cooking mama i am willing to be the subject of your post divorce experimentation with bisexuality please contact me

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I do not play about Eurocentric Beauty Standards Imposed Upon Mighty Cougar…..you guys are always trying to humble beautiful women of colour Well no more

my corner store guy is a 50 year old man who's my best friend in the world and recently he was like "you're too pretty to be single I have some nephews you should meet. very handsome!" and I was like "a niece might be more up my alley" and he just got more excited and said "ah even better! I was overselling my nephews but my nieces are very beautiful"

OP the tags!!

I wish none of you were sad

the average TME person will compare us to nazis because we have the temerity to say... (checks notes) "...men aren't oppressed for being men"

starting a collection

I remember as a kid asking if there was an opposite to tomboy for people like me (camab) and was told that femboy exists but I shouldn't say it because it meant something else (read: porn term, aimed at trans women)

now I see people constantly argue that actually it's not that and has always just been this nice term for GNC boys. not only that, I see people use it to say a character isn't trans, (s)he's just a femboy, which. is like saying a character isn't trans (s)he's just a l*dyboy, only a few terms down the euphemism treadmill.

are we really going to keep doing this?

this must go so hard if you're stupid

The obsession with pornography somehow being addictive or damaging is just stock-standard reactionary moral-panic, and the science backs me up. I cite my sources when making claims, they never will because the sources don't exist, or are opinion-piece drivel.

The idea of “but everyone knows that” needs to stop.

I saw a post about someone chiding Millennials for not knowing about JKRowlings transphobia, and asking how it is at all possible that people can exist in the world and the internet and, you know, not know.

Which I mean, I get. It is so present in so many of my online spaces that it seems astounding that someone could simply be ignorant! It feels impossible!

But let me tell you a story:

I went on a girls trip with a bunch of friends. All of us are rather incredibly liberal and all of us are incredibly online.

One girl would not stop talking about Harry Potter.

At one point, another girl asked her why she was ok with supporting it, and she had no real clue that JK Rowling was at all transphobic. She had heard that she likes to support Lesbian causes and thought “oh ok cool!” And that was it. She was AGOG with the news and rather horrified.

I must once again emphasize that she was an incredibly online person. She’s a foodie and a restaurant blogger.

Later in the trip we were picking restaurants and I suggested one I found on Google, and she gasped at me. Actually gasped, asking how I could ever be okay picking that one.

The shock must’ve been on my face, because she then told me all of the shitty things that restaurateur does. He abuses staff. Underpays them. Fires them on a whim. Is known for being one of the worst people to his employees in the entire restaurant business on this coast.

And she was so shocked I had never heard of this. Because in her mind, I was just as online as her. And in her online world, EVERYONE knew about this guy.

So I think the moral of this story is: always approach the other person with some empathy. Even online people, even people you think MUST know about how bad people are, may not have heard. It may truly be just them being on a different sphere of the internet than you.

So be gentle, be kind when letting people know they might not have heard about the cancellation of XYZ person. Don’t assume that everyone knows all the same info as you.

By all means, let them know so they can make informed decisions, but being kind will go a lot further than attacking them for some info they might not know yet.

you cannot be serious

the amount of transmisogyny and obliviousness in this screenshot is staggering i'm almost in awe

recently while poking around a little on reddit (mistake), i discovered a post on a subreddit called something along the lines of 'leftwingmen' discussing frustration with progressive people refusing to entertain misandry as a concept. this was about as hilarious and pathetic as you would expect, but the top comment suggested using 'trans*ndrophobia' as a foot in the door to get people to admit to the existence of misandry and leverage from there. it is unsurprising and we have known this for some time, but it is still unsettling to see tboy gamergate being uplifted by the same demographic who gave us the original.

someone in the tags expressed a little incredulity, which I suppose is fair, so I went back to check my work. I did actually make a mistake in this post, - it's not the top comment, it's comment number four when sorted by most upvotes. The screenshot attached has it highlighted, which is why it's showing up first.