sad part about sex being a taboo topic is that sometimes really funny things happen during sex or related to sex or at weird sex clubs and you cant tell the story to like 90% of people in your life because of the sex context. the contsext. do you ever wonder how many people have funny sex stories theyre just sitting on. its tragic.

Same for kink regardless of if there was sex involved tbh. Basically the only times I get to talk about things like “harmonica impact play” or “falling down a mountain during a sub hunt”, etc. is on the internet, in kink clubs, or with other trans girls regardless of how objectively hilarious any individual event was.

was literally having this conversation yesterday about how socially acceptable topics are always just the most inane and boring shit, like one of the guys in the group is in the process of building a padded cell for asylum play and management have decreed that he's not allowed to talk about this thing that brings him joy because it's taboo; it's tragic, and it minimises us as people

We used to be less prude about this on Tumblr and I really think we should reclaim the ground, here.

Someone start a funny sex story post and link me.

2026 big year for the political amnesiac community or else the "2016 was the worst year of my fucking life" community

Y'all are getting nostalgic for pokemon go to the polls ? I was 12 and wanted to kill myself

It's not even the kind of cutesy 2010s #aesthetic with the indie pop and whatever. 2016 had the 2016 presidential debates & like, twenty one pilots

If this continues into late-2010s nostalgia I'm going to start taking hostages. We are not doing nostalgia for the first trump presidency. "Wah wah pre-covid" it still wasn't good

"Women are warm and nurturing and they have powerful intuitions!" is benevolent sexism. Benevolent sexism upholds misogyny by praising women for things women are "supposed" to be good at and romanticizing roles women are "supposed" to play under a patriarchal system.

Also, like, benevolent sexist stereotypes are definitely used to make those who don't fit them feel like failures as women (especially queer women/trans women/woc/neurodivergent women/etc).

And on the flip side, they're also used to deny women who are skilled at those things credit for their accomplishments. It's easy for people to dismiss an excellent childcare worker when her "~magical gender intuition makes her naturally good at it~".

I don’t care if you make fun of Catholicism as long as it’s accurate! The best humour has its roots in the truth.

“You can be mean to me but there are RULES about it” is the most Catholic thing I’ve ever seen.

I walked into that one

i just remembered hal trying to kiss jake scene. fuck everything. how can you not see this as a vristav parallel. be a man and kiss me you idiot

so deeply embarrassing to be kissed and received with hesitation when you're putting on your max charm in the only field you have. vriska was exploited by the narrative both sexually and emotionally, hal is just a living brain. oh you dont think im witty and charming? so you think i should die? do you think i should blow up and die? i think you need to step back from the game/keyboard... oh wait you can't. idiot.

We laugh at how The Art of War is basically just, "An army can't fight if the soldiers aren't eating," but I'm reading this document about conservation of ancient yew trees and it legitimately says, "You should never fill the center of a hollow yew with concrete," so I think that probably making blatantly obvious statements is just the bane of being a specialist in anything

All of this is going to feel very familiar to anyone who’s blogged about racism in fandom.

“White fragility functions as a form of bullying: ‘I am going to make it so miserable for you to confront me — no matter how diplomatically you try to do so — that you will simply back off, give up, and never raise the issue again.’ White fragility keeps people of color in line and “in their place.” In this way, it is a powerful form of white racial control. Social power is not fixed; it is constantly challenged and needs to be maintained.”

Blogged about racism in general, really.

https://awesomelyluvvie.com/2018/04/weaponizing-white-women-tears.html

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/may/08/how-white-women-use-strategic-tears-to-avoid-accountability

https://files.eric.ed.gov/fulltext/EJ899418.pdf

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/WoundedGazelleGambit

no offence but i think a lot of us me included don’t actually want romantic love as badly as we think and really are just lonely and crave a closeness and intimacy that feels out of reach in friendships because of society’s emphasis on marriage and the nuclear family so we project that into the never ending search for a perfect love and a soulmate when really we all just want to mean something to someone

i like sailing myths and superstitions because most of them can be boiled down to "if the ocean doesn't like you it will chew you up and spit out your bones. and if it really loves you it will swallow you whole and keep you forever. good luck 👍"

best use of the underwater filter on this app

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Mob appreciation moment. I really really like that, while Mob is not speaking to Reigen during the separation arc, it’s not because Mob is mad.

That would have been the easiest way to write it for sure. Dimple even presents it this way. Reigen absolutely did say some foot-in-mouth terrible things claiming that Mob’s friends are using him and Mob can only rely on Reigen.

And while Mob absolutely took issue with the accusation that his friends are using him, the words that really got to him were Reigen going “you gotta grow up for crying out loud”

Mob is someone who thinks deeply about the things people says to him, and he’s someone who wants to put in the genuine effort to live his life.

Mob’s take-away from this wasn’t “I’m mad at Reigen.” His take-away was “I tend to just follow what Reigen says because it’s easy and works out. But I think to grow up and live my own life, I need to start making my own decisions and figuring out what I want.”

This arc could so easily have been about a petty squabble or a classic “your business won’t last a day without me!” style bet. But Mob isn’t that type of character.

He got told to grow up and he decided to take it to heart.

I'm back here to sing the praises of how the arc ends.

