i dont wish i was normaler i wish everybody else was autisticer <3

princesses of the whole entire world

Some people really speak about sexual abuse like it’s a mythical thing we’ve heard of but never actually happens like okay bud

watched the pitt. here is my contribution. santos and langdon my absolutely beloved workplace enemies who refuse to acknowledge they are the same person in slightly different fonts

CLAUDIA in Interview with the Vampire || The Thing That Lay Still

Legal scholar Robin West calls consensual but unwanted sex a personal, social, and political problem for women everywhere, from college campuses to long-term marriages. The resulting condition—that is, what happens to a woman after repeated engagement in this kind of sex—she calls consensual sexual dysphoria. Dysphoria means a state of unease or generalized dissatisfaction with life. In West’s analysis, unwanted, unpleasurable sex undermines a woman’s dignity, her sense of self-worth, her subjective happiness, and her ability to assert her equality. West’s work is relatively new. In her writing, she notes the limited empirical research available on the subject. She couches her conclusions in words like “it’s likely,” “it must be,” or “it’s hard to imagine.” For example: “It is simply hard to imagine a healthy sense of one’s own agency either developing or being sustained over the course of an adult life in which a woman as a matter of identity and habit bends her will regarding her own body for the sake of another’s physical pleasure.” I’ve discussed the issue with female friends—all of them fierce, funny, smart, independent women—and yet nearly without exception we’ve all done it. Once a year, once a month, or every goddamn night. We grin and bear sex that we do not want and do not enjoy. We follow a tradition laid down (literally) centuries ago by women without our legal rights, education, or consciousness. Why? We do it to keep the peace.

— "Allergic," Tara Conklin. In Wanting: Women Writing About Desire.

Controversial take but I think the issue is men don’t think they need to build trust with women just because they’ve never done anything egregious to them, while I think that men should all expect to have to put in the work to earn women’s trust. Like I’ll agree any day that maybe there’s a caricatured quality to the “‘I hate men’ crowd,” as men like to call it, but so often I find even well intentioned guys dogging on how low of an opinion women have on men as a collective when it’s like… how would you substantially argue that that inherent distrust hasn’t been earned many times over

how it feels to rate a critically acclaimed book written by a man 1 star

it never sits well with me when people associate beauty with morality like i remember when i was in my early 20s and my friends would compliment each other like “that’s what happens when you’re not racist—you get a banging body” or “you can tell she’s homophobic because of her ugly mug” like it’s never felt right to me. beauty as a reward or a virtue feels so bizarre to me. ugliness as a punishment feels so bizarre to me. it all feels like 19th century phrenology and physiognomy