The Daydream Dweller

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    I started using Head and Shoulders ten years ago for itchy scalp and dandruff, and then for ten years I have not had itchy scalp and dandruff, so I thought “why do I still buy shampoo to combat itchy scalp and dandruff when I do not have itchy scalp and dandruff,” so I stopped buying the shampoo for itchy scalp and dandruff and can you guess I have now? Can you predict what currently afflicts me? It’s alright if you can’t because apparently I fuckin couldn’t either

    Cutting something out of your life because you think you don’t need it any more only to realize that it was in fact working as intended and preventing a problem that will return should you stop doing this is a good experiment to run periodically with something small like dandruff shampoo, lest you start to think it would be a good idea to do this with like let’s say public health and the social safety net and vaccines

    I had a liver transplant when I was 14 and like six months later I was chatting with my surgeon and he said “there’s gonna come a time, probably when you’re a teenager, where you’re gonna think, ‘I feel great, why am I still taking all this medication? I haven’t needed it in years.’ and you’re gonna want to stop taking all this medication. Guess what’s gonna happen then? You’re gonna go into rejection and your liver is gonna start failing, and you’re gonna be dying again, and we’re gonna have to find you another liver. So don’t do that.” And I said “why the fuck would anyone do that?” and he said “people are stupid.”

    every once in a while when I get annoyed by a pharmacy or don’t wanna get out of bed to do my drugs I think “ugh, this is dumb, why do I do this?” and that conversation slams into me like a truck and I remember that I am, in fact, stupid

    #you are not immune to the recency bias(via@arrows-for-pens)

    Every person on earth needs to read this post. It will make people’s lives a lot better and lessen the crises everyone faces in day-to-day lives.

    I reblog this every time I see it because I am not immune to the recency bias

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    The honestly surprising thing here imo is that even for *very* rich people apparently unbridled capitalism that makes them as rich as possible apparently doesn’t buy them the same satisfaction as it can in places with less inequality.

    You’d think (and every second temporarily embarrassed millionaire will argue) that if you can command a private limo, public transport doesn’t matter. But apparently the systems that result in good public transport also result in amazing holidays for people so rich they wouldn’t even consider using it.

    If everyone can afford a nice coffee in the morning, there’s a cute little cafe every 100 feet to serve it to them; if there’s only 100 people in town that can afford that habit they’re all going to have to hop into their swanky limos and haul their groggy asses to wherever the exclusive Coffee Club is located to get their fix.

    If there’s no public transit or bike infrastructure, your swanky limo is stuck in traffic behind 120 beat up Honda Civics.

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    If there’s workers rights and public healthcare the barista there wants to have a nice little chat with every customer, because that’s the human default way of greeting people in the morning. If there’s not they straight up don’t have the spoons and you get the dead-eyed Gen-X Millenial Gen-Z stare while you order.

    No amount of individual expenditure will buy you what living in a healthy society gives.

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    this passes peer review harder than anything has ever passed peer review in the history of peer review

    when my littlest brother was a toddler he was apparently under the impression that you could get meat out of an animal without killing it in the same way you could get milk or eggs.

    he expressed this as “the farmer milks the cow and then he porks the pig”

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    my body is a machine that turns normal situations into psychological horror

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  • redstonedust:

    love when a character is a scientist and their speciality is science and they do science in a science lab. no specifics no clear goals no clue where their funding comes from. dont even worry about it. science.

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    Shaved himb👍

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    Me for the last 15 years: Starting a timer when you have to wait for something or stand in line can be helpful, because no matter how impatient you feel you can check the timer and remind yourself it has not been several eternities and has in fact only been five minutes.

    Me setting a timer when I got to bag claim just now: I’m so clever! I will now be reminded that it’s only been five minutes and bag claim usually takes about twenty!

    Me looking at the timer thoughtfully: …another Very Neurotypical Moment With Sam, it appears.

    FTR it was 17 minutes from “arriving at the bag claim” to claiming my bag, so right on time.

