Actually this time probably not. The writing was on the wall way before Reagan became president, and the steel mill closed in November 1981, barely ten months into his president.
He was governor of California during that “writing on the wall” period. He was the one writing. It was his wall.
reminder to all 14-19 year olds girls. that grown man does not like you. you are a victim
He doesn’t like you, he likes your naivety and willingness to put up with shit most women his age probably won’t
“you’re mature for your age” “you’re so special” “you’re so different from other girls” pls run in the other direction!
I don’t actually care if someone thinks this is derailing because it’s important.
This applies to all genders on both sides. Teen boys often get left out of these posts, but they are also preyed upon like this, by men and women and also people who are neither because no one is incapable of being a predator. This post shouldn’t be gendered. You can say it happens to girls more, and it could be true. But it happens to boys and they are less likely to talk about it when they get hurt. Less likely to get support if they do, especially if the older person was a woman. I don’t think we have an accurate statistic on how often it happens to boys because of this.
But regardless. Don’t you think they should be told how to stay safe too?
One of my coworkers told me about a good friend of his, a guy that ‘had a thing’ with an older woman in her mid-twenties that started when he was about fifteen. He talked about how their friend group thought it was cool, how they were a little jealous of him. She was pretty and interested, which is any fifteen year old boy’s dream.
The older they got, though, the weirder it got. She got pregnant by this kid when he was still seventeen. Thankfully he went to the authorities and got custody of the baby when he was an adult, but my coworker kind of laughed it off as kids being stupid. I think he thought I would just dismiss it, which is heartbreaking.
I asked him if it would have been okay if it was a fifteen year old female friend and a twenty five year old guy. He immediately replied that it would NOT have been okay, he and his friends would have beaten the guy up.
The dissonance is real, guys. There’s a kid who was groomed at fifteen and a single dad at nineteen because his friends and family only gave this message to girls. This message matters to everyone- no matter your gender, no matter the gender of the other person- if you are a child and an adult is ‘interested’ in you, RUN AWAY. They don’t have your best interests at heart, and that’s not love at all.
i just think that, most of the time, you really do need to teach people how to love you. and equally, you need to be taught how to love others. this can feel scary and hard and even like a failure, especially if you’re approaching a relationship with trauma - shouldn’t it be easy to love me? yeah ofc. but love is an act of translation between people across experience, geography, culture, memory. it’s constant, purposeful translation. and though it can be hard, there is real joy to be found in the teaching and learning of love.
There are so many reasons to be a biologist, and one of them is there are at least 150 different species of deep-sea carnivorous sponges that use microscopic hooks to capture their prey and then GROW A NEW STOMACH that MIGRATES to where the prey is hooked in order to digest it, which they do over the course of days until the animal’s (usually a crustacean) soft tissue is entirely broken down for nutrients and all that is left is the shell.
May I say one more time that they GROW AND MIGRATE A NEW STOMACH
Studying biology is an acid trip of WAIT IS THAT REAL and OMG IT IS REAL THAT IS SO FUCKING COOL
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