i need trans allies to really internalize the idea that masculinity in girls and women is punished by society. gender nonconformity is never rewarded. women being allowed in some circumstances to wear pants is not an example of “masculinity” being rewarded. women had to fight for a long fucking time in order to be able to wear pants and in many western households and non-western countries, women are still forced to wear dresses. we are still a long ways off from any kind of gender equality or acceptance of gender nonconformity.
not many people know about “goldilocks code” from the 80s where queer men would have hot porridge in their left pocket if they were a papa bear and cold porridge in their right pocket if they were a mama bear
