you tell a skinny person that fat people get bodyshamed and they conjure up this fantasy world where everybody around them is an eighteenth century vaguely european grandmother telling them they need to put some meat on their bones or they won’t survive the winter
debating if it would be funnier to have a bumper sticker saying “my other ride is a [exact make and model of the car the sticker is on]” or “my other ride is a [equally shitty but different car]”
2008 Honda Civic with the bumper sticker “My other ride is a 2007 Honda Civic”
AAAA IM SCARED THATS MY TIKTOK I DID NOT EXPECT TO SEE IT ON TUMBLR
(Thank you tho I’m glad you liked it)
The discussion in the comments was a breath of fresh air! I really enjoyed it
This is not a new concept in feminism. It’s called “benevolent sexism” and discourse around it has been happening since the late 1990’s and perhaps even earlier with different terminology.
There is quite a lot of research on it and the research shows that while men who harbor benevolent sexist beliefs are less likely to sexually assault women, among other things, these men are also more likely to engage in victim blaming, and more likely to negatively judge women for having sex before marriage, relative to men who do not believe in benevolent sexism. Also, benevolent sexism has been shown to harm women in the workplace. And it has been shown to discourage women from seeking help in academic environments.
So while it looks like women are “benefitting” from these attitudes, and they do in some direct, more superficial ways, they are also harmed in some deeper ways.
Furthermore, research has shown that a lot of women find men showing benevolent sexism more attractive as partners, which is dangerous because these men are still likely to hurt women, they are just more likely to do it in ways that are indirect and less likely to be recognized as such, especially in socially-conservative subcultures.
