Writer stuff
Have you guys ever realised that sometimes we write like writers not like actual people? Okay wait, hear me out because I swear this makes sense.
Sometimes I’m reading something (or my own stuff 💀) and I’m like… no one talks like this. NO ONE. Why is every sentence perfectly structured? Why is everyone delivering emotionally devastating one-liners on cue? Why did this character just explain their entire trauma in one clean paragraph with little to no hesitations?
Real people don’t do that. Real people ramble. They start a sentence, stop, restart it, abandon it halfway through. They say “I don’t know” seventeen times while very clearly knowing something, just not how to say it. They say something stupid out of pocket and then immediately go “—that’s not what I meant, wait. STOP”. They go "um" or "uhh" like 5 times in a single sentence like it's a proper word.
And especially when emotions are high? Dialogue gets MESSY. YOU UNDERSTAND WHERE I'M GOING WITH THIS?!
It’s not:
“I’m afraid of losing you because I've been abandoned my entire life.”
It’s:
“I just— I mean— you always do this. And I know that’s not fair, I know it’s not, but it feels like you’re already halfway out the door.”
Or even:
“Can you just… don’t. Okay? Just don’t.”
Sometimes the most realistic line is literally:
“I don’t know what I’m trying to say. I just— I don't know.” 🤷
I think we get so caught up in making lines sound good that we forget they’re supposed to sound real. Sometimes people talk just to fill the silence. Sometimes they say the wrong thing. Sometimes they don’t explain themselves properly and only realise it later in the shower.
Which reminds me: SHOWER THOUGHTS count too, you know. Like, my character is having an emotional BREAKDOWN. She isn't going to be in the shower like 'oh my god my life is messed up, but hey when life kicks you down, you get up and deal with it 😊'.... like hell no. She'd be like Why did I say that. Oh my god why did I say that. I should not have said that. What the frik frak. Noooo...
ALSO ☝️ STUTTERING COUNTS — and I don’t mean as a condition. I mean normal human brain lag. And YES. EVEN IN NORMAL CONVERSATIONS. ESPECIALLY IN NORMAL CONVERSATIONS.
Think about it. You as a writer would think, okay, they'd say something like... "Can you get that for me? You know what? Don't bother, I'll do it myself." But wait... your character doesn't have that time.
They're not writers. They're humans, and they're changing their mind halfway through a sentence. They've realised what they’re about to say sounds weird. They’re multitasking. They’re tired.
So you get stuff like:
“Can you— actually, wait, never mind, I’ll do it.”
Or:
“I was gonna— well, not— it doesn’t matter.”
Or even:
“Yeah, I— yeah. That works.”
And you don’t need to overdo it — one dash, one restart, one “I mean—” is enough. Which is why em dashes are so important. So when uncultured swines say 'em dashes are AI', tell them to shove that sht up their— I mean politely tell them to shut the fu up.
Anyway. I’m done. (I’m not.)
Also I just realised I’ve been talking about writers like we’re a separate species from humans. Which… okay. Maybe we are.
Normal people have conversations. Writers have conversations and then mentally annotate them like interesting pause, noted for later.
So yeah. Same species. Different operating system.
Anyway. I’m done.
(I’m still lying.)