop expecting yourself to do more and do better every single year. You don't have to constantly be growing upwards and reaching for the stars; you can be content with where you are, or even cut parts of yourself back to make space for other things in your life to bloom.

Think about what your priorities are and make peace with doing less of other things. Less is okay. Less is not failing. Less is self care.

do you ever see a new slur that someone just made up and not even be able to tell which group you're referring to? like. damn, i almost feel bad for these people. not even are you making up new slurs, you're making up ones that don't even have a clear linguistic origin within the established structures of the english language

if i, a lesbian who plays multiplayer games with global chat, cannot even form a hypothesis of which group you are trying to insult with your slur, i think maybe you are too online actually