Are they lovers? Worse. They never got to be.

i truly think that this recent trend of “if you relate to a post about a different identity than your own you are ~derailing~ and taking over the conversation” is incredibly harmful.

i recently experienced some pretty severe transphobic abuse in my workplace (children’s home) that included having food thrown at me, being called slurs, being told i was a pervert because i am trans. one of the managers talked with me afterwards and shared that he had had a similar experience as an Asian man. this wasn’t him derailing my experience, or talking over me, or making things about himself. he was communicating “hey, i know how it feels and how much it sucks. you’re not alone.”

THAT is what solidarity IS. i don’t know what it’s like to be Asian, he doesnt know what it’s like to be trans, but we both had a similar experience and we were able to turn a horrible experience into an opportunity for bonding and comfort.

stop looking at people’s attempts as solidarity as an attack. and hey, you never know - you could find an opportunity to grow closer to other people.

"where are all the older transmascs and trans men?"

dead or detransitioned.

they were killed by their families. by their partners. by random strangers.

they killed themselves because they weren't treated with respect.

they never got out of the closet because they live in a part of the world where people seen as women don't have any autonomy.

they detransitioned because they had no support, because they were pushed out of community and safe queer spaces.

they're so stealth nobody in their lives knows they're trans, because they get treated with less respect when people know.

where are our transmasc elders? the community failed them, and now they're an endangered population.

"mike was the first person to treat el with kindness and like a human being"

put some respect on his fucking name please

There's a concerning amount of people that only view trans men as men when they want to justify their mistreatment and harassment of us. We're men when they need an excuse to justify their actions but we're also icky bitchy theyfabs when we call people out for their mistreatment towards us

I love how the moment you figure out you're a trans man your past of living like a girl is instantly erased and you immidietly get given male privilage. Or that's how Tumblr tells me it works anyway

people have this tendency to believe that fandom discourse exists because people in fandoms are Stupid Nerdy Losers, but in fact fandom discourse exists because anytime you get a group of more than 100 people together, they will start creating interpersonal bullshit. fandom is not special in this regard

it’s bullshit that being under this much stress has yet to awaken my latent psychic abilities

do not go gentle into that good night

be a bit of a bitch about it

can't in good conscience leave this out

[image description: screencap of a tumblr tag which says "#bitch! bitch against the dying of the light"]

absolutely hate it when I wake up tired like what the fuck did I lie unconscious for

dry humping in its specificity as a term implies the existence of wet humping

not my best work

You are not staying in the tags

"I love you but you're doing wrong in a way I cannot condone" and "I hate you but you're being wronged in a way I cannot stomach" are top tier and I need more of them.

“it’s not that deep” it’s not that shallow. now what

the 3 rules of enjoying Any fandom are 1. follow everyone who you find funny 2. block everyone who you find annoying 3. when you like someone's art tell them

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happy anniversary to the great molasses flood