Because on the other side of this, Reigen's understanding of his mistake was not just "What I said to Mob was mean." That was part of it, but the more important part of his realization is what Mob has been doing things to grow and change and improve himself and Reigen had... at some point... stagnated. Reigen used to be someone who wanted to challenge himself and be somebody, but he'd gotten complacent, and apathetic, and the things he said to Mob were trying to drag Mob down with him. And that was the true wrongness of his actions.

Reigen's apology isn't "Sorry I was mean" or "Hey I realized I can't do this without you", which all, again, would have been the easy way to do the type of arc where the main characters get into an argument.

Instead Reigen is being held for execution at the altar of public opinion, and instead of answering the question the media is drilling him with, he looks at the camera and says, "You've really grown up."

Which hits me so hard because it is, also, total permission for Mob to just move on, by my read. It's an "I get why you don't need me anyone, and you should be proud of yourself." statement. It's an implicit apology for telling Mob to grow up before. Because Mob has done that, more than Reigen perhaps, and Reigen has made the decision to not drag Mob down anymore.

Mob intervenes here, because his goal was never really about abandoning Reigen. It was just about Mob wanting to take some time to sort his own desires out. And Reigen has made it clear he supports Mob's decision.

And it's natural that he should, because Mob's master Arataka Reigen is a good person.

Remember that if you want to do more of something, you have to do less of something else. It's that time of year where people set goals for the new year and they have plans and hopes and it's always focusing on what they want to do more of. More studying, more exercise, more crafting, more socialising, more making things from scratch. Okay, great. What are you going to do less of in order to have the time and energy to do more of those things you really want to do?

And if your answer to this is "less doomscrolling" or "less bedrotting" then great, but please think about why you're doing those things. No one's doomscrolling or bedrotting because they don't have things they'd rather be doing. Actually, I'm willing to bet you have a lot of things you'd rather be doing and you spend your life internally screaming at yourself to do literally any one of the many things you want to be doing instead, but you don't have the energy for them all and you can't work out how to prioritize them, so doomscrolling spares you from making that decision. Or perhaps you're burned out from taking on too many projects and you need to rest your brain, so you lie in bed because you don't even have the energy to get started anymore.

This is going to be a really hard pill to swallow, but the truth is you might not be able to balance all your hobbies and all your projects the way you'd like. If you want to finish writing that book, you might have to reduce your daily drawing habit to a couple of times a week. If you want to do yoga every morning, you might have to accept not cooking from scratch as often. If you want to spend more time with your family, you might have to cut down on your yearly reading goal. I'm not saying give up on your hobbies; I'm be realistic with your time and your energy and be kind to yourself. Stop expecting yourself to do more and do better every single year. You don't have to constantly be growing upwards and reaching for the stars; you can be content with where you are, or even cut parts of yourself back to make space for other things in your life to bloom.

Think about what your priorities are and make peace with doing less of other things. Less is okay. Less is not failing. Less is self care.

flicking back through my procreate library what the fuck was this

Things to look for in this:

I really wish people would understand that there is a vast gulf of cultural difference between “nomadic ethnic groups” and “ethnic groups which are not and have never been nomadic, but which were repeatedly violently expelled”

The Saami people are nomadic. The Buryats are nomadic. Uyghurs are not. Jews are not. Many Native American groups, including the Cherokee, Chickasaw, Choctaw, and Creek are not. This distinction may seem small and academic but it is absolutely vital to understanding modern day conflicts involving these groups.

Some cultures are itinerant, with physical movement from place to place as an inherent part of their identity. Some cultures were violently displaced, with a cultural identity that carries the scars of being forced to relocate, against their will. It is victim blaming of the highest order to treat the second type as though it is the first.

Liberals will never ever ever ever understand this, but propaganda can be a good thing. The entire reason public health has collapsed across the world is because we have been convinced it's immoral to publish things telling people that good things are good and help them.

"Propaganda is unnecessary because the results speak for themselves," the results do not speak for themselves if nobody knows the results happened. If you grew up in a world that does not have polio anymore it makes no sense to begin believing polio could come back. You have to be told about it. Propaganda in favor of medical science is a form of education. This applies to political ideology too, btw

I'm obsessed with the Bath & Body Works subreddit because there's only three types of posts and it's:

1.) Women in their fifties having the epiphany that capitalism and/or marketing is evil, but like. They don't realize that that's how capitalism and marketing as a whole are designed to work; they think that this is a unique type of evil that Bath & Body Works has invented. They'll be like, "It's sick and twisted that they just keep releasing new products that are inferior quality versions of their old products with a different label and then making them seasonal items so that people feel pressured to buy them before they can really think about it because they're worried they'll miss out!!! This should be illegal!!!" You're telling me, girl. You're gonna be soooooo mad when you find out about. The whole world.

2.) Level 1-2 Hoarders in denial showing off their collections of hundreds of candles and body sprays and lotions and then frothing at the mouth in the comments section when people offer support resources for hoarding and shopping addictions.

3.) The world's most iconic autistic women with a vintage Bath & Body Works special interest who don't realize they're autistic women with a vintage Bath & Body Works special interest trying to convince themselves that the lotion they thrifted from Goodwill that expired in 2002 isn't rancid, it's "macerated".

Actually, making this rebloggable only to add that there's a fourth type of post which is people posting pictures of horrifying fires that their candles caused and being like, "This is the sixth time my candle has almost cost me my home. What should I do? I am NOT going to get rid of it. It's a discontinued scent," and everybody being like, "Oh my god??? I LOVE that one, do NOT throw it away. Just get a candle warmer."