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Sometimes in fics, Steve is shown to be really struggling with Bucky's memory loss and pushing him to remember things, or just being visibly sad and disappointed when he doesn't.
But I was just thinking that we have seen Steve react to someone who doesn't remember him. When Peggy, at the time the only person who know him in the past, forgets he had survived and she knew him in modern day, he reacts really well.
Of course, you can tell his heart is breaking. But to Peggy he is kind, gentle, and reassuring. He doesn't try to drag her into memories she doesn't have. He doesn't say he's been alive for two years. He just sits with her and comforts her as she grieves what to her is a heartbreaking reunion.
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Anyway, I think Steve would be understanding and move at Bucky’s pace. Of course there would be grief on both sides, amd Bucky might feel bad about that. But Steve would never want him to feel bad about it, and he would be doing his best to manage that for Bucky's benefit.
That is such a good point, and one I hadn't thought about! Steve already has experience dealing with a loved one with memory loss. And as you said, he handles it really well. It makes total sense that he would be just as understanding and compassionate towards Bucky!
Excellent points. I've always disliked in fics when Steve is a selfish jerk who just "wants his friend back", as if Steve hadn't spent half his life in a hospital, as if he wouldn't understand what it is to heal from a tremendous trauma, as if he himself hasn't been changed by everything that's happened to him. He would absolutely put Bucky's wellbeing first and would be stupid gentle with him. He'd never expect him to be the same as when they were teenagers, or even during WWII. He's way more caring than that.
#10000% i agree#i would even argue that bucky would probably feel more guilt in not being the bucky steve remembers#and steve would have to be the one to gently remind bucky that STEVE isnt even the same anymore#even if they never fell in the ice - that war changed them irrevocably#and steve made a promise to bucky#to be there for him regardless of whatever bullshit life threw at him#IM WITH YOU TILL THE END OF THE LINE#like what other declaration of love could that be???#thats a vow right there#stevebucky via dessvelado
#and this is steve handling it for - as far as we know - the very first time and doing it with aplomb#it's also weird and not-canonically-supported#to suggest that steve would A) have lilved through a war and been SO INSANELY CHANGED himself#and B) know veterans who have also lived thru war and been changed by it#but somehow NOT allow bucky to be changed by his experiences#and also in canon steve has only brought up the past once#to crack a joke about it... and bucky was fine with it#so this idea of steve as some controlling idiot#guilt-tripping a reluctant bucky into pretending to be just like his old self?#sorry but that's a fanon you made up#that's not supported by canon via amarriageoftrueminds
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