    Someone tagged this post “#it’s all fun n games until baggage check takes over an hour” which is 100% legit; a common sentiment in notes is that sometimes you don’t want to know how long something has taken. But that is one of the reasons I started doing the stopwatch thing in the first place!

    On the one hand, timing something is about reminding myself “No, it’s only been five minutes,” but it is ALSO about knowing when something is taking way longer than it should.

    If I’m put into an exam room in a doctor’s office, I start a timer. Because I have been forgotten about in a doctor’s office before, I get nervous that I’ll just be sat in there forever, and the timer tells me “No, they haven’t forgotten you, it’s only been 10 minutes.” But it also tells me if I have been there longer than appropriate (generally more than 40 minutes) so that I know when it’s justifiable to flag down a nurse to find out what’s going on.

    At bag claim, because I know it usually takes about 20 minutes to get my bag, I don’t get concerned until the timer passes the 20 minute mark without any bags appearing. At that point I know I need to take off my headphones and start paying attention – looking at signage, maybe asking someone if I’m at the right carousel. Maybe don’t worry yet, but start double-checking. Perhaps the delay is unavoidable and it’ll just be an hour, but at least, having asked, I KNOW it’ll be an hour, and the timer will tell me when the hour is past and I should maybe check in again.

    Now, if the bags do start showing up before 20 minutes but my bag hasn’t shown up by the 40 minute mark, I know that again it’s time to put my head on a swivel, and at the 50 minute mark it’s time to go speak to someone in the baggage claim office. This has more than once helped me locate my bag when it’s accidentally been sent to the wrong part of the airport. There is no point at which, without the timer, I would go “man this is taking a long time” and then actually go ask, because I wouldn’t actually know how long it had been.

    The timer both prevents me from worrying before I need to and tells me when to start worrying – essentially, because I’m both perpetually impatient and also infinitely patient, I’ve outsourced my patience to a stopwatch. And because I time a lot of things, I now know the average time a lot of things take, which helps me calibrate my concerns appropriately. Ten minutes is a long time to wait for a burger from McDonalds, but it’s actually on the short end of the time it takes to get a burger from Shake Shack. It’s not a long time to be on hold with the HR office of my old employer, but it’s longer than I’d usually be on hold with my pharmacy. Et cetera.

    I know I say this all the time but I still find it hilarious that I didn’t know I had ADHD until I was forty years old.

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    just want to add that I’ve started timing myself doing everyday chores and tasks and having a more realistic, personalized idea of how long things take has helped a lot with my time blindness.

    I only just started, and it’s not yet habitual, so there’s only a small bit of info, but it’s already made it easier to avoid rushing or getting stuck in waiting mode because it takes out a lot of the guesswork.

    And it lets me have grace for myself when something is really taking it out of me. I’m right, this *is* taking forever and it isn’t usually this hard, so what’s going on? Do I need to rest? Eat? Did I forget my meds? Am I overwhelmed? Etc.


    I feel like a scientist gathering and applying data.

    Showers on typical days only take “about ten minutes” (me, 2025), therefore, I CAN shower before my appointment that’s two hours away.

    Contrary to popular belief, doing a quick tidy takes “less than half an hour” (me, 2026) and will not take the better part of a day. I don’t need to dread or put it off because I can start a 20min episode and I’ll be done before the credits roll.

    The proposed estimate of “10-30 miserable minutes in the cold when the warm blankets are right there” (time blindness and depression, 2024), is erroneous, and based on pre-medicated data. As tempting as it is to go straight back to bed after peeing, my research shows that brushing teeth, including “prep and cleanup,” rarely takes more than four minutes and may even improve morale and momentum when getting up for the day.

    This is awesome and hey guess what: you ARE a scientist gathering and applying data!

    I’m super proud of you and everyone who is working to keep their lives together in the face of disability and the general horrors of the world right now. Keep up the great work! And if things slip a little that’s ok too. None of us are perfect. Just keep taking notes…for SCIENCE!

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    Ink drawing of a dragon eating a bouquet of flowersALT

    Thank you~♪

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