unfortunately i do think i am in fact doomed forever but at least there’s movies and music and idk probably some other things too

I’ve been thinking about the way, when you walk down a crowded aisle, people pull in their legs to let you by. Or how strangers still say “bless you” when someone sneezes, a leftover from the Bubonic plague. “Don’t die,” we are saying. And sometimes, when you spill lemons from your grocery bag, someone else will help you pick them up. Mostly, we don’t want to harm each other. We want to be handed our cup of coffee hot, and to say thank you to to the person holding it. To smile at them and for them to smile back. For the waitress to call us honey when she sets down the bowl of clam chowder, and for the driver in the red pick-up to let us pass. We have so little of each other, now. So far from tribe and fire. Only these brief moments of exchange. What if they are the true dwelling of the holy, these fleeting temples we make together when we say, “Here, have my seat,” “Go ahead - you first,” “I like your hat.”

- Danusha Laméris, “Small Kindnesses" 

One of my favorite things about moving into my own apartment has been just autism/adhd proofing the fuck out of the place. I can accommodate my needs as much as I want to and it’s a type of freedom every neurodivergent person should experience

Would you still like me if i made a grave mistake right in front of you

Not only did mama raise a quitter, but she also raised a procrastinator, people-pleaser, doormat, coward, and liar, and you can’t put a price on that

i am not well understood. which is also my fault

Desire (ferocity)

"i would kill a pedophile to protect my child" ok but would you teach your child how to say no? even to adults? even to adults you like? would you teach your child the words "penis" and "vulva" and then use them? would you let them ask questions about their body? would you answer them honestly? would you learn how to cope with your feelings when you talk about human bodies, so they don't feel ashamed? would you set a positive example for how you talk about your body? would you tell your child they don't have to hug or kiss anyone? would you tell your family the same? would you stand by them when they refuse to hug someone? even someone you know has never done anything to hurt them? would you let your child avoid food they don't like? would you let you child avoid people they don't like? would you believe them? would you sit in the discomfort of not knowing all the answers and not take it out on them? would you love your child the same if someone did hurt them? would you make them feel valued just as they are? would you let them talk to doctors or nurses in private? would you let them express their feelings? would you show interest in their life? would you let your child say no to you? would you help your child feel safe coming to you when they make a mistake? would you apologize to your child? would you believe them? would you put aside your anger to focus on what would make your child feel safe and loved? would you put your ego aside for your child? would you take your child's concerns seriously? would you listen to your child? would you believe them?

and if you're telling yourself yes you would, importantly: do they know that?

RULES OF BEING ALIVE

#1 NEVER SHOW WEAKNESS #2 NEVER LET YOUR GUARD DOWN #3 NEVER NEED ANYTHING #4 NEVER WANT ANYTHING #5 ALWAYS BE AFRAID

hate when u agree with the sentiment of a post but not the condescending tone . Why dont we do a cool prank that's called being kind for no reason and speaking respectfully Even on the internet

theyre making me the mayor of executive dysfunction land

well for starters im gonna have a bunch of goals that could conceivably be accomplished, burn myself out due to a lack of discipline and inconsistent motivation, and ultimately get nothing done while feeling bad about it. no more questions.

the concept of being out of someone else’s league in friendship or love is so unnerving… the whole point of forging connection between another soul is to be forgiving of differences and curious about the Other, not to look for yourself in others… leagues aren’t real and everyone is worthy of someone else’s interest, even if no one is entitled to someone else’s interest. that’s how it really is without the false illusion of any concept of worthiness getting in the way

The spirit is absent and the flesh is too. #imnothing

can not overstate that the reason hand-tailored items were so common 100 years ago is because every family had a dedicated home tailor called a "wife" who did 100% of the domestic labor do NOT romanticize a pre-readymade clothing life unless you're willing to go to bat for every individual having a secondary part time job as a tailor

it's correct to observe that clothing quality has gone on a downward trend and it's correct to say that clothing was higher quality before the advent of ready-made clothing, you're right to criticize ready-made fast fashion clothing but ready-made or modernity themselves are not the issue.

the problem with the wastefulness of the modern fashion industry will always be capitalist imperialism, the demand for people in the imperial core to have luxury trendy goods for abysmal prices at the cost of dehumanizing labor conditions, and the fatphobia that perpetuates a lack of size inclusivity. having perfectly tailored and constantly adjusted clothing is a luxury that was maintained through a slave labor force picking all our cotton and relegating 50% of the population to feminized domestic labor. you do not have the god-given right to be fashionable at all cost.

person who always thinks something bad will happen no matter what: ok but what if something bad really happens